To be fucked off at DP for telling me this whilst I was eating.

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Had a horrible day with everything that could possibly go wrong, going wrong.
Finally get DC to bed and I decide to clean the bedroom whilst DP cooks our dinner. (They had theirs at childminder).
It's ready whilst I'm still cleaning, and I don't like leaving a job half finished, so I tell DP to go ahead and eat his and I'll eat mine when I've finished.
Come downstairs, sit at the table. Halfway through my meal, he decides to start telling me some story he read on the internet about conjoined adult twins, where one of them died and the other died as a result of decomposing toxins. Halfway through, I asked him if it was gory, and if it was, could he please stop.
He said it wasn't and carried on going, complete with disgusting details.
It completely put me off my food so I left the table and went upstairs. He can't understand why I'm upset. I appreciate I may have over reacted after the day I have had, but AIBU?

I'm not squeamish but I can't bear it when DH talks about poo when I'm eating. Yes, this happens often enough to be a problem Either describing DD's poo that day, or saying that he had a good poo earlier (WTF?!) or that he needs to go for one after dinner etc. I've told him a million times but he just doesn't seem to remember. I donmt strop off but it really pisses me off!

YANBU

Ott to leave the table.

YABU. And I would have been royally pissed off if I'd cooked for you and you thought the bathroom cleaning was more important than eating with me.

I know why you left the table. It sounds like you'd had one of those days where you did everything for everyone else. Then you had one simple, little request: stop talking about liquidy-twin death-squish while you're trying to enjoy your ratatouille... one simple request. And he said he'd stop, but he didn't. So FUCK THE WHOLE SODDING WORLD, you left.

I get this a lot.

Seriously? This was in the Daily Mail today and there was NOTHING squeamish sais at all! The basics were given that the twins suffered horrendously at the hands of scientists and that one was a pyschopath and the other not!

YABU. But if you've had a shit day here's some and and a packet of . Chill out and don't let it spoil your evening or make it a massive deal in the morning.

Hope tomorrow is better.

Stropping from the table was a bit ott but I understand being pissed off with your DP. I currently spend half my life trying to teach my DS appropriate conversation for the dinner table which, oddly enough, doesn't include people dying because of toxins. It also doesn't include poo, gory zombie stories, etc.
Yy there is a bit of leeway in what's acceptable at home rather than out in company but you told your DH to stop so he should have respected that.

How is your relationship generally? This sounds like a classic case of couples' disconnect and a failure of communication. I doubt either of you are unreasonable, but it doesn't sound like much fun.

YANBU OP!!!

Don't get these replies, he's an arse for telling you that story when you're eating when
A. He knows you're squeamish
B. You asked him not to
C. You had a rough day.

The posters telling you to man up have a case of "it doesn't bother me so I have no empathy"

My ex would never stop speaking even if I asked him under similar circumstances or if I was ridiculously tired or if he'd been wittering on about some conspiracy theory for half an hour and I had to get on with work.

Its fucking annoying and incredibly selfish - him telling the (not urgent or even relevant) story is more important than your needs at that time.

Yanbu.

(note - he is my ex...)

If the details included these twins being taken from the Mother from Birth (who was told that they had died). Kept in a glass tank, barely being kept alive, let alone being cared for and tortured until they were about 10 years old etc, then that's perfectly reasonable.

Unless posters really love tales of severely abused and Tortured children, over dinner, that is.

You've got the right to not want to hear such things and those wanting to tell you them should stop.

I'm normally the one who loves talking about yucky stuff,but I would always stop if DH asked me to.

My dh is like you, squeamish. DD and I wouldn't mind eating while being told all the gory details, we like watching the Vet Man doing operations and don't mind if we're all eating, it's not a problem.

We do hold off for dh's sake; he really can't take it. I think your dh should have shown a bit more understanding of your squeamishness.

YANBU. I don't mind talking about yucky stuff when eating but I think it's rude to do it if someone has specifically asked you to stop.

I think it was cheeky of you not to go down and have your meal when it was ready. I'd have been furious if I'd cooked and somebody said go ahead and eat I'll be there later. And your DP was also out of order talking about gory stuff whilst you were eating. But if I see something upsetting on TV I feel I need to share it with somebody even though they really don't want to hear.

I'm not squeamish at all about this type of thing so this wouldn't bother me - but if you are squeamish, and your DP knows this, YANBU to be annoyed with him. It was inconsiderate of him to tell you gory stories while you were eating, particularly as you asked him to stop.

It's really not fair of people to tell you to get a grip; it's not like you can actually help being squeamish any more than people can help having, say, a phobia.

Yanbu at all.
Whatever the subject if you ask someone to stop they should respect your wishes.

It sounds like six of one and half a dozen of another. He was unreasonable to burble on when you asked him to stop but it also sounds as if you had such an awful day you were on a hair trigger and whatever he did would have tipped you over at some point.

I hope you get a good night's sleep today and a better day tomorrow....and next time leave the cleaning for another day.