to be annoyed with this topless lady?

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... we r on holiday in a family resort in sunny country. There is a lady who keeps ending up on the sun loungers opposite us, who seems to enjoy lying topless by the pool everyday. She has a DS who looks about 15, and a DD who looks about 5.

I think it's really inappropriate to sunbathe topless on a family resort in full view of everyone and right by the toddler pool, and with her own DS around. Am I being unreasonable in feeling uncomfortable and wishing she'd cover up??

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Hehe! This is funny. I'm quite old and remember when topless sunbathing was all the rage. You were weird if you didn't have your baps out. It seemed to become less the thing and then this year - BOOBS . Lots of lovely boobs. We're in Mallorca right now and DS (12) had a teeny wobble when he saw the first pair. Though to be fair they were attached to the most GORGEOUS young woman. I had trouble not looking . Other than that we've seen all sorts of boobs - from young pert ones to old not so pert ones. I think it's lovely to see all shapes and sizes. I say that as a big woman sat in her bikini.

I wouldn't get my breasts out though because DS would die of The Cringe .

People posting as if they walk around their town with boobs hanging out.

Well no, because you don't wear a swim suit to the shops either.

You must get that right?

Agree with a pp that mouths are way more sexual than breasts. Think about how much penis you've had there.

Meanwhile my boobs have lost most of their sexual feeling since I breastfed my kids. So why should I care that someone might see them as sexual, even though the op says they aren't sexy so what's the issue

I don't want to see another woman's breasts in public. They are either visual pollution or exhibitionism. I don't much fancy seeing men's bare chests either.

Visual pollution or exhibition.

Really? it couldn't possibly be they like to be more comfortable. Why don't we all wear jeans to the beach? No need to take anything off right?

I would be annoyed too. Some of us have the presence to know there is a difference between men's chests and women's breasts and the sexual arousal associated with them.

Why would you be annoyed at what another woman choses to wear? Half the bikinis around ar no bigger than postage stamps.

As someone else said, ANY part of you body can be sexually stimulating, get to work on my neck and I am jelly, should I cover up my neck at all times? And for some people breasts are not sexually arousing at all.

Oh and men find their nipples sexually arousing too so why shouldnt they cover them up also?

What a fuss over body parts. Boobs are there primarily for feeding babies, evolution didnt decide one day "I know I will stick some lumps on the front of womem to give men something to focus on whenever they see them"

In the 80s there were topless women everywhere, not being topless was harder to spot. This year I saw 2 woman topless on the beach the whole holiday.

I wouldnt do it but I dont give a fig who does, they are usually nicer to look at than moobs thats for sure (and god knows I saw plenty of them on holiday)

Agree with a pp that mouths are way more sexual than breasts. Think about how much penis you've had there.

Careful now. The League of Decency will be after you.

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if you are in a country and at a resort that doesn't mandate bikini tops, you are the unreasonable prude.

the fact that kids are around is utterly irrelevant.

They are only boobs, if she is comfortable who cares, if you don't like it stop looking. I take it you told your husband to cover his chest too?

Question, if boobs are 'just boobs' isn't labia 'just labia? A penis 'just a penis'? So, on that logic should any level of nakedness be fine?

Women's breasts are disgusting.

Just wondering

Question, if boobs are 'just boobs' isn't labia 'just labia? A penis 'just a penis'? So, on that logic should any level of nakedness be fine?

Despite many men trying you can't have actual sex with a boob. You're talking about genitalia. Boobs are boobs. Like men and women have.

Why is this ok?

I've got DH all flustered now.

Going on holiday with anotyer family next week, and mentioned this thread, and that it's been ages since I've sunbathed topless (windy Cornish or Britanny beaches require fleeces and raincoats...).

He went bright red, and muttered that he was popping out to the shop.

Is it not mixed messages to dc though? What's in your pants is private but feel free to get your boobs out?

Men and women also have a penis/labia just as much as they have boobs.

Question, if boobs are 'just boobs' isn't labia 'just labia? A penis 'just a penis'? So, on that logic should any level of nakedness be fine?
Some places I go to, that would be correct. Unfortunately it will be a long time before it will apply everywhere.

Wow I get turned by my earlobes being sucked, had I known that was the criteria for a sexual organ I would have been covering them years ago! Heavens!

It really concerns me that a large number of adult women on this thread don't seem to understand that breasts are not genitalia

No they're different. Vaginas and penises are different and all of society has been segregated based on that one small difference. It's discrimination though to say that women shouldn't have the same right men have to uncover a body part that has no sexual function different to a males purely because of male behaviour.

In a perfect world we should all be able to be naked but as most women would feel vulnerable it's unlikely to happen

Question, if boobs are 'just boobs' isn't labia 'just labia? A penis 'just a penis'? So, on that logic should any level of nakedness be fine?

To my mind, yes. Though I'm not bothered about nudity in the slightest. Whether someone chooses to be stark naked, or chooses to cover every millimetre of skin, I don't care.

I would not expect to see someone naked in Tesco, and it's not my personal choice to be naked in public (though I have been in the past), but on a beach nudity wouldn't bother me a jot.

(We used to sail in the Med a lot when I was younger. So many naked people on boats. After you've seen hundreds of naked people of all ages and sizes, it becomes white noise)

Mrscropley do you mean like men do?

I'm not gonna lie; I saw 2 women sunbathing topless on BARMOUTH beach in West Wales the other week. So it's not just 'abroad.'

There was a 4 foot high wall alongside the beach, and they were about 3 feet away from it, with their stuff against it.

DH isn't usually arsed to walk much, but he walked along the wall 7 times, 'just for the exercise...' mucky little bastard

Me personally, I did look (for a few seconds,) a couple of times, as I was curious, but even though I wouldn't go topless on the beach, (as I would be too shy to do so,) I have great admiration for women who are confident enough to do so.

Anyhoo, back to the point of the thread. The OP is not being unreasonable to feel a bit uncomfortable with someone showing boobies, coz she can't help how she feels. But she is being unreasonable if she thinks the woman is showy, and an exhibitionist.

Shagging with the windows open, when children are in next door's garden just to let people know you have a sex life! is exhibitionism; going topless on a beach when it's hot and sunny (particularly abroad,) is not.

Teaching your child(ren) that showing breasts is dirty or wrong, is not a good thing to do. And to say 'oh would you go topless when you're shopping in the supermarket?' is just plain bloody daft.