To call this man aggressive in the car park?

[jeaux90]

I just pulled out of my space in the supermarket car park. Driving slowly round to get out when someone started to reverse out quite quick without showing signs of stopping. I beeped my horn quick to let them know I was there.

I drive off round the car park. He then drove quickly up behind me flashing and beeping at me.

I know. At this point I should have ignored. If my dd had been in the car I would have.

Instead I stopped my car got out and as he did and I asked him why he was flashing and beeping his horn. He said because I had beeped at him. I said I did that to warn him I was there. He said he has reverse parking sensors and would have stopped. (He was shouting) I said I didn't know that and thought the function of a horn was to warn people. He was still shouting at me so I told him he was being aggressive and there was no need for it.

Another woman and her son came up and called him a stupid man.

Was I being unreasonable to hoot at him or call him aggressive?

Nope, that's what the horn is for.

Obviously his fragile male ego could not handle being reprimanded by a woman. Doubt he would have chased after you if you were a bloke. Plus if he is reversing out, you have right of way.

I've have called him a fucking twat and flicked him the V.

Papa it did feel like that. It felt like he was trying to intimidate me and that pisses me off. I thought I was being a sensible driver.

Shane I was tempted

I got told 'well done for manoeuvring so well into that space' the other week by a watching man. I'm sure he wouldn't have said it if I was a fellow penis possessor.

You know what to do next time jeaux

YANBU in the slightest, he sounds like a prick.

I imagine if you were a bloke he wouldn't have dared

You were absolutely right to sound your horn to warn him, I would have done exactly that.

When he started behaving like an idiot you should have ignored him and made sure your car was locked. Unfortunately, I think you put yourself at risk getting out of your car. Idiots are unpredictable and he could have attacked you. This kind of thing happens, sadly.

Bloody hell Shane. Did you say anything? I would have just been at that.

Urgh. That is literally what a horn is for - alerting people to danger. You aren't supposed to use them to tell people off, you use them just as you did - to say "hello I am behind you".

He was a twat and yanbu. Parking sensors are to help you, not to allow you to pull out blindly at speed when going backwards.

as I learned the hard way, my poor wing mirror

I know Rops. I shouldn't have.

Thanks All. I wasn't sure but feel better about it now. (My dd is sick so feeling over sensitive I think)

Shane someone came up to DH to tell him to let me know I'd parked nicely. I was standing right there.

I didn't even say anything; I couldn't believe he'd actually done it.

OP, you were exactly right and I'm glad you spoke to him. Hopefully next time he might not pull that shit. Ahh who am I kidding...?

I can't remember the exact phrase they use in the Highway code but basically the only function of the horn is to say 'I am here' you massive aggressive twat of a man

You were not in the wrong OP.

And do you know what, even if you were - who chases someone round a car park flashing and beeping? What a twat.

He was being a twat.
I have learned over the years that the best response to these pricks is one of indifferent amusement.
I usually sugggest they calm down a bit whilst smiling. Incredulously.

Wow. I've often beeped the horn to let someone know they're about to reverse into me.

He sounds awful. Just be thankful you don't have to live or work with him and pity the poor unfortunates who do.

jeaux90 👌🌻🌻🌻

YWNBU. At all. This has really pissed me off on your behalf! You used the horn entirely appropriately - that's exactly what it's there for. You couldn't have known he had parking sensors. He then followed you round the car park beeping and flashing in order to intimidate you!!

My guess is a) he saw the horn as a reprimand, not a warning, and b) he took offence at receiving what he saw as a reprimand from a woman, and decided to intimidate her to punish her for it.

You shouldn't have got out of the car (but you know that). Not because you'd done anything wrong but because you could have put yourself at risk.

It wasn't even that bad a space but he said most people just give up trying and park on the road instead.
I just said 'well my last car was an Audi Q7 so that was easy'

I park like a genius every day, get over it male

In ten years of driving, male drivers have

• gone apeshit in similar shouty fashion cos he lipread my remark to self that he was going 'too fast' for going the wrong way around a car park he was using as a cut through. (taxi)
• called a fucking bell end for indicating and legally parking on a road to collect my child from school, holding him up from flooring his van through the speed bumps. *Laughed at and then applauded by van full of men when I perfectly parked my car in a tight space *been told that he could 'get a bloody bus through there' when politely asking a man to move his car from overlapping my dropped curb on my driveway

Probably many more... Makes me angry and upset these days. Sick to death of male aggression.

Mumtee me too. I think it's why I did the stupid thing and got out of my car. Utterly fed up with male aggression.

Well good for you I say.

Im on holiday am moment I reversed into car park space on Wednesday and had to wait for gormless man to dawdle past even though it was obvious what I was doing. No problem for me. Wasn't in a hurry.

Then went to post office. Same chap was coming in through door. I was trying to keep me dog and child from blocking said door as they had to wait outside. He held door which was nice and told me to go first. I explained I was keeping dog put of his way so please carry on. I smiled when went inside and said sorry for getting in your way again referring to car park. He said "the problem started when we let you outside the kitchen".

lovely! Both incidents of getting in way were down to him being a bit oblivious but no, I'm a woman so clearly I'm an idiot. Don't care for that 'humour'.