Excuses that really piss you off....

[squirtymcsquirterson]

Just want to know I'm not alone in hating ridiculous excuses!! Was messaging a guy who then blanked me completely....for two months!!! Then messages me yesterday with a 'sorry been busy' - well I saw red! Maybe OTT but what excuses really make the red mist descend for you??

@chickaleta actually, this happened regularly with DH's iphone 5. He'd send texts and I'd text him and they would randomly show up hours or even days later if at all. (I'd be sat there at night with him watching tv and the message I sent a day ago would ping up on his phone.)
I have no idea why it did it but I do believe his mobile was certainly not the norm.
I bought him a 7 for his birthday and set the bloody thing up properly, unlike DH who refuses to follow simple instructions and it texts come through fine so far. So I do believe that text messages can disappear off into the ether sometimes with no explanation.

Yeah that's a nonsense about drunk people saying what they mean, especially very drunk, very drunk me doesn't even know me!

Mine is I replied didn't I? Eh no I wouldn't be repeating the question if you did!

A (former) friend once told me he didn't come to my party because his mum wouldn't let him. He was 29 at the time. (That was one of four excuses he gave me for why he decided at the last minute not to come).

I sometimes genuinely don't get texts. Sometimes they turn up eventually, hours or even days late and sometimes they don't show up at all. My friend has the same problem.

Anyway, I'm sure you'd rather hear that your friend never received the text if the alternative was 'sorry I didn't reply but your dramas are doing my head in and some of us actually need to work during the day'

Friend who was always 40-60 minutes late for every meet up 'I just had to wash up' or 'I was just tidying'.

Colleague who told me he couldn't come in because he had drunk too much coke and given himself a stomach ache. For two days. I was furious, it caused me a ton of extra work. Another colleague once took the day off because she couldn't get her car window closed so needed to go and get it fixed. It's a job that needs someone to cover if someone is off.

The soup and the too much fruit are hilarious

I had a friend once meet me something like four hours later than planned. I sat with a coffee and a book comparatively content but increasingly incredulous for most of it. She said she'd fallen over in the train station and this somehow detained her for four hours

Someone I thought was a good friend did not come to my wedding and afterwards gave the excuse ;'I was helping my brother demolish his garden shed'.

(He'd rsvped he was coming, obviously).

My BIL did not come to the wedding either because he forgot to tell us he was migrating to the US 2 days beforehand.

(There's history there, in case that was no obvious!)

There are only three things in the world which tell the truth: children, leggings and drunk people.

one out of three is a pretty poor score.

I hate the kind of excuse that makes it clear that something really quite trivial is more important than you.
When my child died, my mother didn't bother to come to the hospital for 12 hours (just as I was leaving). Her excuse was that she had some work to do (although we both knew that the work in question was done by someone else). Now when she lectures me about family being the most important thing (and so I should do what she wants...)I just laugh at her.
I'm also annoyed by sudden injury excuses. As in "I was literally just on my way out to your party/wedding/other event when I/my child had a sudden nosebleed/head injury/does of the shits". Nobody is fooled, just tell the truth. To be honest, unless you are being my bridesmaid or my child's godparent, I'd consider "I just couldn't be arsed" to be funny enough to make an acceptable excuse.

In the last few years I've noticed a massive increase in people (family mainly) saying they're busy. We're all busy - we all have jobs and kids.

I think that in my circle as people have gotten older they get more selfish about their free time and they don't want to commit to things. Saying they are busy is just a coverall.

Nobody is so busy that they can't find thirty seconds to respond to a text. I'm currently organising a surprise birthday party - more than half of the people I texted have not responded yet. I think this is rude. Why not send a text saying 'thanks so much for invite - I'll let you know in a few weeks as not sure if we can organise babysitter/get time off work, etc.'

"I don't have time to exercise" Alright love

Lenl that must be what she was implying, but she instigated the meet up and then didn't say "but I'm free Monday if you are" - nothing. So why go through all that in the first place?

There are lots of underlying reasons though for chickening out though like that, I'd guess anxiety a lot of the times too. This old friend always used to boast about how wonderful her life, job and house was. I sense a bit of over compensation.

Worst excuse ever was when my Mum was dying, my father asked my Aunt to come and say goodby (my Mums sister). Her response was 'no point, it won't make any difference'. Oddly my father never spoke to them again.

On a more 'normal' note I hate the 'I didn't realise' excuse. No...you didn't give it any thought actually.

Peanut, that was awful of them

Parentincharge

Coffeetasteslikeshit
I'm thinking specifically of one colleague who habitually loses emails to cover for not having done work.
We probably exchange about 15 email a day during busy periods and they all come through fine except for the mysterious times when he's 'having problems with his emails' that coincide with not having done something important.
Or he is strangely unable to find me the email he sent yesterday that didn't arrive.
JUST LOOK IN YOUR SENT MESSAGES. Its not there? THATS BECAUSE YOU LIED ABOUT SENDING IT!

Everyone knows that people make massive efforts for the people they genuinely like and care about because we do it ourselves. I'll usually reply to my best friend within seconds, even if I'm in the bath or on the loo (but likewise she knows if I don't reply right away it's because I'm genuinely busy). If someone I wasn't that crazy about texted at those times, I would probably wouldn't bother.

Demolishing a shed though instead of going to a wedding is excellent though.

I'm off to a lunch today with friends. The invitation went out 3 months ago with timings - everyone accepted ( you'd hope, having read the fucking invite i.e arrive 1, lunch at 2, drinks and games in the evening sort of thing). In the last three days when the 'Everyone ok for the weekend?' text went round, 2 out of 5 people have said "Oh, we'll have to leave early as we can't get a babysitter"

YOUVE HAD THREE FUCKING MONTHS, PEOPLE!

It makes me particularly cross as it's a close group of friends who don't see each other very often, hence the 3 month notice period, but the guilty parties in this case are the main protagonists of the " what a shame we never see each other!" Texts/emails.

And breathe.

excuse of they went to sleep yet they are active on FB, wouldn't mind but spent whole day sorting out their shit and needed them to give me minor details so could complete it.

People who have mobile glued to hand and don't reply or insist leaving a mesg on FB when I've said I don't use it much.

Btw I've had the text not come through I actually sat infront of someone whilst they retexed to show I haven't got it.

The excuse of my phone wasn't working yet they was on whatsapp several times.

Nancy yes...it was awful to tell my Mum that her sister wasn't coming to say goodbye. Broke her heart.

For my Aunt I think it was too much to witness -Mum was dying from breast cancer and my Aunt had cancer in both breasts a few years previous so it must have been too much like seeing a future that terrified her. Still...its not something you can ever 'fix' iykwim.

ZippyI am so sorry your child died and what an awful thing for your mum to do

When I was in hospital having problems in pregnancy with ds1 I called his dad and I got 'can't come, I've just eaten four bags of crisps' 🤔🤔
Asked what that had to do with anything and he said 'I've got a sodium overload, I need water and a sleep.' 🙄
Never did get to the bottom of that!

Hence the reason i dont wear leggings outside the house.
Excuses are made, mostly, because people cant be bothered.

Not so much as an excuse but people who can't operate without their car. 'Sorry can't come don't have the car today'
Amazes me how many people forget that buses, taxis or god forbid walking somewhere are all perfectly acceptable modes of transport.

He sounds a right peach Questioning! I hope he's pulled his socks up since then?