To expect the whole family to sit at the dinner table until everyone has finished?

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I cook most of the meals in our house, some from scratch that require a lot of effort. DH loves his food and is a fast eater. He hoovers up his food within a couple of minutes and leaves the table. I'm then left alone with the kids. AIBU to think this is rude? I've told DH this and he got defensive and said no-one tells him what to do. Sigh. I told him he was being very rude and not teaching our children good table manners. It's like I've got a stroppy teenager on my hands!

Rude. It's one rule we've always insisted on. Everyone sits until we are all finished.

Dinner should be a social event, not just throwing food down your throat.

Incredibly rude. Don't cook for him at all until he changes his behaviour and apologises to you.

If he wants to have his own meals schedule that's fine - he can cook for himself, and also stop pretending to be a family man.

kitkatspikerat you are a genius, and I applaud your methods.

My DH is a fast eater too. He's the one who sorts the DC out while I finish eating my meal at my own leisurely pace. Incredibly rude to fuck off and leave you to it.

He's an idiot

How else is he rude and disrespectful to you?

Late update but DH has finally got the message and we've had several lovely family dinners since. We all catch up as a family and all chip in when it's time to clean up. Success!

Only problem with that rule is we have in our house hold a slow eater and i do mean slow, as in nearly an hour to eat main course is not unheard of and with dessert would be nearly 1 1/2 hours and would insane make every on wait on the slow eater ( i am not saying we all down our food just that shes insanely slow we have tried everything if we attempt to hurry she takes longer).

The only thing she can eat in normal time is sandwhiches and ceral and the ceral only because she hates it when it gets soggy. So after trying everything we wait til everyone else has finished and then leave the table.

Very rude and bad mannered! I hate being left at the table when I'm still eating. DP did it once (wandered off to find something) but never again!

My dp does this. I am also then left on my own with a table full of dirty dishes. when I ask him to pick up his plate he gets all stroppy- this in front of the kids!! I just don't know what to do about it (other than ltb)

Op- glad yours has stepped up.

Yes, I would also be left with a table of dirty dishes! Dh works an early shift so if I don't clear the table in the eve all the dishes would still be there at breakfast!

Perhaps if he's in such a hurry to leave the table he can do the dishes / load dishwasher and clean the kitchen work tops?

Well at least it's resolved. He was simply leaving because it was more fun that staying sitting. Selfish.

My husband would over occassionally do this if he wanted to watch something sporty on tv, and my daughter will always say " how rude, we are still eating" and she still does today.

You don't have to be taught it's rude, everyone knows it is. In addition he sounds like a proper twat, all this " no one tells me what to do" its dinner with his family ffs.

That would be lovely lol. New rule is one person clears the table/cleans the highchair and the other sorts the baby out (changes nappy/gets baby into pjs)

Success

Keep it up!