To move house because of my neighbours?

[Funnyface1]

We've lived in our current house for a little under 2 years. It's me, dh, ds6 and dd11 months. We've spent some money on it since that time, decorating and doing up the garden. We really like the house but are never really happy because of our neighbours.

I don't want to get into the specifics too much but was hoping to hear from people who moved because of the neighbours. Was it worth it? Did you resent it because of the cost? Should I stick it out, better the devil you know?

I'm going to ring the bank on Monday to ask about porting the mortgage over.

I am thinking of moving house due to neighbours. They are so selfish and do half baked cowboy jobs on the house which have caused cracks in the house.

It is a shame because over the generations this had been the family home but I am not putting up with the hassles. They are so noisy, and nosey as well. They don't consider another soul when they do things. Such as change pipelines or have built over the boundaries won't pay to common repairs. I can hear them talking every day over the tv. Life is just not worth all these problems.

We did, and are so pleased we did. We spent 10 years doing up our old house and loved it, but has issues with neighbours from all sides, which made us so unhappy to the point we couldn't take it any more.

We now have to do up another house, but the location is fabulous / really quiet. We are working all hours to get it done, but agree it is so worth it.

Hi my name is Kate I am having trouble with my neighbour as its been going for two years since I have moved in!! I rent my flat from housing association I writing everything down told the police about the problems I need some help please so I can go in the right direction thank you

@loveka

We are moving becsuse of neighbours.

Sadly, the sale has fallen through twice, both right on the day of exchange. I now feel absolutely trapped here as we have only had 3 viewings since the last sale fell through on June 6th.

It looks like we are going to have to sell for a lower price than we had accepted previously. I do feel resentful about that. We are now planning to stay until our fixed mortgage finishes in April, then rent it out.

We have lived here for 18 years, our neighbour from hell has been here 18 months. I feel its so unfair that this has happened to us. But I am on anti depressants due to the neighbour, I am on egg shells all the time so its best to get out. Its a shame because I actually hate my lovely house now.

Omg ! i could cry as i know how you feel , i have being living in my home that we bought in 1996 , i have the most wonderful neighbours you could ever ask for ! But unfortunately at the time i though it was great we are the last house in the cul de sac , which was great , but at the side of us parallel to our front and back garden is a different neighbourhood who might aswell live right next door , the house nearest to our back garden hosts parties constantly which is sooo loud and none of their next door neighbours complain because they are all in the parties , THE WHOLE ROW OF THEM !, we have rang the police several times but they still do it . the family then who would be in the front our home are from the travelling community and are constantly shouting and screaming, i ii can't find the guts to tell my husband i want to move as he has put his heart into this home , he put on an extension by himself which took almost 2 years as did it in the evening after working all day, it is an exceptional house because of him . But now i just hate everything thing about my home ! i had to go to the doctor to get sleeping tablets as i can't sleep worrying about the weekend parties and afraid incase my husband will lose his temper and will get worse . i now have to visit the doctor to try something else as feel like i have a concrete block resting on my chest and i find it hard to breathe , it is really affecting my life but i haven't told my husband as i don't what to make matters worse . these people get their houses from the council so have no mortgages to pay so count care less about anyone and they are not the type of people who can approach to speak to . will it be worth it to move ? i always said even if i won the lottery i would never leave my home as it is perfect , i hate that these people have done this to me , so unfair , has anyone any advice

I hope you are doing ok. I relate so much to feeling like there is a concrete block sitting on your chest! My neighbours give me such anxiety and they don’t sound nearly as bad as yours! The council are using the private rental beside me to place homeless families and my nerves are wrecked! Makes me hate the house I loved so much and worried sick that I’ll never be able to sell it.

Yes - move - bad neighbours never get better.

I've never had a bad neighbour over many house moves, but I know so many people who have had hideous neighbours. Their lives were made hell.

I have horrible neighbours - thoughtless, selfish people who think that anyone saying “Please don’t throw your fag butts everywhere/leave rubbish bags lying about/play thumping bass music” makes you a “snobby stuck up cow” - and I’m absolutely planning to move because of them. Life is to short to live around scummy arseholes.

This thread is worrying! We had noise problems when we moved here, unemployed youth playing his music deafeningly loud whilst his mother was at work, sometimes late at night. Not disclosed when we bought, and as we'd had to downsize from a detached property, it felt like a double blow! Waiting for the noise to start was stressful.

His mum did her best, eventually he got into work, and grew up, and the noise stopped. Twelve years later, and we're still here and we get on ok with them. That was bad enough, but some of the neighbour nuisance issues are far worse, with people actively looking for ways to upset others. I don't understand the motivation. I also understand there's no reasoning with some. Years ago local police would have a word, or several, but there is little help these days. Anyone with shitty neighbours has my sympathy.

It depends on what your current neighbours are actually like. If they are fighting and relentlessly noisy and violent, then yes, GTFO as soon as you can OP. But if it's petty stuff that winds you up (which can so often escalate) maybe try and be proper nice and have chats if they are at all amenable to being friendly.

I've been in both situations and am terrified of moving because you never know if you'll end up with worse.

Yes, buy unfortunately it doesn't guarantee that your new neighbours will also be dreadful. I've moved a lot since I was a child and we've had neighbours who:

• threw dirt at the clean washing and generally abused us and made us miserable.
• locked their partner in the house and set it on fire.
• stole our washing from the line.
• threatened to physically assault us, verbally abused us and left dismembered animals on our doorstep.
• was mentally ill and a drug addict who was regularly taken advantage of by local dealers. We had armed raids, stabbings, people trying to get into my flat because they couldn't get in the building, police around nearly every day. Pills and syringes left around the building. The family upstairs was threatened with firearms.
• My current neighbours reported me to social services shortly after I moved in for such offences as: they didn't think I put sun cream on my children, I keep myself locked away, my son was outside in the nude - once. When I messaged her, she sent her boyfriend over to intimidate me. They're friends with all the other neighbours, and two years on from this, I still hate it here. I'll be moving again, for other reasons, but I'm worried about who I'll find next door. Sometimes it's better the devil you know.

I would agree with everyone who says move. We did the same despite loving our house and garden and having put a lot of work into it. We did lose money but I rationalised it by thinking of it as virtual money.Once we had moved We felt this massive sense of relief that lasted for years. I am so grateful that we weren't there through lockdown and home working etc. Our tormentor is still there so it would not have got any better

🧟‍♀️ Zombie thread!! 🧟‍♀️

OP posted in 2017, let’s hope the neighbour issues are sorted by now

@Funnyface1

We've lived in our current house for a little under 2 years. It's me, dh, ds6 and dd11 months. We've spent some money on it since that time, decorating and doing up the garden. We really like the house but are never really happy because of our neighbours.

I don't want to get into the specifics too much but was hoping to hear from people who moved because of the neighbours. Was it worth it? Did you resent it because of the cost? Should I stick it out, better the devil you know?

I'm going to ring the bank on Monday to ask about porting the mortgage over.

WHats the update op ?

Reading these threads makes us feel so much better as you do think it is you sometimes.

We are trying to move as the neighbours are the worse of the worse, DV , Drugs , Music and anything else, if SS or the Police get involved with them they are straight away posting on FB that it is DH and the druggy bf and his friends have assaulted DH on occasions.