correct names and MILs

[lucyellensmum]

I get very very angry btw when mother in law sends cards to dd with her dads surname, not married see. I woudlnt mind if she was doing it by mistake but is making a point - my point being if he wants his dd to have his name then he should bloody well marry her mother! So there's a can of worms, i should point out that my MIL is lovely though and i love her but you know how it is with us mums and our MIL, just let anyone q our parenting, go on just you try it! Oh god, do i go on too much. But what do you all think, should a child bear its fathers name, and where did that come from. I have a child from a previous relationship though and wanted both children to have same surname, have been with DP for 15 years and no intention on getting married - grrr.

Ds has dp's surname because he is the last of that line whereas my wider family is full of small children all bearing my surname. That was an easy decision to make.

Dp and I will answer to just about any combination of our surnames, no longer bothered. My mother, however, is always keen to address everyone properly, so when ds was in hospital she sent us a Get Well Soon card and addressed it to me - on the basis that I was staying there with him, and I was the one who could read. Of course, none of the nurses had a clue who Ms [Initials] Matonic was, since ds was the patient and booked in under his different surname. The card did finally make its way to us, just as we were leaving (I think I had to sign something and someone spotted my not-very-common surname and put two and two together).

And that is about the one and only time that ds having a different surname to me has posed any problem at all. I keep waiting for the time when, I am told, it becomes an admininstrative hassle, but it hasn't happened yet.

my first language is English. I daresay there are those whose second language is English speak better english than wot i do! FFS, i wasnt awere that this was a place to converse in the queens english, rather just let your thoughts leak from your fingers. I'm sorry big fat if my lousy grammar offends you. Oh and its racist, not racialist btw

but hang on a minute, lets prioritise a little here, Where IS Dr Who from anyway?

lucyellensmum - sorry to jump in here, don't normally get involved in these things, but I genuinelyy don't think BFM meant any offence, think she was just implying you may be a time lord!

Well the current one is scottish, or so DH tells me

Katy, im not offended at all just made me think though, where is he from? lol my comment was meant in good humour, but my bad grammar is getting me into trouble again! Big fat, i really hope i havent offended you.

Have asked jeeves - as usual jeeves hasn't got a clue. Keep thinking of krypton, but that's superman!

Calm down calm down, i was only joking. Actually didnt read the other thread, just saw the racialist thing in the title and thought i would try and lighten your mood. Oh dear, this typing business is quite controversial isn't it. Do YOU know where Dr who is from by the way.

escape goat - i like that though

Katy, honestly!!! what sort of Butler does he think he is!

i have a phd, a science subject, which is why my english is shot to flippery

I don't think I've ever managed to get a straight answer out of that man!

and no, im not from liverpool, but a friend of mine is, perhaps thats the problem. Bigfat, have you got pmt today?

Yes, was wondering the same, and if, in fact, my first post was right!

It matters not, im not easily offened, unless of course you get my dd's name wrong - grrrrr

well no of course, it was the implication of the curly hair and mustache that got me i am of course refering to the comedy sketch that you were, i think reffering to, before i upset anyone else,im not having a good day

well no of course, it was the implication of the curly hair and mustache that got me i am of course refering to the comedy sketch that you were, i think reffering to, before i upset anyone else,im not having a good day

I can turn on the smarts when i need to, in this forum i just like to say what i think before i rearrange the syntax!