I have a vascular condition which involves the area around my vagina, anus and urethra. I need an op. Now it turns out that DH's childhood friend, (and - since we married - our family friend) who we socialise with regularly and our DC go to school with his DC, is the leading expert in this condition in the country we live in, and he runs a team of people who deal with it.
Naturally I made an appointment with his clinic to get it sorted, but I assumed that he would not be doing it all himself. (I know for a fact the other doctors in his clinic also do it.) He responded personally and made me an appointment. How lovely of him! I then wrote back to him and said I felt a bit self conscious as we are friends and would he be examining/operating on me himself?
He took this to mean that I only felt comfortable around him as a friend rather than anyone else, so reassured me that he would do EVERYTHING. I wrote back again and said, actually I would prefer if someone else would do it purely because I feel a bit embarrassed of doing the healthcare equivalent of mixing business with pleasure.
He does not seem to understand what I mean. We are having crossed wires. He just cannot wrap his head around why I would not want hint o dot he examination or the surgery.
Obviously I get that he sees tons of fanjos and bumholes every day, and there is nothing special or memorable about mine. But, this is the only fanjo and bum hole surgery I am going to have in a while, and I would rather spare the mortification of it being done by somebody who I have to see at a school play or over a glass of wine once a week. Am I just being a self-conscious freak?