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Lady bulge...

30 replies

Whiskeyqueen · 22/08/2017 11:19

Not technically an aibu but I need some help, I've been endlessly googling but with no luck and even though I'm no prude I don't fancy discussing this with friends that I actually have to see again..I'll try keep it lighthearted because if I didn't laugh I'd cry.
I have what I can only describe at fanny fat. I've recently lost quite a bit of weight after having 4th dc and it's really noticeable now. I can't wear a maxi dress or tight skirt without worrying that people will notice a.. ahem.. buldge.
I have a good sex life with OH but the more weight I loose the more noticeable it is and the more self conscious I'm becoming.
I don't even know what I'm expecting by posting this, maybe just to not feel like a freak anymore? Anyone else have something similar and fancy having a pity party with me?
Aibu to search for some probably earth shattering expensive surgery? Or apply for embarrassing bodies and flash my fanny pack to the entire country just to get it free? Or deal with it and just never have sex again..

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KingJoffreysRestingCuntface · 22/08/2017 11:20

They had this exact thing on Embarrassing Bodies.

Fat pubis. Think surgery was the only answer.

Namethecat · 22/08/2017 11:34

You can get an uplift. Liposuction is another option but if you also have excess skin you would just have a slimmer,saggy fanny. Also quite a few people who have tummy tucks then go on to have a pubis uplift as it makes that area stand out more ( no pun intended ) Look at before /afters online to get the gist. I should imagine you'd be spending a good few grand to resolve.

SomeOtherFuckers · 22/08/2017 12:01

FUPA
I think only surgery works

Mushroomburger17 · 22/08/2017 12:06

Just adjust your wardrobe. It might change in a couple of years.

dinosaursandtea · 22/08/2017 12:08

Oh god, I have one. I wouldn't consider surgery - it may well shift on its own, and well cut clothes will hide or minimise it. Don't be embarrassed - there's nothing wrong with it!

VestalVirgin · 22/08/2017 12:09

Buy tight underpants to avoid the problem of it showing when you wear tight skirts. The kind of thing that's sold for pressing your belly flatter should solve this, too.

I'd not get surgery, not on that part of the body. Much too risky! Also, only one person sees it, anyway!

Bodies are weird. As long as it is not a medical problem, one is generally better advised to try and get used to it.

liz70 · 22/08/2017 12:13

A bulbous mons veneris is God's way of telling you that you're too old to dress like a trollop any more. I'm afraid it's elasticated waist, pleated, flowery skirts from now on.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 22/08/2017 12:14

Oh, go on... you mean you don't want to flash at Dr Christian?

BoffinMum · 22/08/2017 12:17

TBH of all the things on the planet I can't be bothered to be worried about, one is the apparent fatness of my fanny. That is presumably what Spanx are for.

highinthesky · 22/08/2017 12:19

A fleshy mons pubis is a fact of life for some, same as a fat arse or flabby tum. You can choose how you dress: whether you would like to downplay it or accentuate it.

If however you lost the weight through NHS-funded bariatric surgery and have kept it off for 2 years, you may be funded for surgery to remove any excess skin. I don't get that impression from your OP, so if you are really bothered about it then you will have to fund surgery from spot fat reduction yourself. Just make sure you reach your target weigght before you have surgery.

MrsOverTheRoad · 22/08/2017 12:20

Surely maxi dresses don't showcase your fanny? Confused

thegirlupnorth · 22/08/2017 12:20

Wear pants with firm support, they help.

AbsentmindedWoman · 22/08/2017 12:22

I can't visualize this, where is the fat coming from? How would an uplift help as others suggested - where would it be lifted to ?

Miserylovescompany2 · 22/08/2017 12:23

I watched that episode of embarrassing bodies - the lady had surgery.

I'd make an appointment with your GP and be prepared to explain how it's impacting on your life/mood.

Could going private be an option?

liz70 · 22/08/2017 12:23

Just flashing my fanny pack to everyone. As you do.

Neutrogena · 22/08/2017 12:34

It's an outward display of fertility (like big breasts) and men go wild for it. Keep it and adore it you lucky thing.

Stormwhale · 22/08/2017 12:36

I used to be 13+ stone. I lost weight and am currently just over 9 stone. If I am closer to 10 stone I have this. From 9 and a half downwards it disappears. It may well go as you continue to lose weight.

crabbyoldbat · 22/08/2017 12:37

Why would you need to do anything about this? Everyone is different, its all natural variation. And anyway, its under a nice growth of hair (and some people have thicker/curlier hair than others, so that'll provide different thickness of padding, too). Leave it alone. At most wear spanx if you're self-conscious about it.

Sheesh

QuimReaper · 22/08/2017 12:39

I've just watched some of that Embarrassing Bodies clip. My goodness. I'm glad she's happy with the results, but I can't imagine being more mortified of having the mons pubis situation than I would be by going on television to discuss it.

Then again, I think that constantly about what people go on that show with. If I'd been a TV exec I'd have shot the pitch down with the blindingly obvious objection that if people are embarrassed by some medical condition, the last thing they'll do is go on national TV about it. Shows what I know...

Wallywobbles · 22/08/2017 12:40

I would suspect that at a certain point in weight loss it will go. My boobs only went down a bit when I'd lost 4 stone. Get to your target weight and see what happens.

Stormwhale · 22/08/2017 12:41

Quim I guess the embarrassment is worth it to them to get it sorted for free. I think I honestly would consider getting a tummy tuck on telly. Clearly the embarrassment is worth around £6k to me!

NeedsAsockamnesty · 22/08/2017 12:47

It often goes when you hit the menopause

AboutAGallonofDietCoke · 22/08/2017 12:58

Ah bless you. It's horrible to go to all the difficulty of losing weight just to have one bit of you that won't 'go back' as it were.

My weight has fluctuated by 5st one way or the other over the years so I know it can be hard . I was left with baggy legs, where the skin was sun damaged and stretch marked, so it didn't have the elasticity to go back. Equally my boobs were round my waist, I eventually had an uplift as I looked like something from national geographic at 28.

I'd look at liposuction - I did some research online and the results look good, also it's not too invasive. A friend of mine had a tummy tuck procedure after a massive weight loss, it's very invasive and she had a lot of trouble with the incision/stitches after, infections can be quite common as it's a - ahem - sweaty area, where clothes rub a lot.

MrsMeeseeks · 22/08/2017 13:00

It's a perfectly normal part of the body. There is no need for surgery.

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