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Friend sending FR to DP

46 replies

mummyrabbitpeppapig · 11/08/2017 19:57

My friend ( whom.i used to work with ) met my DP a couple of times and then sent him a FR on FB ( she's single and he's not added her btw ). Am.i overthinking this? Wwyd?

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Nicknacky · 11/08/2017 19:58

Yes, I would say you are overthinking it. She is maybe just the type that adds people that she meets without putting too much thought into it.

arethereanyleftatall · 11/08/2017 20:00

Wwid? Absolutely nothing.
Many people want to be friends after only a few meet ups.

StillDrivingMeBonkers · 11/08/2017 20:01

Is she also on your friends list?

PunnetSquare · 11/08/2017 20:01

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Fireguardmaiden · 11/08/2017 20:01

I'd do a face, I admit.

Original poster
mummyrabbitpeppapig · 11/08/2017 20:02

Thanks everyone. Yes I probably AM overthinking it.

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BluePheasant · 11/08/2017 20:02

Wouldn't worry. Some people seem to add everyone they've ever met on fb.

JuicyCake · 11/08/2017 20:02

Lots of folk do this. They are just social media junkies who like to have lots of "friends". Anyone they connect with is added to their online community. Fairly common these days...

steff13 · 11/08/2017 20:02

You're overthinking. Quite a lot, I think.

Chipshopninja · 11/08/2017 20:02

If she is also friends with you then massively overthinking

If not then yes...weird!

MaryShelley1818 · 11/08/2017 20:03

Really overthinking!! My DP is FB friends with a few of my friends. What does it matter??

MrsJamesAspey · 11/08/2017 20:03

If she's got 1000 friends on fb I wouldn't worry, if she's got 50 and they're mostly blokes I'd be a bit Hmm

But either way if DP hasn't accepted it then it doesnt matter.

Lucie8881 · 11/08/2017 20:04

I don't think it's odd, some people have loads of FB friends whatever the tenuous link others keep a closer circle of friends.

I really wouldn't read anything into it.

Had your friend ever given you reason in the past to question her motives?

PollyFlint · 11/08/2017 20:07

You're massively overthinking this. A few of my friends' husbands/partners have friended me on Facebook and my DP is Facebook friends with some of my friends too - there's definitely no ulterior motive. It doesn't mean anything sinister.

Trills · 11/08/2017 20:17

That's a pretty fast "yep, I am" for AIBU :)

Well done.

KindleBueno · 11/08/2017 20:19

I always think in these situations what people think we do in a gay relationship. Do you think it's wrong that I accept any friend requests from my wife's single mates that I've met?

user1457213512 · 11/08/2017 20:19

Seriously? Um, yes you're being extremely unreasonable. No offence but it's the kind of thing a 12 year old would ask. Confused

Papafran · 11/08/2017 20:20

Overthinking. She doesn't want to shag him.

fourandnomore · 11/08/2017 20:21

One of the mums from school I have noticed makes FB friends with everyone she meets. A lot of them are friends' husbands but she's just wanting loads of friends on there I think. Nothing in it I don't think.

RestlessTraveller · 11/08/2017 20:23

I find random friending on Facebook strange. I have received requests from two of my male friends wives who I've never even met. I just ignore them.

PinkHeart5911 · 11/08/2017 20:26

Your over thinking it!

What has her being single got to do with anything? Do you think becuase she's single she wants to jump on every cock she sees? Confused

maybe she's just being noisy about what his like? Maybe she likes her friends number to go up? Maybe she lives for facebook?

It's a Facebook request not a marriage proposal

KitKat1985 · 11/08/2017 20:29

DH is friends on FB with some of my friends, and I'm friends on FB with some of his friends. We've all hung out socially on plenty of occasions together so why not? It doesn't mean anything sinister.

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mummyrabbitpeppapig · 11/08/2017 20:32

Pink I see you are a keyboard warrior - if anyone had bothered to read my update you would have known my thoughts - but hey! If it helps you vent / get your rocks off etc - don't let me stop you from major overreacting

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Maelstrop · 11/08/2017 20:41

Bit odd, IMO. My dh's colleague/best mate at work requested me, but we see a lot of him, so I thought that was ok, if a bit weird.

itsgoodtobehome · 11/08/2017 20:45

How old are you? Seriously stop living your life on FB. If he's going to run off with your friend, it won't be because they are FB friends!!!