About this office gossip?

[ToastyFeet]

What can I do about this woman at work?
We work in different teams in the same office and a lot of our work overlaps so I have to see her every day.
A few weeks ago she cornered me in the kitchen and said "I didn't know that you..." it was something to do with my personal life- nothing secret but also nothing I'd have talked about at work. So I responded "who have you been talking to?!" In a smiley jokey way. And she clearly realised maybe she shouldn't have said that.
So today I'm walking into the office at the start of work and bump into her walking in too and she says to me "I didn't know you used to be married!"
I was completely baffled. I said "no you wouldn't know that, it's not something I broadcast"
I did used to be married, I haven't been married for a long time now and it was an extremely unhappy time , one that I don't want to be reminded of when I walk into the office first thing in the morning!
So anyway she didn't get the hint that it wasn't something I wanted to talk about- she said "yeah they said you were married when you met your current DP!" This is not true at all!!! So I had no idea what to say. So I just walked off! And she follows me and says "oh it's ok, you shouldn't have spent your life with someone you didn't want to, are you okay" I'm thinking please just leave me alone. So I just said "no not really, I don't like being gossiped about."
So then I walked off again and it was left. But I'm so annoyed. Firstly, where is she getting all this information from?! And secondly, I know people gossip, it's human nature, by why does she feel the need to admit that to the person she's gossiped about?!
Would I be unreasonable to discuss this with my manager or her manager? I just don't want this- I want to come into work, do my work and be professional!

This would piss me off no end!

No advice though apart from trying not to give her any reaction other than indifference. She'll give up soon enough if she gets no reaction. Sounds like she might know your ex??

Oh yes, and what hotel euphoria said

Practice saying "Why would you know? It's absolutely none of your business" and say that to her next time and just walk off without engaging further.

But do also remember the only thing worse than being talked about is not being talked about . By which I mean, don't let her tiny mind curtain twitching get to you. x

If she enters into round 3 of gossip, I think I'd say 'blimey, what are you? A detective?!'
I'd be more worried about who is feeding the information.
It sounds like their interest in you is a little unhealthy but probably just in a nosy sort of way.
The trouble is, if you try and find out more about who it is, you are showing that it is bothering you which might make her worse.
I'd shut her down as soon as poss and if it doesn't work, you will have to take further action.

I would ask her outright who has been telling her

She will never change her spots, but somebody is gossiping about you to her. I would suggest telling each person you think might be responsible a different and harmless piece of fiction just juicy enough for the woman to come to you wanting to know more. Depending on what the information is you will have your culprit/s.

She sounds more socially inept than gossipy. She's either trying to bond with you rather clumsily, or playing mind games with you. First is quite pitiful and maybe you could throw her a bone and attempt to chat with her by steering conversation to non gossipy topics, the latter is not worth getting knickers in a twist over just shut her down and don't feed it.