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CF queue jumpers

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CashelGirl · 08/08/2017 21:02

I brought my two children to a shopping centre today to visit the My Little Pony Friendship is Magic Bus. The queue was ridiculously long, but they were not put off despite my best efforts. Anyway, we queued for about an hour and a half, and fair play, they were good as gold. As we're practically all the children in the queue. Had a nice chat with the woman in front. Not an ideal way to spend the holidays, but not awful either.

Anyway, we were right at the front, next ones in when this little girl (about 6 I would guess) had seperated herself from her family and come up to the front to play with one of the toys they had there. As we were going to be going in I said "you'd better head back to your Mum", and her Mum came over and said the woman managing the queue " she's made her own way up here, can she head in with this lot". Before the woman had chance to answer I said "no" and she turned to me and was "what's it got to do with you, it's not your our place to tell me". Anyway, she was right it wasn't my place and I didn't want to get into a row, and the MLP woman said no anyway.

AIBU to be annoyed? Should I have just kept my gob shut and let the MLP woman deal with it? I was just so cross at the cheekiness of it.

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Sirzy · 08/08/2017 21:05

I wouldn't have said anything and would have left it to the staff but I don't think you are wrong in having said something!

Rossigigi · 08/08/2017 21:05

You were totally right

Genghi · 08/08/2017 21:08

You weren't wrong at all. If it had been me she would have gotten a lecture in queuing too.

Bahhhhhumbug · 08/08/2017 21:14

I thought you meant Cystic Fibrosis child and as my Dgd has that was definitely ready to say YABVU. I realise now that cf is short for cheeky fecker and l dont blame you for saying something as l hate queue jumpers/ cheeky fecker. As you were

nomorebabiesyet · 08/08/2017 21:17

yanbu. i was getting the bus with my kids the other day. i moved to the side as i had a buggy and wanted to let others on first. 3 other buggies turned up. moved right in front of everyone. i thought f this sh*t. I'm not waiting for the next bus for half an hour! i asked rather loudly to another lady who i had started chatting to what bus she was getting. (same as me) i looked at the other 2 and i said boys i know you have been waiting for half an hour as good as gold but i don't think we are getting on this bus as there are 4 prams. the dad there completely ignored me and ran on the bus. the other lady looked embarrassed and came over and apologised and said she was getting another bus and not to worry. the 3rd lady said no don't wait for the next one i can fold it up. i then felt guilty. but the week before a similar thing happened and i had to take the new born out. fold the push chair and sit with the others when the 2 other buggies couldn't be bothered. i was then accused of wasting peoples time! i can't wait to get my car!i panic when people queue jump. it was probably rude of me.... but oh well

abigamarone · 08/08/2017 21:17

You were quite right to say something, the MLP lady might have let her through if you hadn't made it clear it wasn't on.

Fauxgina · 08/08/2017 21:19

I also thought CF meant cystic fibrosis.

Actually I think it is your business as you were the queue she would be jumping in front of.

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CashelGirl · 08/08/2017 22:00

Sorry for any offensive caused to Cystic Fibrosis children and families! I heard a few mutterings behind me about it being pointless to get involved so was wondering if I had lost all sense of right and wrong due to the heat and queue.

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Bahhhhhumbug · 09/08/2017 18:49

No offence taken was just laughing at my self righteous self about to jump in and say these kids are often a lot sicker than they look blah blah. But l agree that it was definitely your business and if more people called these CFers out on their behaviour , who seem to be everywhere these days, then maybe there'd be less of it. -but l was so looking forward to telling the now irrelevant tale of the time my CF sufferer dgd was taken to the front of a long toilet queue by a helpful member of staff ( cf sufferers have all sorts of digestion probs as well as the lungs to add to the fun ) and a woman in queue got the arse and said she 'didn't look disabled' and was making snide comments and my ddil tore a strip off her very loudly and even got a cheer [ grin]--

MadisonAvenue · 09/08/2017 19:00

You were right to say something. This annoys me so much. I was queuing for a gig with my son a while ago and a couple turned up just before the doors opened and started chatting to the couple in front of us. After a few minutes the man said "you don't mind if we stay here, do you?" to me. I really don't think he expected me to say that I did and that I thought it was cheeky to turn up last minute and jump ahead of people who'd been waiting. He looked rather taken aback and he and the woman he was with sheepishly walked to the back of the queue.

wowfudge · 09/08/2017 19:05

I had a CF run - yes run - in front of me as I waited for a till in Waitrose last week. I thought the guy had a last minute item to add to his wife's shopping as she was about to pay. No. He passed his lottery numbers over to the assistant and paid separately by card for his damn ticket. had I not misinterpreted what was going on, I would have said something to him.

llangennith · 09/08/2017 19:19

I'd have spoken up too! Always have, always will.

HateIsNotGood · 09/08/2017 19:31

Thought the OP meant outer knitwear to be worn in queues as an advisory to Cunty Fuckers who might otherwise try their game..

PicardsCombOver · 09/08/2017 19:34

I had this happen in ASDA at the kiosk I'm glad you spoke up op I think you did the right thing

HateIsNotGood · 09/08/2017 19:36

To clarify: today we have started with Sex Ladders and end with Queue Jumpers.

wowfudge · 09/08/2017 19:37

I missed the sex ladders!

