Abyear ago I met a woman my age at a toddler group, who's DD was around the same age as DS. Although I have lots of lovely friends, none of them currently have children so having a 'mum friend' is something that appealed to me.
We clicked straight away, she seemed very 'normal' and down to earth, we had lots in common and swapped numbers etc.
For a while I'd say the correspondence between us was very equal, she would invite me out with the kids, even sometimes to things with her other friends who had kids, and I'd initiate play dates also. All good. I felt we became quite close and we arranged a night out the two of us, which we went on and had a really good night. Both got quite drunk and said how nice it was to meet a friend the same age who had a child the same age and who was so nice. We said that night we would arrange a night out with our DH's also. The day after we set a date for that night and that was that.
I then felt like she stopped speaking to me, and would take days to reply if I ever I messaged her and then the replied were only very brief. I didn't think much of it and assumed she was busy etc.
The night out with DHs came round and we went out, it had been organised by myself and I had to ask her if she was still up for it a few days earlier as I hadn't heard anything from her for weeks. But anyway, we all had a great night (I thought so anyway) and DH's got on well. We had a meal and chatted throughout, had laugh and all generally all got quite merry. Eventually DH and I left and they said they wouldn't be much behind us and all said bye etc. All seemed well.
After texting her the next day to say what a good night we'd had etc and thank her I didn't get a reply for 3 days. And then when I did again it was brief. She's not asked me to do anything with the kids for months now and I've started to wonder if I've done something to offend her (although for the life of me I can not think what this could be). A few times over the last few months I have tried to make a plan with her and the kids and she has said she can't make it as already has plans. Fair enough I've though in the past.
I told her a few weeks ago I was taking DS to a playgroup thing and she was welcome to join and she initially said she couldn't make it. But when we were on our way I received a text to say they'd meet us there which they did. She seemed off soon as I got there as if something had pissed her off, I asked if she was okay and she said she was. Tbf we didn't get much of a chance to even talk about anything other than kids as we were both chasing toddlers round. All seemed well by the end of the day and we left with her saying she'd text me after to make another plan with DHs. I've not heard from her since.
I realise this may sound a bit 'high school' and it's not the sort of thing I would ever really talk about- I don't have any of this with my own friends. I do suffer with anxiety so things like this do tend to play on my mind- 'have I pissed her off in some way?' etc but I really don't think I'm imagining this anymore. It's all gone very one way and I'm clueless as to why. I've told myself I won't be in touch with her at all now and will just see if she is with me (I was only contacting her once every few weeks anyway FYI). As I say having a mum friend who I got on with so well was valuable to me.
So, should I just leave it and see what happens, potentially allowing the he friendship to dissolve? Or should I ask if I've done something to offend her? I really can't be bothered with mixed message people as I'd rather know where I stand with someone. I'm not sure if should be 'taking the hint' here!