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AIBU?

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Original poster

To be fucked off at DP for telling me this whilst I was eating.

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User5Million · 10/08/2017 20:36

Had a horrible day with everything that could possibly go wrong, going wrong.
Finally get DC to bed and I decide to clean the bedroom whilst DP cooks our dinner. (They had theirs at childminder).
It's ready whilst I'm still cleaning, and I don't like leaving a job half finished, so I tell DP to go ahead and eat his and I'll eat mine when I've finished.
Come downstairs, sit at the table. Halfway through my meal, he decides to start telling me some story he read on the internet about conjoined adult twins, where one of them died and the other died as a result of decomposing toxins. Halfway through, I asked him if it was gory, and if it was, could he please stop.
He said it wasn't and carried on going, complete with disgusting details.
It completely put me off my food so I left the table and went upstairs. He can't understand why I'm upset. I appreciate I may have over reacted after the day I have had, but AIBU?

OP posts:
AssassinatedBeauty · 10/08/2017 20:45

I'd be annoyed that he hadn't listened to me and carried on, that's not on. So YANBU I think.

Original poster
User5Million · 10/08/2017 20:46

Ooh magic we had that a couple of weeks ago - not fun at all! You have my sympathies.

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GinaFordCortina · 10/08/2017 20:47

It would be an over reaction if you had said "Gory and disgusting! Please continue to regale me with your stories of conjoined twins" and then got the hump.

As you specifically said you didn't want to hear it he was being a twat

Original poster
User5Million · 10/08/2017 20:47

Well the OP wasn't 'AIBU to finish cleaning the bathroom instead of eat dinner with DP'

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Youcanttaketheskyfromme · 10/08/2017 20:47

I was in halls with Med students. Even they had the decency to understand not everyone wants to hear about that kind of thing while they are eating. Or even at all !

ShapelyBingoWing · 10/08/2017 20:48

Hmm So the OP took my comment the way it was intended but others feel the need to take offence.

Everyone has their own levels of squeamish OP. If he knows you don't like it then a reminder should have been enough to stop him carrying on.

That said, sounds like you've had a really long day. Have a Brew and put your feet up.

caffeinestream · 10/08/2017 20:48

No, but maybe he was pissed off with you and decided to carry on just like you did?

IdentifiesAsASloth · 10/08/2017 20:49

I like gory stuff but I think after a stressful day when im all wound up it would be the last thing I want to hear.

I don't think you were precious at all. He should have listened to you.

TmiTuesdays · 10/08/2017 20:50

WTF is wrong with some people on here?! Talking about decomposing corpses is not 'making conversation'. YANBU. YUCK.

squoosh · 10/08/2017 20:51

Well the OP wasn't 'AIBU to finish cleaning the bathroom instead of eat dinner with DP'

No but as she added that detail people get to comment on it.

squoosh · 10/08/2017 20:52

Or as you added that detail I should say.

cardibach · 10/08/2017 20:52

HWBU to continue his gory story.
YWBU to start cleaning the bathroom when you were already tired and when your DH was cooking. Even though you didn't ask.

Original poster
User5Million · 10/08/2017 20:53

He definitely wasn't pissed off that I carried on doing what I was doing - trust me, he'd have told me if he was! We often eat separate meals, or at different times. When I came down he had his laptop out at the table doing work, as he often does on an evening. Our weekday meal times really aren't a big thing, it's not like it was a candlelit romantic meal for two.

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LoyaltyAndLobster · 10/08/2017 20:54

YANBU there's a time and a place to speak about those kind of things and it's NOT at the dinner table.

Shoxfordian · 10/08/2017 20:55

You're a bit over the top

Don't think this is an issue

squoosh · 10/08/2017 20:56

I don't think it's worth stewing over. Get an early night and you'll feel better in the morning.

VelvetSpoon · 10/08/2017 21:00

Having been friends with lots of med students at Uni. who were always discussing dissection at the dinner table, i developed a strong stomach!

That said i know not everyone does. He should have stopped when you asked really.

MissionItsPossible · 10/08/2017 21:01

What's with the posts saying the OP was unreasonable by throwing a strop when they said they simply got up and walked away from the table?

steff13 · 10/08/2017 21:01

I think I'd have to know exactly what he said to decide. If he was talking about, say Chang and Eng Bunker, the story isn't all that gory, it's essentially just one died first then the other, because the first one die and his body started breaking down.

If he went into detail about fluids and bloating and stuff, yeah, that's gross.

BarbaraofSeville · 10/08/2017 21:11

Ooh, I always wondered what happened to the second twin if the first one died .

Miserylovescompany2 · 10/08/2017 21:11

I'd be pissed off if he'd cooked up the decomposing-conjoined-twins as that would be wrong on every level - also illegal!

You over reacted, then stomped upstairs...

Maybe if you'd eaten together his mouth would have been preoccupied?

sweetbitter · 10/08/2017 21:16

I honestly wouldn't find that off-putting as dinner conversation, though I guess if you asked him to stop he should have. I have to say I also don't get why after a long exhausting day you decided to clean the bathroom rather than relax and have dinner. I know it's not your AIBU, but it does jump out at me as a bit martyrish.

Original poster
User5Million · 10/08/2017 21:17

For everyone saying I 'stormed' or 'stomped' upstairs - I didn't, and nowhere did I say that in my OP! I simply left the table and went upstairs.

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CoolCarrie · 10/08/2017 21:20

My dh is well warned no medical stuff when we are eating, and I would be well pissed off if he ignored that.

squoosh · 10/08/2017 21:24

What's with the posts saying the OP was unreasonable by throwing a strop when they said they simply got up and walked away from the table?

Because she said she's 'fucked off'. Sounds stroppy.

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