AIBU not to offer "pregnant women" a seat on public transport?

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Yesterday I was on the tube in London at rush hour. A lady with what looked to me like a very neat pregnant bump - quite hard and round was standing next to me. (I thought I could spot a slightly protruding belly button through her thin jumper, so I jumped to the conclusion that she was indeed pregnant).
Admittedly she didn't wear the badge but not every pregnant woman does.
Anyway a seat came free behind her, in my view and I offered her the seat, rather than taking it myself. She snapped at me: "I'm not pregnant!".
I was a bit mortified but more importantly, I felt bad at the thought that that might have upset her. I didn't actually mention to her that I thought she was pregnant at any point but perhaps she saw me eyeing up her stomach.
I mumbled an apology and sat down myself.
So in order to not risk this again, WIBU to just not offer any other woman a seat unless she is wearing a badge?

😂😂

She was very quick to take offence, if you didn't mention she was pregnant. You might have just been being nice and letting her have the seat. I would just carry on as you are.

Nah, she was an anomoly. She's not an excuse to not be kind to the next 'pregnant' woman you see.

YANBU obviously. Don't ever offer a woman a seat because you've guessed that they are pregnant. It's not OK unless they have a badge or you know them personally or they've specifically asked.

Haha unlucky! You did the right thing.

I've started to say:

'would you like this seat? I've been sitting all day at work.'

Just in case they aren't as pregnant or elderly as I perceive them to be!

I wouldn't wear the blue badge I think there embarrasing. Anyway you should have just waited to see if she sat down rather than offer her the seat

I only offer a seat if wearing a badge OR rubbing their belly in the way only pregnant women do.

I have been given seats before because my fat looks like I'm possibly pregnant. Honestly - I don't mind ! Unless the person says "Oh, as you're pregnant, you might want this seat", I don't see the harm. I take it to mean they're either lovely people giving up a seat or I look tired or, yes, I look pregnant. As long as I don't know the reason, I have no problem taking a seat if I get offered one !

Rude cow. ' I'm OK , thank you' would do.

Hope she doesn't bring up any kids with such an awful attitude.

She was having a bad day.

Keep offering seats to pregnant women.

Funny- there is an exact same thread from the other perspective about this!

I was so glad when people started offering me their seats, partly because I needed them and partly because it meant I finally looked pregnant and not fat.

Guava I was just about to say that too!

What is the badge?

Hope she doesn't bring up any kids with such an awful attitude.

What a bizarrely irrelevant comment

People wear badges? Fucking hell, I'm going to get one about my invisible disability!

OP, I would have just told her there was a seat behind her if she wanted. She was unnecessarily rude unless you stared at her belly.

People wear badges? Fucking hell, I'm going to get one about my invisible disability!

You should! Details here: tfl.gov.uk/campaign/please-offer-me-a-seat

'People wear badges? Fucking hell, I'm going to get one about my invisible disability!' - you can get those too.

Lots of people have a 'slightly protruding belly' though. So it seems odd to make that assumption, unless you go on the basis that every non-pregnant person has a washboard stomach?

Rivertam the OP said "slightly protruding belly BUTTON".

I do think it's best not to offer a seat unless you're very, very sure (someone's mistakenly thought I was pregnant before and it is not a nice feeling), but I still think this woman could have been politer about it - 'thanks but I'm not pregnant!', or even just 'no thanks' would have been much nicer!

I recently offered a seat to an older gentlemen on the tube.
He took huge offence that I had considered him old enough to require a seat. Started roping in other men into the conversation about how insulting it was. quietly backs away

Oh dear OP! I've done similar and it's mortifying, here

Mine was when I was 10, my mum had told me about her friend being pregnant. I'd forgotten which friend it was, and when one came round one day I saw a bump. I said "ooh congratulations Tina" thinking I'm oh so polite. She wasn't pregnant, it was a different friend I kind of did a "ha ha just joking" thing, very unconvincing.

At least I had the virtue of being a child so I could get away with it 😂