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AIBU?

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AIBU to feel the tiniest bit spied on? (Sort of lighthearted. Well, a bit.)

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BaggypantsCrimplesnitch · 15/08/2017 20:13

Relatively recently we moved to a much more rural location than before, and my DH, being a techie type, put CCTV cameras up all over the place in the garden so we could look out for wildlife, particularly at night - we see deer, various birds, hedgehogs, etc, which is all very nice. However, he can access these cameras remotely via the Internet, and often he'll get home from work and say something like, "Pleased to see you getting on with some weeding today!" or, "Where were you off to in the car then?" I know he doesn't mean anything by it, and I'm probably being over sensitive, but it makes me feel a little bit intruded on, if that makes sense?

Interested to know how other MNetters would feel about it.

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TowerRingInferno · 15/08/2017 20:43

I would hate it and would either unplug it or hang something over the cameras.

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BaggypantsCrimplesnitch · 15/08/2017 20:45

Oh...wow! Thankyou all - I'm glad (and kind of vindicated) that so far everyone agrees it's a bit off. Yes, he did buy them himself - it was his idea. Initially he was going to put them in bird boxes so we could see if they were being used, then he got a bit carried away!

I think next time I go to get the car out or work in the garden, I'll unplug the relevant camera or bung a tea towel over it and see if anything is said that evening. Although I do quite like the hunky tradesman scenario too!

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TaliZorahVasNormandy · 15/08/2017 20:47

Ugh, I'd start with some paranormal activity shit for a laugh.

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BaggypantsCrimplesnitch · 15/08/2017 20:50

Sorry, cross posted with some of you! Ooh, yes, I could have lots of fun trolling him, couldn't I? Any suggestions?

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gluteustothemaximus · 15/08/2017 20:51

I'd be tempted to have some fun before turning them off!

YANBU. I'm sure he wouldn't like being spied on at work and you saying 'nice to see you tidying your desk, it was quite messy' or 'you got back late from lunch, where did you go?'

ElChan03 · 15/08/2017 20:52

Little bit creepy... would give me the willies and paranoia

gluteustothemaximus · 15/08/2017 20:55

You could dress up as a french maid, and go around 'dusting' with a feather duster. In other words, like you're dressing up for an internet viewing, like Susan did in Desperate Housewives

Paranormal activity sounds fun also

Gemini69 · 15/08/2017 20:57

it's not funny.. it's creep and controlling....

YourVagesty · 15/08/2017 20:58

Yeah troll him just for a laugh.

Dress up as a clown and do the housework dressed as said clown. Then, just before he comes home, get changed into normal clothes and pretend like nothing weird happened.

Akire · 15/08/2017 20:59

It is creepy. How did he know you didn't leave until 11 unless he was watching from 8 or 9 am? You could have popped out and come back by 11. He only know for sure if he's watching the whole time.

I'd be tempted to do some v odd things say on the half hour through the day then see which ones he had seen. Surely a quick flick on would show nothing. He's v lucky to keep logging in exact time you are doing stuff

user8526831517 · 15/08/2017 21:01

Get a black balaclava and clothes and then creep round the house snooping through all of his things in full view of the cameras.

TwatteryFlowers · 15/08/2017 21:02

Walk around the house and garden wearing this whilst you casually cover each lens in turn.

AIBU to feel the tiniest bit spied on? (Sort of lighthearted. Well, a bit.)

Squarerouteofsquirrel · 15/08/2017 21:04

It's a pity you can't relocate them to confuse him, or perhaps play recording of random landscape in front of cameras, perhaps with the beast of bodmin, or the Loch Ness monster in shot. Send the bastard mad.

Athome77 · 15/08/2017 21:04

We have cameras I dont see it as an issue. We also have been know to log into my mums and see if the kids are there.

Only problem I have is when they send a activity alert and we are on holiday, no one is home and cats are in cattery!

Seeingadistance · 15/08/2017 21:05

That's creepy as fuck.

Athome77 · 15/08/2017 21:05

However if my hubby sent messages about what I'd been doing I think I would get into a huff.

Miserylovescompany2 · 15/08/2017 21:07

Are they only outdoors?

I'd turn them off or cover them - conversations are usually the way non creepy folk communicate not by spying on each other...

DontTakeItForGranite · 15/08/2017 21:08

Is he normally a controlling person OP? In the context of the post, it sounds odd.

Elledouble · 15/08/2017 21:14

Urgh, hell no.

Definitely mess with him. If he's looking for wildlife could you get some toy animals and put them in view of the cameras? Maybe a cardboard cutout of David Attenborough lurking in the bushes?

PotPlantAddict · 15/08/2017 21:19

We have CCTV and the Ring door bell, which allows you to record who has rung / approached the front door.

The novelty of them did have both OH and I checking the cameras a lot to start off with, but the big thing is that we both have access to the apps / recording so I know exactly what is being recorded etc.

Actually really pleased we have this level of security, as I've found we get some many more cold callers in the country area we recently moved to (so I can now check the app and ignore them )

Escapepeas · 15/08/2017 21:20

I would be annoyed too. DH is a gadget nut and got webcams for outside and a couple inside. I made him remove the inside ones as I felt it was a bit intrusive. He is not controlling and was absolutely not doing it to spy on me, but I didn't like it and I thought our cleaner might find it annoying too.

Both of us occasionally look at the cameras while away from the house (you can get alerts to say there is movement near the camera) and we have both sent the odd message to take the piss - along the lines of 'I know what you're doing' but it's a joke between us rather than monitoring activity. DH is terrified of clowns and I am trying to work out how I can get a clown in front of the camera one day.

MooPointCowsOpinion · 15/08/2017 21:23

I would hate that and the clown thing is so not funny, I am so scared of clowns and suddenly seeing one would reduce me to tears.

Shoxfordian · 15/08/2017 21:29

That's not cool
I would hate to be spied on all day

LurkingFather · 15/08/2017 21:35

Commenting as a geeky and immature bloke.. all our computers run on Linux and allow me to remotely administer them. When I started learning how to do all this I had endless pointless fun making them suddenly play music, say things via speech synthesizer or act otherwise weirdly. It was great fun, but my wife thought it was all too intrusive. The kids on the other side loved it. Shows you my mental level and probably that of your husband too....

In short, unless your husband has otherwise controlling tendencies, I would think this is the child in him rather than anything sinister.

Escapepeas · 15/08/2017 21:56

Yeah, I tend to agree. Tell him you're fine with the cameras but not if he's going to keep commenting on what you're doing. I was very clear with DH that I didn't like the indoor cameras and he removed them straight away. It was genuinely just an 'omg this is brilliant' moment on his behalf and he saw my point of view.

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