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Original poster

to not want to go to what might be the worst wedding of the year....

47 replies

nuttygirl · 30/03/2007 23:01

Wedding is in July in Guernsey. DH & I will have a baby then (approx 3 months old).

Basically invitation arrived today and have spent all afternoon & evening trying to find somewhere to stay that doesn't cost a fortune...but it's all booked up cos it's high season ( am thinking invites should have gone out sooner).

In addition, we've been told not to wear hats or high heels and men shouldn't wear a good suit to the "refreshingly different" reception and they won't let on what the reception is actually going to be.

DH rang bride to be to find out more info and was told there's NO DANCING at the reception...but it might involve games and if he wants to wear a suit he can but it's not their fault if it gets messy . Knowing the couple, it is possible they're gonna play kids party games...

In addition bride-to-be is ex-housemate of DH and doesn't really like me cos she used to fancy DH.

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Stiller · 30/03/2007 23:03

Well, I definetly wouldn't be going.

monkeytrousers · 30/03/2007 23:03

don't go if only cos of last point - you will be a paranoid nightmare!

Hulababy · 30/03/2007 23:03

Not sure I fancy the reception!

If you and Dh don't want to go, just make your excuses and don't go.

2shoesonanegghunt · 30/03/2007 23:03

no you are not

sunnysideup · 30/03/2007 23:04

oh don't go! It sounds utterly ghastly.

FrannyandZooey · 30/03/2007 23:04

Bloody hell it sounds quite bad

PLEASE go and tell us all about it on your return. Email me with a personal link to the thread just so I don't miss it. It sounds like a good one.

expatinscotland · 30/03/2007 23:05

No dancing? No heels or hats. What are they going to do, stand around singing Kumbaya?

Fuck that.

I'd give it a miss and send along a nice gift.

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nuttygirl · 30/03/2007 23:05

We feel a bit bad not going cos they came to ours. At first we thought it would be ok cos we could make a holiday out of it but they've left it so late we can't find anywhere we could afford to stay for a few days.

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tinkerbellhadpiles · 30/03/2007 23:05

Here's a good game for their reception - hide the guests (everyone stays at home).

moondog · 30/03/2007 23:06

Another dull couple who assume their identikit wedding will be 'zany and memorable'
I think not.Stay home and pick yer feet.

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nuttygirl · 30/03/2007 23:06

LMAO expat - When she said his suit might get messy I had visions of us all standing round having a food fight...

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CadburyCremeSquonk · 30/03/2007 23:06

Can you afford (easily) to go? If so, you may as well because you might just enjoy it. If not, stay at home, it sounds like it will probably be shit and you don't want to spend tons of money that you haven't really got on someone else's idea of a fun time.

Hulababy · 30/03/2007 23:07

Only problem withnot going is that you can't rport back here and tell us all exactly what was involved with this reception!

Eddas · 30/03/2007 23:07

I think you should go so that you can let us know waht goes on

But if it was me i'd say i couldn't make it and give my excuses, send a nice gift and let them get on with their alternative wedding without me

VeniVidiVickiQV · 30/03/2007 23:07

why oh why oh why do people do this? Do they think it is clever?

You arent. Being unreasonable that is.

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nuttygirl · 30/03/2007 23:08

Oh and they don't want gifts.... apparently "your presence is presents enough"

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expatinscotland · 30/03/2007 23:08

His suit might get messy?

Oh, DOUBLE fuck that!

Some goofball idea of a reception just so they can be 'different'.

Send them some hash as a gift and tip off the cops that they're getting a shipment of drugs, she sounds like a freak .

Original poster
nuttygirl · 30/03/2007 23:09

I know...I keep thinking if I don't go I'll never know WTF the entertinment () was!!!

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Carmenere · 30/03/2007 23:09

I'm really sorry that you can't go because it sounds hideous and I would have enjoyed the post mortem. However I don't think you should go, too expensive and not glamourous enough to make the extra effort.

expatinscotland · 30/03/2007 23:10

Not worth it.

Just hear about it from someone else and laugh at them after they leave for being suckered into going.

edam · 30/03/2007 23:10

I'm with expat. But since I'm lucky enough not to have an invite, thank Christ, I wish you would go, so you can post about it.

fireflyfairy2 · 30/03/2007 23:10

My SIL's wedding reception saw the guests dress up as Tellytubbies & Tweenies & sing & dance around the hall.

There was more, but dh & I escaped to the front bar in our b/maid & bestman rigouts & got pissed with a load of strangers! Best nights craic I've had in years

Go...then come & tell us about it!!!

thePA · 30/03/2007 23:11

nutty, you have the perfect excuse, a baby! don't go.

Oblomov · 30/03/2007 23:11

Sounds reight exciting.
Are the having a no alcohol policy aswell - just to get the party started ?

FrannyandZooey · 30/03/2007 23:12

Aw bless them though

they have as much right to inflict their bad taste on you as any other bride and groom

Go on, imagine the dinner party gossip you will have for months, nay years afterwards

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