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Does/did your 4.5 year old still tantrum?

35 replies

WhatEaglesWear · 13/08/2017 20:42

I really thought it would've subsided now.

Just interested to hear from other parents.

Am really worried how my ds is going to cope when he starts school in a couple of weeks.

OP posts:
edwinbear · 13/08/2017 20:44

My 5.5 yr old DD had a corker of one today when her elder brother beat her round the BMX track.

thatverynightinmaxsroom · 13/08/2017 20:44

I don't have a 4.5yo yet but I just spent the weekend with one and he certainly does.

KarateKitten · 13/08/2017 20:45

Oh we had one today. And he's never been much of a tantrummer.

bexibean · 13/08/2017 20:45

my 5.5 year still does...

Alanna1 · 13/08/2017 20:46

Yes. Often!

Figgygal · 13/08/2017 20:47

My 5.5 yr old does too sometimes too

SnowiestMountain · 13/08/2017 20:47

Yes, it's getting less for sure but I'm afraid so

Fitzsimmons · 13/08/2017 20:48

Nearly 5. Yes, absolutely. However it is always when he is tired. If he is not tired he is much more able to deal with tantrum triggering situations.

BroomstickOfLove · 13/08/2017 20:49

They never really stopped, just became teenaged strops.

Fruitcorner123 · 13/08/2017 20:49

born early 2013 just had one today that lasted about 30 mins because she wanted a snack and we said she had to wait. I was worrying about her at school so was so glad to see your op!!

She coped fine at pre-school and we once bumped into her pre-school leader on the walk in while she was having a tantrum about not wanting to walk. The pre school woman said" wow I've never seen that side of DD before" so I don't think she ever tantrums at school. Its saved up especially for us Grin

Ekphrasis · 13/08/2017 20:50

Yes, never had them when younger. Some hum dingers now.

I've been warned there's MANY at Christmas after the first full term at school. They're knackered and whipped up by Christmas at school.

Yika · 13/08/2017 20:53

My 6 yo still does actually and has done through the first years of school. It's subsiding with a lot of patient work from the teacher. (Of course, I also try to work on it with her but I think I am less effectual.) It's hard work. Lovely warm personality but very fiery. Variety of reasons I think. Doing fine at school and making good friends though (if that reassures you). Good teacher and small class - has been handling it very well.

khajiit13 · 13/08/2017 20:54

This makes me feel a bit better. DS has not long turned 4 but I feel like tantrums are a 2/3 year old thing but DS is still going strong

BubblesBuddy · 13/08/2017 20:56

You may well find that he learns very quickly that having a tantrum at school just does not succeed in getting anything. Certainly not friends or attention. Children are busy in YR and teachers expect good behaviour and, by and large, they get it. Children tend to know what is expected of them very quickly. He may save tantrums for after school, of course! However, keep calm and maintain your behaviour standards. The teachers will.

I had one that came out of school chewing a wasp every day until I worked out her food intake needed management. We moved to a cooked breakfast because there was no cooked lunch at school. At lunch she had to have a packed meal she really enjoyed with food that gave energy and when I collected her, an immediate snack was required. Big improvement!

Fruitcorner123 · 13/08/2017 20:57

agree with the tiredness comment. It does seem very much linked to how tired/out of routine she is. The good thing about school is tht you have to establish a routine so that might help.

thehousethatjillbuilt · 13/08/2017 20:58

Heaven forbid my 4.5 year old should fall asleep during the day. He always has a corker of a tantrum on waking.

Chamonix1 · 13/08/2017 20:58

Yes.

Trb17 · 13/08/2017 20:58

Lol my 11yo DD can still throw a wobbler! But now she does it with pre teen swagger and a much more scathing vocabulary.

At 7 she had a legendary meltdown that me and friends who witnessed it still laugh about! It may e d up an urban myth it was that bad Grin but funny too.

Allfednonedead · 13/08/2017 20:59

4.5 year old twins here. They can tag-team tantrums.

OrphanAccount · 13/08/2017 21:02

My youngest DC still has tantrums when she's anxious, scared or tired. They consist of her lying on the floor screaming for up to an hour. She won't let me near her. Her starting Reception last September triggered some humdingers but fortunately they are much more infrequent now. She was having up to 3 a day but we haven't (touch wood) had any at all for nearly over a month now.

OrphanAccount · 13/08/2017 21:03

Interestingly, my DD has never had a tantrum at school. She behaved very well there. I guess at home she felt safe enough to let it all out.

SomewhatIdiosyncratic · 13/08/2017 21:05

Still going occasionally at 6.5, mainly connected to hunger and tiredness. He was a... err... sensitive toddler who had quite a perfectionist vision of what he wanted, and a speech delay that made it difficult to articulate his precise demands. He did calm down a lot from 3.5 as his speech improved.

The last couple of weeks of the school year were hard going. He's always been perfect at school and nursery, well he had one at nursery and they were astonished!

Georgieporgypuddinandpie · 13/08/2017 21:14

Ds (almost 5) storms off to his room in a huff telling me I have "really hurt his feelings" rather than having a tantrum now.

Ekphrasis · 13/08/2017 21:15

They don't really have tantrums at school - they bottle it all up (if anything to bottle) and hold it together, which is why we can get them at home. Or we get it cos they're tired. Or both.

I'm fully expecting tantrums to increase around October Grin

We've just been away and jet lag noticeably causes extra tantrums; im approaching it a similar way when he starts school!

wirrinboffin · 13/08/2017 21:17

Just spent a week on holiday with our 4.5 year old (starting school in 10 days) - at least 2 tantrums every day for a week - corker last night at check in for the flight - including screeching and having two handfuls of my hair and yanking at them because he was fed up waiting in the queue!