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Bringing a baby into work?

44 replies

BootsWithDresses · 09/08/2017 22:24

Ok fine to do to show your colleagues.

Bjt aibu to think you don't hang around the office for at least two hours with your baby crying on and off?

I have calls to make, as do other people. We all have work to concentrate on.

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sonjadog · 09/08/2017 22:28

I think you are being a bit miserable. Presumably the person didn´t sit there alone for two hours, but instead was talking to different people, while others went back to work?

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BootsWithDresses · 09/08/2017 22:31

I wouldn't say I'm miserable. I'd say I do into work to do my job, which at the moment is pretty stressful.

They were sat were the same group of people.

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Mumof56 · 09/08/2017 22:31

Have they no where better to be, I've work to be doing. I can't be working with a crying baby in the background.

I go to work to get away from children Grin

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BootsWithDresses · 09/08/2017 22:32

*go into

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/08/2017 22:33

Is this specific to a certain workplace?

I bring my baby into work, in that I bring her into the library and work with there there (since my workplace welcomes babies there). I wouldn't bring her in to an office to disturb people.

3luckystars · 09/08/2017 22:36

At least they are gone home now.

Maybe you under a lot of stress and are mad at the wrong person. I hope you have a better day tomorrow.

sonjadog · 09/08/2017 22:37

I still think you are being a bit miserable about it. If people want to sit for two hours and chat to someone with their baby, that´s their look out. If they should be ending it off and going back to work, that´s their supervisor´s look out. Assuming you are not their supervisor (or else you would have said something), then I think you should just focus on your own work and let them organize their own working day.

OnlyRose · 09/08/2017 22:43

YANBU, I would find this very distracting. Fine to pop in and say hello, but if the new parent wants to have a proper catch up then the group should go out for coffee or lunch. Nobody should be hanging around an office for hours with a baby.

Slimthistime · 09/08/2017 22:48

That's not on. Not surprised you're annoyed.

nodogsinthebedroom · 09/08/2017 22:50

Christ no. S/he is lovely to you, I'm sure, but nobody else gives a shit about your baby! (Sorry)

Akani · 09/08/2017 22:50

I work in an open-plan office; it's pretty hard to concentrate without babies and kids thrown into the mix. Is it someone who is leaving? How old is the baby?

KERALA1 · 09/08/2017 22:51

Yanbu cringey. No one else is interested really.

Mrscropley · 09/08/2017 22:52

Be prepared to speak out if she brings it in 9-5 one day though. .

codswallopandbalderdash · 09/08/2017 22:53

Don't think you are BU. I didn't take DC into work for v long - quick visits - for a number of reasons. One being that you can't assume everyone is going to care about your DC as much as you do. And it can be downright disruptive. Another being it is fucking hell on earth if you have had previous miscarriages / losses and there is a colleague there with a baby or you are having difficulties TTC.

Wolfiefan · 09/08/2017 22:53

Either a mother lonely and struggling with her new role. Or a mother who believes her precious baby is the most perfect ever and the whole world wants nothing more than to gaze adoringly at that face.
Surprised management didn't suggest the group move somewhere less intrusive. AKA get your arses back to work people!

PovertyPain · 09/08/2017 22:56

Bloody ridiculous. On the other hand, if it was a dog, that would be perfectly acceptable. 🐶😁

userofthiswebsite · 09/08/2017 23:02

That's the point though, crying baby in the office means it's hard to concentrate.

OP is not being 'miserable' about it. Some people need concentration for their work and a baby in the room crying would certainly make it harder for me.

YANBU

Akani · 09/08/2017 23:09

LRDtheFeministDragon

I wouldn't want to be disturbed by a baby whilst I was in a library working either. I think people do this because they are less likely to know the people they are disrupting, but it's really annoying when you are trying to concentrate to hear someone communicating with their baby, or their baby crying.

Coffee shops, outdoor spaces, meeting rooms, hell, even individual meetings if both parties are OK with it - but not spaces where people are trying to study, revise, work and learn.

Judydreamsofhorses · 09/08/2017 23:14

I'm a lecturer, and we have no students for a few weeks after term actually ends. One of my colleagues wanted to bring in his two and three year old, for an entire day, because they were recovering from chickenpox and couldn't be at nursery. They are utterly adorable, but despite him saying they would be good as gold and "help", thankfully our head of department told him to work at home for a few days instead. I was gobsmacked that he thought this was an option, although he was desperate as his wife was struggling with a newborn at the same time.

orangewasp · 09/08/2017 23:15

Bloody ridiculous. On the other hand, if it was a dog, that would be perfectly acceptable

Agreed - puppies are way more adorable than babies (& I do include my own kids in that)

Akani · 09/08/2017 23:16

"I'm a lecturer, and we have no students for a few weeks after term actually ends."

Meanwhile, every PhD student and Postdoc (and most lecturers) are relishing the quiet to get shit done Wink (or listen to external building work as the case usually is...)

GwenStaceyRocks · 09/08/2017 23:17

I'm guessing she wasn't just 'hanging about the office' - is she visiting to show off the baby and say thanks for baby gifts? That's standard in most places that I've worked and as long as staff are willing to chat and interested then I'd expect everyone else to suck it up.
Presumably you're not being disturbed every week by pram-fuls of new babies.

BuzzKillington · 09/08/2017 23:18

My colleague - off for a year, has been coming in every single week with her baby for at least 2 hours.

It's driving us all mad, but we can't say anything.

Viviennemary · 09/08/2017 23:20

Two hours is a bit too long I suppose. But if it's a one off and they've lots of people to see I can't see the harm. But coming in every week is just cheeky and a bit thick skinned if nobody dares say anything.

QueenLaBeefah · 09/08/2017 23:20

YANBU

But because I'm a woman I have to pretend I'm interested in other peoples babies or they think I'm weird.

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