To not lend her any money?

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Ok just want views on this.
An old school friend of mine who I have not seen in almost ten years messaged me on Facebook and asked me if she could borrow 20 pounds from me. I was pretty surprised she messaged me tbh as the only connection we have is via Facebook.
This mum is constantly posting how hard done by she is how bad her life is and how men use her etc etc (Jeremy Kyle style) has a different boyfriend every week. And airs it all!
She has a 9 year old DD
Anyway I replied very politely that I no longer lived in that city and that I was sorry she was having difficulties etc but that I could drive all way over and that I'm in no position to pay anything as I'm doing overtime myself to get extra.
I thought was the end of it
An hour later she replies begging me to help ! Saying she has no gas or food for her DD and that she would accept a bank transfer!

I replied saying how sorry I was I couldn't help out again. No more messages.
im now for some reason feeling bad for her DD :( I hate thinking of any child going without ! Especially food I'm no tight ass and I give to charity weekly and the homeless and donate cloths and toys at xmas
Not only that the next evening I saw another post from her with unknown man with him and her in a photo holding a glass of wine to each other saying " cheers "
Hmmmm
Despite that I'm still feeling bad for her DD
AIBU to not help? Has money for wine but not food? I dunno..

Hmm, sounds like a possible addict to me. Which is why she wouldn't ask people who know her well because they'd know what it was for...

Very wrong to beg any FB friend for money imo

Iv taken the advice and have removed her as a friend on Facebook. Just hope she sorts herself out whatever the problem is for her.

It reminded me of something but I couldn't put my finger on what - now I remember.

I was at the petrol station and a woman who looked like a heroin addict (was in a relationship with one so I know the signs) came up to me and said her car had broken down and she needed £10 for a taxi to get her child to nursery. When I said no she then went up to everyone else in the vicinity. It was just so obvious something weird was up.

Wow that's just awful
You have to feel bad for them tho
Iv never done drugs would never want to either but I know is super hard to kick the habit and seeing someone going to those lengths is shocking

I'm in two minds about addicts one side of me feels bad and sees that they clearly need help. The other side sees the selfish person putting the need of themselves before anything else in their life

I friended (FB) someone I briefly met and was shocked when he started asking for money.

He had sob stories about being stuck away from home with no where to stay, how he needed money for a train home and needed more money for food.

I declined to help him and blocked him.

I suspect he was on drugs.

Ild be mortified posting my financial difficulties online especially Facebook!
Just something ild never do I don't know why people do it ? Last cry for help or easy way to get money from sympathetic friends? Dunno

I expect you aren't the only person she's asking.

Someone I used to be friends with asked me for money once said she had ran out of food etc. I know op is not in this position living in a different city etc but I offered to take her to do some shopping. Then the excuses started oh well I'm out today, can't you just transfer money. That's when I said no sorry because if you were desperate for food and a friend or family offered to take you shopping you'd accept it

Hannah your right if times are that hard you'll do anything to keep surviving so that baffles me