To think Speedos don't make him gay?

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So I've developed a bit of a liking for a man I see swimming at my gym. We've exchanged nods and hellos as I see him quite a bit, but nothing beyond that.

I was telling a friend about him and made a comment about how good he looks in his Speedos. She sort of laughed and said, 'Okaaay... I think you're barking up the wrong tree there'. Long story short, she thought the fact that he wears Speedos means he must be gay.

Is it me or is that a bit of a lazy stereotype? I know they're popular with gay men, but surely it's not unusual for someone who swims regularly to wear them? It's not like he was dancing on a podium in a pink sparkly pair.

Of course he could be gay; as I say, we've barely spoken. But is friend being a bit daft to say I shouldn't even bother?

Most of the blokes at my gym wear speedos - especially the ones that are taking their swimming seriously. What a stupid comment your friend made!

As as someone else said, whether he's gay or not he could make a great friend - surely that's how we should be looking at people before wondering if they're shagging material.

My boyfriend has both ears pierced. He doesn't wear speedos because he can't swim.

Gay verdict?

Your friend is really quite strange to think like that.

As as someone else said, whether he's gay or not he could make a great friend - surely that's how we should be looking at people before wondering if they're shagging material.

I'm sure he could - but I'm not sure there's anything inherently wrong in being interested in someone romantically.