To find people who use Facebook like this cringy?

[BlessedBeTheFruit]

The people who say "Facebookers, I need good restaurants in Liverpool for tonight. And go!"

Or "I need a filmmaker/musician/photographer for a job. Send me your CV ASAP" (they don't even say what the job is, never mind the hours/location/pay)

I do work part-time in a creative industry with lots of freelancers and we often help each other out, (e.g. "can anyone recommend a good website builder/accountant? Thanks") but I find this approach so entitled and demanding. And what's worse is that people actually comment, it's like they're falling over themselves to answer posts. So I cringe for the poster and the keen responders.

Am IBU?

...I think you might be getting a bit over invested in other people's lives. Sorry. 🤷🏻‍♀️

entitied and demanding?

Are you a part time drama teacher?

I don't mind the first one to be honest, if I was visiting a strange city then I would rather go to a restaurant that someone recommends rather than take a chance.

Not sure about the second one, can't say that I've ever seen anything like that on my FB.

YABU.

The first one I don't mind? It's nice to see friends reviews of places so you don't end up going somewhere horrible

Meh, its people using social media, cringe comes in all kinds.

MN has a cringe of people proclaiming they are going to ALDI/Waitrose or where for the first time, what should i buy?

Or a cringe of virtue signalling to get into the perceived in group...

I'm sure you make other people cringe with some of your facebook posts just as much as others do you..

No right or wrong way really, tis life..

So in short YABU in a way and no your not

HTH (cringe at myself)

I agree with you OP. Its not the request that's annoying but the way they ask. On my Facebook they say 'hive mind, what's the/where's a...' Or 'its my child's birthday tomorrow. Need a venue that's free, near the countryside, accessible by bus, suitable for my 90 year old gran and 3 Spanish speaking teenagers. Must be vegan etc' Never a please or thank you and people fall over themselves trying to accommodate them. Or 'can anyone plaster my entire house? Can repay with hugs/Indian head massage/chess lesson...'

Bloody hell imfine you just outed me

Bloody hell imfine you just outed me

MN has a cringe of people proclaiming they are going to ALDI/Waitrose or where for the first time, what should i buy?

Agree entirely. I'm always tempted to answer that they should refer to their shopping list, or if in doubt have a look round their house to see what needs adding/topping up.

But I cringe the most at women that seem to vicariously live through their DHs. "Well DH earns 90million pounds a month and we pay our cleaner xyz."

but, isnt that what people do on here, in effect?

The phrasing sets my teeth on edge as well. But most things about Facebook do, so I deactivated it.

If you don't like it, don't follow those people.

If people reply, then clearly they don't dislike it the way you do.

All of the people I follow on Facebook are people who, if they ask for restaurant recommendations, I would be happy to help them.

Yes.

The one's who really do my head in are 'can anyone tell me what time tesco shut?'. In the time you typed that on fb you could have just googled it yourself you numpty!!

I don't mind the requests but I do mind the way people ask? "Can anyone recommend a good xyz? thanks". No problem. "I need ideas for xyz tomorrow" or "anyone know what I can do today", both without manners or a question mark, really frustrate me. I don't respond to these as they appear as statements and so do not require an answer.

I don't really see people doing this on Facebook but I do see it a lot on Twitter. I don't mind people asking - perfectly sensible to get recommendations from people if you're in a city you don't know - but the 'Go!' at the end always annoys me as it seems to suggest they think everyone's just sitting around waiting to leap into action at their beck and call.

I'm often amused at the answers to questions like that, too, because it's always clear when people really haven't got anything to say but just can't bear not to chip in, so will reply with something that clearly doesn't meet the brief. So someone will say "Twitter, I'm in Birmingham and I'm looking for a restaurant that's something different from the norm, ideally somewhere that feels a bit special" and someone will reply "Pizza Express hun, cant go wrong".

They'd get quicker answers by checking out TripAdvisor.

I do wonder if some people are just incapable of cringing. They lack the cringe gene.
It would be a hell of a lot easier for the person to Google most of their dull requests in about 30 seconds.

Oh dear! I wouldn't post that sort of thing myself but don't think anything about those who do.

You sound like very hard work/uptight................

Mumsnetters - OP needs a Spa Break! Go!

I get you op. I'm on a large Facebook group for my industry and while it's valuable for getting advice on something unusual or outside your area of expertise some people really do take the piss. May be a bit outing but it's the travel industry, and while most of us will ask specifics (i.e. Customer has requested that pool must be salt water, south facing, oval and surrounded by grass - can anyone recommend?) there's a significant minority that will post things like 'looking for a quote for 8 pax to barbados, who wants to quote me' instead of doing the bloody work themselves. Tour operators respond as they want the business but I do wonder what the agent is actually doing for their cut

Thank goodness nobody on my fb does that ... sounds very affected

PollyFlint yes! It's the assumption that people are just waiting around to leap into action when they're summoned.

"Pizza Hut hun, you can't go wrong"

I agree with you OP. It's not the request p, it's the way it's worded. Very demanding.

Yanbu

Go! Is pure cringe. Up there with discuss.

Asking advice is fine though.

...and Go. Discuss . even 'Type Yes"

guaranteed to make me walk on by.