To be fed up with DH and friends endless football talk?

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DH and I have a good friend (was my friend originally, but luckily he and DH get on famously) Friend often comes down and visits us for weekends and up until recently we've always had a good time when he does.

Both DH and friend are football obsessed. At first I thought it was nice that they'd both found someone to discuss their obsession with and they used to keep the conversation within none boring limits.

However it's now getting to the point where ALL they talk about is football. For example friend came down yesterday. DH at work late, so friend and I just chatting etc. DH comes back and friend falls into this weird semi silence with DH not having a lot to say either. I leave room and they IMMEDIATELY start talking about football. This is now becoming the status quo when friend visits. I eventually got tired/slightly bloody fed up, went to bed and they sat up for another hour talking about footbal. I'd also had some upsetting and delicate medical news earlier that day and DH didn't even come into bedroom to ask me about it. Just sat in living room talking about bloody sport.

AIBU to be starting to find it utterly tedious? I feel like I'm just a barrier to them talking about their number one topic these days. It's not that I don't want them to have a mutual interest, but it's now ALL they talk about

He visits a lot flickertee He's actually my friend originally. Which makes being so excluded even more annoying!

I wondering if they actually get on that well, sounds like they do not know what to say to each other.

Maybe they don't actually get on / like each other and so the football chat is their way of covering that up.

This is bizarre... when does a relationship get to a point where you feel you can dictate to your partner the conversations they have with their friends?! Maybe they don't talk when you're in the room because they sense you don't like football conversation? Before you speak to them about this I'd advise you imagine this scenario in reverse and your partner asking you and your friends to stop discussing your favourite conversation topic.

They do get on. They actually went away to Germany together (to watch football funnily enough) and had a great time.

They didn't used to talk about football as much as now. It's become a growing obsession over the months. They've even taken to sending massive football centric texts to each other all the time.

teaandcake the point is that I would sit in semi silence with a friend giving the impression I was just waiting for them to leave the room to talk!

When I get together with my friends my DH wouldn't even sit in the same room as us (and vice versa) - he perfectly well understands that we have things that we want to talk about without him being around.

It's my dh and teen ds here. I just let them crack on but I get where you are coming from.

I love the football and talking about it with my mates but if that's all I had to talk about with someone then I would probably feel it was a pretty awkward friendship. Sounds like they don't have much else in common? Have you tried changing the convo?

My DH and his brother talk incessantly about football. It's how they relate to another. They get on fine.
I just think of it as them suffering from some terrible syndrome which they are powerless to overcome.

Wouldn't rather...

Also he's not DH friend. He was my friend originally. If he was just DH mate I would leave them to it obviously.

why are pubs catering for men like this

They're cateringfor people who like football.....that isn't a "man thing"

I'm the one taking DP to the pub to watch football.... but it is the sports pub; I expect people to interested would go elsewhere.

I don't think it's the football talk that's the problem, to be honest. It's that they're making no effort to talk to you when you're in the room, so that when you leave they can have a private conversation. The topic of that conversation is irrelevant. Talk to him.

"Maybe they don't talk when you're in the room because they sense you don't like football conversation?"

Dazzling insight there. Of course that's what they are doing, and that's what the OP finds rude! Why can't they just talk about something else FFS?

OP have you tried to start up a group conversation; esp as this guy was your friend originally? Not having a go but i can't believe you coukdn't get some sort of non football chat going. Btw what team does he support...... nosy 😀

He's not DH friend, he was mine originally.

Friendships evolve. Maybe he enjoys spending time with your DH more nowadays, especially as they have a shared interest!

Yes jaques but the majority of them are men, most women i know would rather go in a pub without football blaring away.

What's "none football"? (Do you mean non-football?)

My DH talks incessantly about motorbikes with his likeminded friends. They get erm, very passionate and it's goes on and on. I just switch off.

What I find worse is with friends and family where we live (I moved across country to be with him) the conversations go on and on about do you remember so and so, used to live at no ? Just past (insert street name, building, colour of picket fence). That's fine but I'd say it covers 80% of all conversations and I haven't a clue who they're on about. I'm like this inside 😩 after an hour or two. Haha!

Yes jaques but the majority of them are men, most women i know would rather go in a pub without football blaring away

Probably some kind of establishment that doesn't show sport would be the way to go....