To be fed up with DH and friends endless football talk?

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DH and I have a good friend (was my friend originally, but luckily he and DH get on famously) Friend often comes down and visits us for weekends and up until recently we've always had a good time when he does.

Both DH and friend are football obsessed. At first I thought it was nice that they'd both found someone to discuss their obsession with and they used to keep the conversation within none boring limits.

However it's now getting to the point where ALL they talk about is football. For example friend came down yesterday. DH at work late, so friend and I just chatting etc. DH comes back and friend falls into this weird semi silence with DH not having a lot to say either. I leave room and they IMMEDIATELY start talking about football. This is now becoming the status quo when friend visits. I eventually got tired/slightly bloody fed up, went to bed and they sat up for another hour talking about footbal. I'd also had some upsetting and delicate medical news earlier that day and DH didn't even come into bedroom to ask me about it. Just sat in living room talking about bloody sport.

AIBU to be starting to find it utterly tedious? I feel like I'm just a barrier to them talking about their number one topic these days. It's not that I don't want them to have a mutual interest, but it's now ALL they talk about

You need to read up on these footballers and start joining in - making sure to mention only the fit ones - mmmmm!!
Bet the subject is swiftly changed. .

If only that would work DH doesn't care about that sort of thing sadly. They'd just keep bloody talking!

I'd go out tbh, sounds dull

Afraid i can't help as i'm that annoying person who discusses football a lot (although i can discuss other things) ☺. He was a bit thoughtless to not ask about the medical issue though, i would pull him on that, even if the new football season has just started!

It's so bloody dull bigchris I don't know how they can't hear how fecking boring they are being!

Yay football season only a week old

Premier league starts today

Good times

Go out for the day and leave them to it

I don't even really mind them discussing football minionsrule It's more the fact that they've started sitting in semi silence when they aren't talking about it. Like they both can't be arsed to think up some none football related conversation.

I used to think it was cute at first, but it's just getting really extreme now.

We were all supposed to be going out today, but I can't be bloody arsed with either of them. My DH actually 'casually' mentioned that his team are playing today after we'd been discussing what we were going to do.

Feel like just sending them both there given that it's what they want to be doing really.

How utterly tedious.
Have you ever spoken to your husband about it?

It's deeply tiresome.

Have you talked to your DH about how it makes you feel? He may not realise?

I've mentioned it Deadgood but I feel it's time for the real serious conversation with both of them tbh. It's just getting worse and I'm starting to feel like I'm nothing but a barrier to their football talk

I have mentioned before that I would appreciate DH making more effort conversation wise but he never does.

Perhaps I've just married a boring bastard and I didn't realise.

Just do your own thing, I don't really understand couples who seem to expect it is the role of their partner to 'entertain' them - yes, I agree your DH should have asked you about your medical appointment but my DH & I (married 30 years ) enjoy completely separate social lives, I am sure he is bored senseless by my hobbies just as I am bored by his.

One of the reasons i stopped going in my local pub was for the irrational obsession with football. Huge tv screen on full blast blaring out blasted football. Totally dominated the room, killed all normal conversation......boring bastards, why are pubs catering for men like this. There was a time when a pub would play music, juke box etc. All the atmosphere of a pub has gone because of football. Yanbu op, men that are so obsessed with football bore the hell out of me, and anger me too.

I don't expect to be entertained Ragwort but neither do I expect to be made to feel like my presence is nothing but a barrier to what they really want to talk about.

It's rude and I would never do that to DH. Friend is supposed to be here visiting both of us. I don't really mind them discussing football. I do however object to them making no effort to have any other conversation other than that.

Mine is obsessed with it. I have just built my own life now and no longer give a fuck about it, or him

There are men who don't like football and women who do so to me it's a bit of a generalisation to say pubs are catering for men.

That's rubbish dementedma I'm sorry.

heartstornastray it's starting to anger me too. It's SO fucking boring and I say that as someone who does actually enjoy a good game of football.

If you feel excluded from the conversation tell them both how rude they're being. I say this as someone who's extremely interested in football.

It's not that I'm excluded ilovesooty There's just barely any conversation. Then as soon as I leave the room they start talking about football.

It's so rude and dull😡

I guess they have absolutely nothing else in common and can't find anything else to say to each other. It does sound terribly dull to me - but then I've never understood why anyone take so much interest football anyway if they are not the ones actually playing!

Tell them. I had a similar situation but it was about cycling. There was a bit of a huff at first, but they did stop boring on about it endlessly around me.

Try being married to an actual footballer OP then you'd feel my pain 🙈🙄
I've learnt to blank it out now. Or ask daft questions. Or attempt to explain the offside rule in terms of purses and handbags. Or I just leave them to it! Does DH friend visit often?