To think this is a bit weird....?

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I have a teenage babysitter, who is the daughter of an acquaintance. The other day whilst the daughter was babysitting, the mum popped in to my house, to see her daughter and subsequently my children.

I don't know why particularly, but this makes me feel a bit odd. I wasn't asked and the sitter didn't mention it when I paid her before she went home. I found out when I bumped into the mum in town.

AIBU? I know I can be a bit protective of my space and who is invited into it, so I may well be overreacting, but I think I would just have liked a courtesy 'is it okay if...?', to which I would likely have said of course, so why do I feel so weird about it. I don't even have a better word than weird!

Happy to be told I'm a weirdo, I know I am!

I'm glad I read this thread. I literally just said to my DD, who is babysitting for a neighbour next week, that I may pop round to see if she needs a hand, and her reaction was, "well I would have to ask neighbour if that's OK first"

Im witg benlui. Its like popping in to see your daughter whiles she's working her shift at mcD's but expecting her to take her break to chat with her mum sk they can eat their happy meal together.

No.

My phone is killing me. Apologies.

How old was the teen? Does mum need to transport teen to the babysitting job?

It's likely mum was collecting her daughter or dropping something off. Can't see the big deal.

It's maybe not about her being capable centreyourself, but rather that the babysitter knows the OP trusts her, so it's probably never even occurred to her that her mum popping round (for whatever reason) could cause a problem for the OP.

If it was random mates, boyfriends or someone she'd met down the pub briefly the week before then I could understand it, but it's her mum. So long as they're not drinking shots or skinning up in the front room what's the problem? (and I say that as someone who never invites anyone round)

How well do you know the mum?

I'm a teenager and I babysit. From time to time, I ask my mum to pop up to the house I'm babysitting at- say if I've forgotten to bring something with me like a phone charger/ purse. Sometimes she'll stay for 5 minutes and I'll just fill her in my plans for the rest of the day and she'll say hi & whatnot to the kids. But she wouldn't stay long. I've mentioned this to the mum of the kids before e.g " Oh yes my mum was passing so she dropped off my purse. She liked child's name's hair' and they never seem to have a problem that she's popped round?

I think that's a bit different Disco. Dropping something off and saying hello to the children at the door is fine.

Inviting someone (even your Mum) into someone else's home while they are out is not the same thing.

If there was an emergency and the teen called her Mum for assistance, fine but I'd expect to be told.

Look at it this way, would you expect your cleaner or gardener or decorator to have their Mum visit while you were out?