To want the funeral to take place quickly?

[joojoobean99]

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My MIL passed away very suddenly today with absolutely no warning whatsoever. We have been told that the coroner will need to investigate the cause of death as she had no life threatening health issues, although we do know her heart stopped and she couldn't be rescusitated.

My issue is that I am 8 months pregnant and due to have a c section in 4 weeks time. I think DH and FIL are happy for me to control the planning of the funeral and deal with the coroner, etc (as they generally aren't very good with these things), but I want to make sure that the funeral takes place before I have the baby, as I'm not sure how long it will take me to recover from the c section and I can't not be there for DH on the day of his DMs funeral. Do you think 4 weeks is a reasonable amount of time to arrange this? I would imagine some of the timing depends upon the coroners report, but I really want to hopefully get some closure before my due date. Otherwise there's a risk that I wouldn't be able to make the funeral, and I was very close to MIL so this would be devastating for me.

I realise that it's pretty soon for me to be worrying about these things (or is it? Never been in this situation), but I want to organise everything so it takes the pressure off DH and FIL, and hopefully DH can start to look forward when baby arrives.

Thank you for all your kind replies. Seems as though it varies massively depending on location. I guess I'll just have to speak to the coroner and funeral director to get a rough idea. Even if it takes longer than 6 weeks, that would be ok cos it means that I'd have time to have the baby and hopefully recover enough to be able to comfortably attend the funeral. I was just worried that it might end up falling bang on the 4 week mark and become complicated if it's around my c sec date.

If the funeral does happen within the week after the baby's born, would it be weird to have a wheelchair for me if I struggle with walking (or any kind of activity)? Not sure if that's something that people would do?!

Sorry for your loss - I'd find a good funeral director that can sort everything for you. When my mum passed they arranged everything including the wake - they gave up local options and we picked one. Took a lot of the stress off us all.

In terms of a section - I had a horrendous section - as baby was stuck so wound was open longer than they wanted. But I was up and about as soon as I could - moving little bits often helps stop you seizing up which is more painful. After 48 hours I was rushing around packing for an unknown length of stay at hospital as baby was transferred to elsewhere - I was also off painkillers by this point. I doubt you'd need a wheelchair - just take regular rests.

Wheelchair would make perfect sense.