DPs dad really grates my cheese sometimes

[RubaDubMum89]

Ugh, this is kind of a rant so apologies in advance.

DP's dad is generally a nice man and we do get on well for the most part. However, some things he does really piss me off (maybe irrationally?).

• He ALWAYS opens our fridge and makes comments on what's in there. For example, "Oh, you two don't know how to buy in ones or twos do you?" or "Gosh, theres more in here than DP's mum and I ever had in, we used to go to the shop everyday!". For some reason this really gets on my nerves, just get out of my fridge! Yes, we bulk buy and save money and yes, I do a weekly shop! DP's dad is the kind that will have £1,000 in the bank, but go and put a £5 on the electric to just cover the emergency credit renewal.

-Similarly, he walks around the downstairs looking in our cupboards / draws etc. He doesn't make comments about these, he just looks, but I find it really fucking rude! Why are you doing that?

-He jabbers really loudly at my daughter all the time, shouting non-sensical words at her, literally, for 10-15 mins at a time. He doesn't mean any harm by it obviously, but when I try tell him to use words to her or sounds as shes starting to pick these things up now and it helps her learn, he just jabbers louder. All the time. ALL the time. Like, when im trying to feed her and he's distracting her or I'm trying to shush her to sleep and he's doing it.

AIBU? Or am I just in the throws of PMS/teething baby sleeplessness and loosing my rag?

Yanbu sometimes people get on your wick, and those things do sound really annoying!

FIL drives me nuts too. Lovely man but good god can be sooooooo intense and annoying, constantly interrupts people, total know-it-all, starts every other sentence with "can I just make a suggestion" before telling you how to live your life, makes sexist homophobic jokes, and can generally be one of the most irritating people I've ever met!

Buy 10 cans of whipping cream and say you can't possibly tell him why you've bought it. . .
May make the nebby fucker keep out. . .

I have a fairly high tolerance level for in laws (is this something your DH doesn't mind?) but I would be right behind him, slamming draws shut and pushing doors closed and bluntly telling him that it's rude to peek in peoples person stuff.

Jibber-jabbering, wont make her talk in jibber-jabbers. Babies pick up tone rather than words. But I'm afraid I would again bluntly tell him to be quiet or leave if he continues when you are trying to get a baby off to sleep.

Today 14:43 Mrscropley

Buy 10 cans of whipping cream and say you can't possibly tell him why you've bought it. . . blush
May make the nebby fucker keep out. . .

Please please please do this and report back

Where is the photo of the cake that says Fuck Off in icing?

‘Grates my cheese’?
Is that a thing? Brilliant!

And a pot of chocolate body paint next to the cream

StillDrivingMeBonkers Are you me? Cos I'd do that exactly, along with physically blocking him getting to places and standing there telling him not to go in MY fucking stuff. So rude of him.

What do you mean by jabbering nonsensical words?

YANBU but I'm not sure what that means. Like screaming like a pirate for example?

Oh dear, I would be fantasising about setting the cupboards up so that he was electrocuted next time he had a nosey

But actually the shouting random words at DD sounds really bizarre, I have never come across this before. Can you say loudly "What are you doing? Can you stop that please?"

Would DH do it so you are not the big bad wolf?

If all else fails, can you move far far away?

Jabbering nonsensical words means

Woooleeeboooolleeeeegodddedogggeeeboobooooboooo

Doesn't do any harm.

Looking in fridge - agree - give him something to look at. Or put a baby lock on it.

oooo, put some really embarrassing stuff in the drawers.

Or just tell him to stop going through your stuff

Massive dildo in a cupboard he looks in, to complement the whipped cream in the fridge.

Agree that talking nonsense to the baby is fine though and quite sweet, though I get that it's wearing on your ears, OP

Fix a boxing glove on a spring so when he opens the fridge door it punches him in the face...

Or fill a drawer with springs or such like so that when he opens it they all spring out.

Spotted and Mrscropley - a boxing glove on spring will certainly sort the nebby fucker out.

Just tell him to stop looking in your fridge and cupboards. That's incredibly rude, and I couldn't stand it.

The jabbering would do my head in as well, but it's more understandable as people do tend to talk nonsense to babies. I don't, but others do. I'd probably tell him to be quieter though.

I'd ask him if he's looking for something each and every time he opens a drawer or cupboard and same with your fridge; when he says no or whatever mention that he must be looking for something to keep on doing it.
It'd drive me up the wall!

OP. Have you told him Not too ??

Before resorting to the Home Alone style booby traps, I'd just come up right behind him next time he's in the fridge and ask him if he's peckish, and when he's nosying in the cupboards, ask, 'are you looking for something? Can I get you anything?'. Surely asking outright will either get him to think twice or at least make him explain his weird behaviour.

I also agree that the baby talk is fine. It's not like he's one of her primary carers, a bit of nonsense from her DGD won't set her back. Let that one go, focus on your bigger battle.

Put baby locks on the cupboards and fridge. When you go to his home, make a point of opening every drawer and cupboard, see how at ease he looks. And also the tactic of asking him if he needs anything every time you catch him nosing. Make a joke out of it - "I put a jigsaw puzzle on the dining table so you can play with that instead of poking through all the cupboards, lol!" Eventually he'll stop!

And a pot of chocolate body paint next to the cream grin

Don't forget the strawberries....

edible panties everywhere fridge oven cupboards....
and stuff a pair in his mouth so you can feed your child
in peace

Came here expecting to find out your FIL actually grates cheese and you preferred it in chunks