To think you don't watch videos on your phone when you've got a sleeping child in the same room!

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Staying over at a siblings house so me, dd and my Dm in the same room. Dd has been a cheeky arse ALL EVENING and finnaly goes to bed at 9pm with me cuddling her to sleep. I'm knackered and fall asleep too. About an hour later dm gets into bed a plays a phone video of another grandchild laughing and babbleing at top volume . I think, ok it's probably an accident and she can't switch it off. She then plays the same video again at top volume . I did a passive aggressive strop and got out of bed to go and sit in the kitchen for a while because I was so frazzled by the whole evening I was almost in tears. Stupid I know.

Dm is so loving and considerate that I just couldn't actually say anything to her face but it's weird behaviour isn't it?

Um, no not really.

I watch videos all the time when in a room with my baby - it never seems to bother or disturb him. Once he's asleep, he's fast asleep. Most babies sleep through anything.

If you're concerned it will wake your baby, you need to tell your DM that she's a light sleeper.

Yes yabu really. Just ask her to turn it down?

PFB
Get a grip

Could you not just ask her to turn it down a bit as you're afraid it will wake DD?

I would say ' mum I'm sleeping! ' - then she would say ' oops sorry love'

Why couldn't you say anything if your mum is nice?

Really?! Loud enough to wake me up and she'd seen the evening long struggle I had getting her to go to bed.

I would be annoyed if it had woken me up too.

Grip needed. Just ask her to turn it down!

Why didn't you just ask her to turn it down?

Did the baby wake?

4 yrs not a baby (ok I'm starting to see why I might be unreasonable).

I didn't want to hurt her feelings by saying anything. She's just used to living alone.

I think you are being daft
Children need to get used to sleeping through noise

I'd say yanbu. It would annoy me too because my baby is a light sleeper - not pfb, she's dc4! If it's taken a while to get them down, you don't jeopardise it by playing a video why not do it elsewhere! Depends on the baby but if yours gets disturbed easily it's thoughtless

Oh just seen she's 4. That's slightly different. Although if she did wake up still annoying

Would any of you go into a room with a sleeping adult and a sleeping child and play a video loudly on your phone? I wouldn't.

Why wouldn't you ask her the first time to turn the volume down or watch in another room?

My partner does this in the morning when he wakes up before work sometimes (after I've had a night of a million wake ups trying to settle baby and have finally fallen to sleep). Not in same room as baby, but same room as me. It's very annoying, but I just tell him to fuck off and that's that really.

TBH I was pissed if that I was woken, never mind dd

Selfish and inconsiderate.
Did she say "oh fuck?" Because it was an accident or just think it's OK.
Are you all in the same bedroom.
Never go back. To stay night time again

It doesn't really make a difference that she lives alone- surely people who live alone are still aware that other people hear noise?

I do think it's thoughtless. When my partner does it, it's usually accidental (forgets volume is up), but in this case she obviously intended the volume to be up.

I doubt she'd have been offended if you'd asked politely if she minded watching elsewhere in the house though...

Knowing my mum, who won't admit her hearing is going, she would have said it wasn't loud and that I wasn't really asleep I think your mum was inconsiderate.

She did apologise this morning as I think she got the message when I flounced out last night but she was asleep by the time I came back in. She's honestly the loveliest mum ever but I was just so pissed off!

Does she not have earphones?

Flouncing out surely made her feel a lot worse than just saying something. If she’s lovely why would you do that?

Ten o'clock would be very early for some adults to go to bed and try to sleep,. But I'd have been annoyed to if I was woken up. Not really an easy answer for three people asleep in the same room.

Bugger that! I co sleep with my 5yo and I’d never get to watch anything if I didn’t watch my iPad while she was asleep! I do mostly have the sound lowered or use earphones though but not always.