Help. Please.
I've just found out my mum in law has invited herself to come and stay at mine for 2 weeks whilst my brother in law (whom she lives with) is on holiday. I have a 1 year old, work part time and currently don't have a dishwasher which makes washing up a pain. To top that off, I actually cannot stand her. In the time I've been married, I've never received a compliment off her; she's always critical of what I do including my cooking and parenting saying there's not enough salt in something or why am I giving my poor daughter a dummy); she's insulted me in front of the whole family once implying that I didn't help enough at their parties when there were already 9 women in the kitchen and I was exhausted as I was working full time and commuting 1hr 30mins to and from work; she's a very negative person overall; she repeats things 20 times at least and talks very loudly (due to hearing problems); she has no interests beyond praying and attending the community centre when driven there; whilst I was pregnant she didn't help me once or offer to cook although she does for her daughter and daughter in law and instead told me my belly was too low and my belly was too small so my baby would be too small. Husband has never stuck up for me in front of her and I basically have no time for the woman. To make my husband happy, I used to dye her hair with him regularly and buy her clothes /hair dye and even sorted out her whole room for her when they moved house but when she didn't seem to reciprocate it and remembered her sons birthday often but not mine I just couldn't be bothered anymore.
Granted, she does have arthritis and she is 80. But if she moves in to my place for 2 weeks, AIBU to move to my parents? I cannot take people staying over in my space for so long as I'm quite a private person... and I do not want to look after her in addition to my baby.
Nightmare.