Exdp has always been a bit of a shit, although I couldn't see it at first. We were together for 5 years and he was frequently emotionally, physically and financially abusive (he brokes laptops before deadlines for assignments, strangled me, hit me, called me a fat bitch while battling ED). He also fathered two children before our DD, which he denied and abandoned. I didn't find this out until DD was around 1.
I'm now happy and settled with DD and a new DP who is wonderful and supportive and I have honestly never been happier. We are finally financially and emotionally stable and DD doesn't live in a house full of tension.
HOWEVER we're still having major problems with ex. At points he has gone months without paying any maintenance. He makes promises to DD that he doesn't keep. He was meant to have her yesterday, but said he was ill which I was sympathetic about at first. He also said he couldn't pay me for two weeks as he had taken holiday that he hadn't accrued or something? Fair enough, slip ups happen.
I then looked on Facebook, and he has taken his new girlfriend out for the evening, so clearly not as poor or ill as he is suggesting. He also has form for buying new xboxes, games, clothes, tattoos, piercings when he has been pleading poverty.
His girlfriend is heavily pregnant. They must have conceived a couple of weeks into their relationship. My point is he doesn't put enough effort in for DD now, so when his new dc is born I really fear for her. I checked the netflix account one time when she was at his, and she had been watching for 4 out of the 6 hours he had her.
She is 4 and she never wants to sleep over at his, as she says she doesn't feel safe, and the biggest issue is that every time she comes back from his, she is upset because his girlfriend ignores her and plays on her phone the whole time. No interactions whatsoever apart from a "hello".
Sorry this is so disordered, I'm just so angry and upset for DD and don't know what I can do.