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Original poster

To ask about old ypur babies were when they slept through the night and Aibu?

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pinkiepie1 · 14/08/2017 08:00

Promise im not bragging/gloating.
Long story short, I have a 3 month old dd and this last week she has slept through the night.
She is up all day through I mean from half 7 in the morning until 6 at night. With maybe a 15min cat nap if we pop out but that is it.
Now the aibu is I don't know if this is too long to go without a bottle so I suggested waking her and giving her one before we go sleep then dh went through the saying never wake a sleeping baby.
With our other dd she woke every 3hrs until she was 8months, so maybe I'm just not used to having a good sleeper.
So wwud give a bottle or let her stay asleep?
When did yours start sleeping through?
I realize even writing this it sounds ridiculous because isn't this every parents dream a full night sleep?
I did have really traumatic birth and dh thinks now everything is ok I'm just looking for something to worry bout.
Thanks

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pinkiepie1 · 14/08/2017 08:01

I will just apologise for all the spelling mistakes. Using a phone with cracked screen and baby on my legs lol

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welshweasel · 14/08/2017 08:01

I wouldn't wake a baby that age at night for feeds. DS hasn't fed in the night since he was 10 weeks old. However, if be really concerned about the lack of daytime sleep. Regular sleep is vital for development so I'd be looking at ways to increase daytime sleep.

beargrass · 14/08/2017 08:06

Pretty certain we didn't drop the 10pm bottle until later but (even though I should only have to rewind a year), I can't be sure! I do remember it was like pulling teeth at one stage though, as she just did not want it. I think you have to look at the total overall amount in a 24-hour period to see, but then also if she's putting on weight and so on, those are important indicators as well.

Agree with PP about daytime sleep. Mine would never have gone that long without (I think) three daytime naps). One of my friends' babies was exactly like yours - v portable and then did this mega stretch at night. I think though, that later down the line, she did start to have to have more regular daytime naps.

altiara · 14/08/2017 08:07

DD slept 13 hours at 8 weeks! 7pm to 8 am. I can't remember if I did a dream feed. I did with the next one, slept through at 3 months. I try not to tell people as they hate me! I think it was because they were both thumb suckers.

Moanyoldcow · 14/08/2017 08:07

Still waiting. He'll be 5 in January...

That's a bit mean of me though - at around 3 he started going through about half the time and now he sleeps through more often than not but I'm yet to have an unbroken week.

Most of my friends' kids started around 4-8 months.

If they aren't losing weight and are on their centile line ok then it's unlikely to be a problem not feeding at night.

calmanban · 14/08/2017 08:08

One thing about sleep is it isnt linear so take it whilst it's going. My boy was sleeping the night then. The 4 month sleep regression hit and now at 9 months we are still up every two hours. She'll wake if hungry... if not enjoy it

eubyru · 14/08/2017 08:08

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Bluntness100 · 14/08/2017 08:09

My daughter went though the night at 11 weeks. I also thought she might starve. But she clearly didn't. If they at hungry they wake. Don't wake her to feed her, leave her be.

ThursdayLastWeek · 14/08/2017 08:11

DS1 about 10weeks. I agree with your DH, let sleeping babies sleep - I've never known one be hungry and not let you know Grin

DS2 was nearly 12mo so I feel your pain with having one of each and not knowing the right thing to do! They blow all your past experience out of the water.

Sallywiththegoodhurrr · 14/08/2017 08:12

DC1 and 2 both slept 12 hours from 6 weeks old.

DC3 is 19 months and still going strong with those night time calls 💤

DamnCommandments · 14/08/2017 08:13

My kids sound like yours. Number one didn't sleep through until 9 months. Number two was sleeping eight hours at three weeks old and probably ten hours by the time she was four months. I worried, particularly because she only fed every three or four hours in the day and couldn't be persuaded to feed any more. She grew OK though! Could you weigh her for a bit of reassurance?

Rockspin · 14/08/2017 08:18

Dd1 didn't sleep through till she was about 1, as a baby she woke every 2 hours for months and months, and until 2 she was a very broken sleeper. At 3 nearly 4 shes better but still wakes frequently.

