To 'Talk' to her about her comment

[MrsWhirly]

I was recently promoted into a fairly senior job, so last 9months have been crazy busy.

I sometimes to to one of the PA's - Not mine. Chat about kids, family etc. I have talked about working too much and wanting to see my kids more.

Yesterday I was in the office quite late. She called over saying 'You're here late?!' I agreed and said I had to meet a deadline and would need to delay my annual leave next week. She replied saying "Gosh, you really don't see your kids do you"

It hit a raw nerve but this morning I feel quite peeved that she would say that to me, and want to either tell her or e-mail to say I didn't appreciate the comment and found it crossed the line.

Am I being unreasonable? Do I need to forget it? I know she touched a nerve, a work full time because I have to but have always wanted to work less to see my kids 9&4 more.

Thanks x

YABU. You seem to have let power get to your head, OP, deigning to speak to PAs, but then getting annoyed when they 'cross a line' and dare to express a view.

PAs should be seen and not heard

Those of you saying your glad I'm not your boss, I am equally glad you are not on my team.

Really?

Perhaps some of us could teach you the difference between your and you're.

You blurred the lines when you told her you wanted to see your kids more. She was only trying to show empathy.

What is all this weirdness about being the boss and not allowing your underlings to have personal chat with you OP?

Have to laugh at the PAs should be seen and not heard comment I think you've been watching too much Downtown Abbey araiwa.

Sounds more like you're just feeling guilty - I also feel a vjy guilty but I do take time out early when I can and pick up from school or take them out - I work far less hours now I'm more proficient at my job (I manage departments with well over 300 people and tens of millions £ budgets) donuts busy but I'm better at delegating these days and take more back!!
Just be concentrating on your family when you have the time and make the most if that you have together

The clear undertone here is that you feel she crossed the line because you view her as being less important than you due to her occupation and her status. Hence why you would even consider the sending of such a chastising email. You would not contemplate sending this to somebody of an equivalent status. As MistressPage mentions, you clearly see her as an underlying. To answer your question, you would be very unreasonable to send her the email about a personal topic that you yourself have already raised. And you have come across as quite unpleasant in some of your responses.

I think this is a case of your guilt making it seem like she said something offensive.

This is also a case of the op not liking responses and flouncing.

It's typical of AIBU threads really. There's so often an OP who really wants to be told that she's not unreasonable at all, and when she doesn't get that she argues for a couple of pages on the thread and then disappears leaving the other posters chatting about the unreasonableness of the OP and their own anecdotes.