HateIsNotGood · 09/08/2017 19:38

wow on the wierd things neighbours have borrowed thread.

WineIsTheAnswer · 09/08/2017 19:42

You were right to say something, staff member may have felt pressured to give in if you hadn't said anything. You may have given them the confidence to refuse her.

We had a grown man ask to nip to the front of our (mainly children lots as it turned out had SN) queue for something as he had mistakenly joined another much shorter but incorrect queue (clearly sign posted and had staff periodically shouting which queue to use) staff member sheepishly told him to ask the front of the queue if we minded, before she had finished the sentence I told him no. He then asked the people behind us for the next 5 groups before the rest of the hour long queue shouted "nope" to him.

It could be the mums standard queue jumping trick to have DC find herself at the front of queues.

HateIsNotGood · 09/08/2017 19:45

Although I do think the post regarding the neighbour's shed/dungeon with the dog running off with the dildo (on the same thread) does warrant more investigation. Did the Poster retrieve the (chewn) dildo, leave the drill with a note (sorry Fido chewed your dildo) or what?

Meanwhile, please purchase your Queue Jumpers here...x....

UnaPalomaBlanca · 09/08/2017 19:50

Despise queue jumpers. Ooooh absolutely despise them. Well done to you.
Can't say YWBU to say No to them, but you were perhaps a bit reckless!!! Running the risk of a public confrontation which could have turned nasty. I guess queue jumpers depend on someone NOT confronting them but generally it's up to the officials to deal with it.

Hoppinggreen · 09/08/2017 20:13

I went to put air in my tyre today, there were 2 cars there and if I had pulled up behind them I would have partly blocked the exit from the petrol station so I waited slightly back but obviously waiting for the air
A silver car pulled around me right behind car 2 at the air pump ( partly blocking the exit). Luckily I'm not awfully British about these things so I got out of my car and went up to the silver car and said I was waiting for the air pump
" so am I" replied silver car
" no, I have been waiting for a while and you have driven in front of me"
" well, why are you over there?"
" because I didn't want to block the exit - which is what you have done"
" oh well, I won't be long"
" no, you need to move because I was here first"
" I'm only checking them, I probably don't even need air"
" shall I watch you back while you reverse?"
" I won't be long, really"
" I will watch for you while you reverse, thank you very much, bye"

CheeseAndOnionIcecream · 09/08/2017 20:17

I get totally pissed off with people in supermarkets asking if they can go in front of me 'as they've only got one item'. I am disabled (use a walking stick) so I use a trolley in a supermarket as I cannot manage a basket of shopping banging against my leg,a walking stick and possibly another bag of shopping from earlier. I put my bag in the trolley and place my items of shopping in the child seat. I rarely buy more than 4 items as I really can't carry any more. But people see the trolley and automatically assume that it's full of shopping and that I'm going to be ages. The last time this happened,the words 'No,I would rather you didn't go in front of me,I've only got 3 items' were barely out of my mouth before the guy started getting stroppy and saying I was being unreasonable expecting him to wait with his one item when he was in a hurry when I had a 'trolley full'. Thankfully,the cashier intervened (she recognised me as a regular) and said 'Sir,the lady's only got 3 items,surely you can wait? AND she's disabled'. Instead of apologising,he went and joined another queue! Honestly,some people.

kath6144 · 09/08/2017 20:26

We flew to the USA for a holiday in July. Came off 11 hour flight at San francisco (about 1am our time) at same time as 3 other long haul flights from Europe, thus a mega long queue for immigration, all tired and just wanting to get through immigration.

Everyone was queueing nicely except 2 guys behind us (didn't seem together, both just CF'ers) who kept trying to push past us at each corner (we were in a snake like queueing system). I wanted to say something, but feeling tired and stroppy, was worried about getting into an argument and not being allowed into US!!!

At the third attempt, one guy edged in front of my daughter, but the guy in front of us turned around and said to him "Can you move back please, this family are ahead of you in the queue!". I was so impressed that someone had noticed what was happening and spoken up for us. The guy slunk back behind us and stayed back.

I would definitely have said something had it been anywhere else but USA immigration, as I hate queue jumpers. As per a pp, I am quite happy to use an elbow or such to push them back normally.

PenguinOfDoom · 09/08/2017 20:42

CF queue jumper on the tube tonight during delays with a packed platform decided to step into the gap a group of us were leaving so people could get off the train, then got all self-righteous when we objected. Cue lots of passive-aggressive 'well, I was only moving forward to fill the gap!'

I was initially going to leave it because I couldn't be arsed, but she just wouldn't shut up with trying to justify her queue jumping. So I said 'you can be quiet now' which in retrospect, wasn't helpful. She then told me I could have moved forward if I'd chosen to, so I said 'ok, I'll stand where you are and you stand behind me'. She agreed, train came in, I was able to get on it. She was not and had to wait 15 minutes for the next one.

It massively fucks me off in rush hour when cheeky fuckers squeeze into the gap most normal people leave so they're not blocking the exit from the train.

RebootYourEngine · 10/08/2017 04:59

I am glad you spoke up. In my experience staff never speak up and always let the person queue jump. I remember once i had ds in his pram and an armful of shopping, i was first in the queue and some guy came and went to go to the front. I said 'excuse me there's a queue' and him and the cashier were not impressed. They looked at me like i was in the wrong.

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