To not preemptively report neighbours to the police?

[Mrbluethecatt]

I have a large back garden, large enough to have a trampoline, swing set with climbing ropes, cargo net and shoot. There is also a skateboard ramp type thing. This part of the garden isn't visible from the side gate.

Over the summer dss13 used the garden with his friends so the side gate wasn't always locked (with padlock and key). DH actually lost the padlock at one point so it was unlocked all the time when we were at work and dss13 was at summer clubs.

As the schools went back last week I asked dss19 to pick up a padlock and lock up before going out Friday morning. Dss19 picked one up and returned home, locked the side gate (without going into the garden). He was wearing his headphones (this is relevant).

I got a call from nice neighbour as he heard shouting at my front door with other neighbour banging on it. He was gone by the time I got home but left a note.

Essentially his DW had let their 3dcs (under 7) play in my garden (without our permission). This is something that she had done many times before when we were out. She then tried to leave but the side gate was locked. She had told her DH that she shouted at DSS who locked her in anyway. She got upset called him very upset as it was raining, kids crying etc.

Her DH had to leave work and get ladder to get them out of garden. The side gate is metal and is part of our garden wall. The note said that we were out of order, we have traumatized the DCs. He intends to report us to the police for unlawful detention.

Both DH and I have tried to speak with him and his DW over the weekend but they never answered their door. Dss said he didn't hear anything as he had his music on. I have suggested to DH we write them a letter. Telling them they were trespassing and shouldn't have been in the garden and that we are not responsible for what happened. DH also wants to preemptively report the neighbours to the police just encase. I think the neighbours are all talk and won't have went to the police themselves. DH disagrees. Should we report them?

What sort of awesome play park equipment have you got in your garden?! 😂 I am stunned at the level of stupidity of these neighbours, that they can perceive normal garden play equipment to be a public park! Has it now become a game of stubbornness, that they can not accept their mistake? Amazing.

Is anyone else fantasizing about CFNs buying the play equipment from a charity shop?

Where are all these crazy people? I just don't understand the nerve of some people. Weirdest behaviour!

Just been telling my husband (a brickie ...now early retired due to skin cancer...bonkers neighbours insist however..that: he is a "property developer" ). It gave him a good laugh, so thanks for that OP, he hasn't been laughing very much of late.

We are building a very modest rear single story extension (permitted development) on a building notice. 1920s detached bungalow, had previously in a poor state.

Don't know how the young Building Inspector keeps his face straight with our neighbours (the very elderly well-to-do surround us). We are getting on a bit ourselves...

The bat at the back accused us of running a kindergarten ( a modest slide, wendy house and on nice days only... a little blow up swimming pool and big parasol for two toddler grandchildren.)
Reported to "the Authorities" for change of use from domestic dwelling. We know this as she shouted her allegations through the six foot rear hedge.(ours) So we know who the Alligator is.

The moaner on one side claimed husbands' small scaffold tower was bending the side 6 foot hedge (ours) onto his property ( it is two metres away ). I suggested that he try cutting his side of the hedge vertically for a change.

The moaner ( very wealthy) on the other side keeps turning up demanding DH does her odd jobs as she "is a widow". I've asked if her dentist son in law will do us some new gnashers for free in exchange.
Blank look.
We won't be doing anything else ( free ) after she called round three times in one evening insisting that he fitted her a new bathroom rail. NOW!

I blame something in the water......must be the old lead pipes....or summat

We had a 12 foot pool in the garden I bought for my sons birthday, when night my dog barked as heard something in the back garden, there was 6/7 kids all in the pool and using the trampoline they had pulled over to jump into it! They had broken a back fence to get it. They weren't even friends of my son!

I am deeply concerned. This summer we've bought a swing, slide, sand/water pit and a Wendy house and put them in our (private) garden for DD (and invited friends). Does this mean all the neighbourhood kids are now going to be wanting free access to our garden because it's a playpark? 😂

Jesus wept. These people are insane.

He actually phoned to complain? He really doesn't get it, does he?

If he's been willing to phone, he'll do other stuff, too.

So here is a picture of OP's garden

Or maybe this

Haha that's a good lesson for those cheeky neighbours.

don't worry they haven't got a leg to stand on, They were trespassing

Good grief, @BellaNoche! All of your neighbours are batshit! Love the entitled neighbour.... no is still a complete sentence.

What on earth goes through these folks heads. Imagine phoning the council to complain that your kids can't play in your neighbours garden. Madness.

Shamelss place marking.

I'm a sucker for a CFN thread.

I can't believe there are so many of them out there, it's like an epidemic at the minute.

Oh my actual God I'm gobsmacked!

holy mother of god I have just RTFT and I am at the CFN. Just really, I mean REALLY?! WTAF they take the

I spat my tea out at the first OP update where he accosted her on the drive and blamed for the kids having flu etc but him coming round a second time to object and then calling planning is just batshit crazy !!! These CFNs are just unbelievable. These ones will be putting patio doors in the fence to access your garden before you know it !!!!!

@GinisLife UPVC patio doors in a listed fence perchance ?

Anyone spotted that Whatyyyy's updated and Vlad and Vanka have popped back for a new episode?

Allthebestnamesareused you're outed me!

What we have is fairly basic and is going to a children's charity to help start.... A play park! There has been a lot of fundraising locally and we want to do ou
r bit.

DSS (19) is not long out of bed and has reported no attempts at accessing the garden. DH's mate/solicitor will be emailing a letter later. I'll make sure to redact it to protect the stupid

I love you for the thread, I love you more for the use of "redact".
I'm thinking your neighbours won't know that word.

1. Knock on the front door and ask them what time you should be round for dinner? After all, if they've got a kitchen, you're entitled to be fed by them.

1. Ask them what time their bathroom will be free as you've all got the raging trots and finding it difficult to make sure there's a loo free at all times, so this would really help you out.

1. Tell them you'll be round for a lift to work at 8am tomorrow - they've got a car haven't they?

Fair's fair.

I LOVE the ringing your own department to complain.

How stupid are these people?

@Mrbluethecatt if they had asked your permission to play in your adventure play ground would you have said yes...? Just curious.

I love the word redact. I am ridiculous in love with the Data Protection Act.

GlitterRollerSkate probably not to be honest. Their kids are much younger than ours and aren't friends with DSS(13).