Dd2 is nearly 3 months old and from 6 weeks has been sleeping from 9/10pm till 4am, then quick feed and back down till 7/7.30. She will often do a 9pm toll 6am stretch too with no feed. She enjoys her milk and will cluster feed from 7pm till 9pm and will guzzle when she wakes up too - My poor boobs are bursting though after those really long stretches! She still sleeps for 1.5/2 hour naps though throughout the day and is awake for around an hour on between each one, so we still have loads more asleep time than awake.

ILoveMillhousesDad · 14/08/2017 08:20

Dd was around 12 weeks when she started sleeping through. No way would I have contemplated waking her up for a feed lol.

EmmaJR1 · 14/08/2017 08:26

Hey, I'd just enjoy it! My DS is 3 months and slept for 11 hours last night! It's great. If a baby is hungry they wake up. As long as there's no other warning signs like lack of colour, temperature or lethargy I'd not worry.

Witchend · 14/08/2017 08:29

Never wake a sleeping baby.

Dd1 slept through at 8 weeks. She was also putting on above centile lines weight, so clearly getting enough.

Becca83 · 14/08/2017 08:30

Around 8-10 weeks. She loves her sleep though and now at almost 2 still has a 3 hour nap plus sleeps 7-7 every night. I'm very aware this is unlikely to be the same with the next one!

selsigfach · 14/08/2017 08:32

Nearly 3 and still waiting. sob

HighwayDragon1 · 14/08/2017 08:33

3 years old. I've still not recovered properly.

kingfishergreen · 14/08/2017 08:33

Unless the baby is unwell or underweight, I wouldn't wake it.

DD first slept through at 8 weeks, we thought we had the Wonder Baby. She is now 10mo and since then she sleeps on rotation:

  1. A week of sleeping through
  1. A couple of weeks of waking three or four times
  1. A week of waking every FORTY FIVE FUCKING MINUTES until our eyes are falling out of our heads
  1. A couple of weeks of waking three or four times
  1. A week of sleeping through
  1. Etc.

It's like she knows when we just get used to a phase of the cycle and switches it up.

Luckily she's a bloody joy during the day (even when she refuses to nap for more than 30 minutes).

MelinaMercury · 14/08/2017 08:38

That sounds fine to me OP, if she's putting on weight and seems alert and happy in herself then I wouldn't worry and enjoy it whilst you can.

However, if she's a very drowsy baby who has trouble staying awake or you struggle to wake her then it might be worth a visit to the doctor for a wee checkup incase there's an underlying issue.

Mine didn't reliably sleep through until 3 years and DD is 4.5yo still isn't reliable!

Ameliablue · 14/08/2017 08:45

I wouldn't wake her at this age, her patterns will likely change over the coming weeks as she has a growth spurt and also as she becomes more mobile, so I'd just go with it.

WunWun · 14/08/2017 08:46

Four years old.

Oysterbabe · 14/08/2017 08:46

The night time sleep is fine but I'd be concerned about the lack of naps.

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pinkiepie1 · 14/08/2017 08:51

Thanks for the replies.
We don't have weighing clinics in my area anymore. Which totally baffled me cos with other dd loved going and seeing how much she'd grown. But I did leave a message for my hv other day just to put my mind at rest about her weight so she's coming in 2wks so I can at least know she's still gaining weight.

I would love for her to have a few naps in the day or even just 1, because by 3pm she is a nightmare. Like screams for 2hrs until bath time and then all happy, then cries after it.

If you don't mind me asking, how did people establish? Daytimes naps, any tips? only because she will only fall asleep if I'm holding her, tried the self sooth, (which did work on other dd but she was older)
Tried taking Moses basket upstairs.
It is a little difficult at the min with it been 6wk hols as my 4yr old is very very noisy, never shuts up lol.
I guess when she's at school full time it will be quieter in the day so it might happen then.

Sorry I feel like I'm rambling lol.

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Schroedingerscatagain · 14/08/2017 08:53

I was very lucky indeed, DD first child slept through at 6 1/2 weeks from 10pm feed to 6.30 next morning

DS 15 months younger slept through for the first time on Christmas Eve at just 6 weeks again 10 pm till 6.30am

They were both big babies one breast fed one bottle due to severe tongue tie

To this day mid teens I can say that I could count on the fingers of one hand the amount of times we've had to get up to them in the night, usually if they're unwell

Even now if we travel for more than 20 mins DS nods off