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Doctor's appointment

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10greenapples · 04/08/2017 12:03

I missed a drs appointment for my dd as I just wasn't going to make it on time. Anyway today I recieved a letter which says if one more appointment is missed she won't be allowed another one for 6 months! We can cancel an appointment but need to give an hours notice. So we will only be seen at the walk in if another is missed which is 8am-11am and a 2 hour wait. Aibu in thinking this seems pretty harsh?!

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Lweji · 04/08/2017 19:11

Which you cannot get without the basic skills of clinical examination and diagnosis.

Basic being the operative word.

SuburbanRhonda · 04/08/2017 19:22

The letter was addressed to my dd who is 7, so punish the child for me being late, nice.

They always address letters to the patient. Otherwise for people with several children it might get confusing to address it to the parent.

OddBoots · 04/08/2017 19:25

The new safeguarding thinking in terms of children's appointments is that it is not appropriate to list it as 'did not attend' but instead to record it as 'was not brought' and to follow it up with some kind of contact with the parents/carer to check that there was a good reason the child was not brought to their medical appointment and that the child will not come to harm through not having the consultation.

Threatening to block a child's access to the GP because of the actions of their parent/s doesn't fit with meeting the child's needs so in my opinion that letter was wrong.

ThamesOctopus · 04/08/2017 19:30

"I'd rather go to A&E than trust a pharmacist to make a diagnosis, tbh."

So you trust a triage nurse to triage you correctly but not a pharmacist to prescribe and / refer?

Weird.

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10greenapples · 04/08/2017 19:31

So they will recuse to see all my children then if another missed appointment? Well like I said... Nice.

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10greenapples · 04/08/2017 19:32

Refuse*

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Floggingmolly · 04/08/2017 19:33

Well yes, because you're the common denominator.

Newbiecat · 04/08/2017 19:35

You can be as defensive as you like to replies OP, but I'm afraid you were in the wrong, which I think you know.
I work in a GP surgery- one quick call to say you were stuck in traffic and they may have fitted your daughter in ( we always try if possible with children) after asking the individual GP if they could do this - not always possible if they are off on home visits/meetings etc. Even if they couldn't hold on to see you, that appointment could be offered to someone last minute- we always try & fill even with15- 30 mins notice.
As a parent, surely it's irresponsible to have absolutely no credit on your mobile if out and about?

PutItOnYourPancake · 04/08/2017 19:36

To be fair, you said yourself earlier that you don't have problems with organisation or timekeeping - it's apparently having children that does it! Seriously, OP. Just go to your appts in future or of you genuinely get held up, call at first opportunity. Problem solved!

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10greenapples · 04/08/2017 19:39

Well I think to refuse to see all children is definitely wrong. Luckily for us we are hardly ever ill. If they did this I would just change surgeries anyway.

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DoctorDonnaNoble · 04/08/2017 19:42

They didn't refuse to see your DD, you didn't take her!!!

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10greenapples · 04/08/2017 19:46

No I didn't but apparently if I miss another appointment they won't see ALL my children. That's disgraceful I will move surgeries.

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Floggingmolly · 04/08/2017 19:48

So don't miss another appointment!!! What are you on?

Jakadaal · 04/08/2017 19:48

I doubt its enforceable and possibly in breach of their contract. Some missed appointments are unavoidable as this one was.

This message is most probably aimed at those people who constantly miss appointment or routinely book appointments just 'in case' and then forget about them.

Amee1992x · 04/08/2017 19:48

It's disgraceful that you don't think apologising for being late is common courtesy. Grow up stop acting so entitled

Ditsy1980 · 04/08/2017 19:49

Errrrr, just learn your lesson and don't miss another appointment

abigcupoffuckyou · 04/08/2017 19:51

No I didn't but apparently if I miss another appointment they won't see ALL my children. That's disgraceful I will move surgeries

So you're going to not turn up to another one? The new surgery will want to know why you left the last one you know.

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10greenapples · 04/08/2017 19:51

Unforeseeable circumstances happen!!! Gosh if only everyone was perfect like you lot are.

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10greenapples · 04/08/2017 19:52

No they won't want to know. I've changed surgeries before.

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abigcupoffuckyou · 04/08/2017 19:53

Got chucked out by the last one too?

Floggingmolly · 04/08/2017 19:54

Some missed appointments are unavoidable as this one was
The surgery have NO idea why the appointment was missed, as op didn't bother to make any contact whatsoever.
And they absolutely can remove you from their list. What "contract" are they in breach of??

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10greenapples · 04/08/2017 19:55

Moved actually.

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Sugarhunnyicedtea · 04/08/2017 19:55

Just phone them on Monday. Apologise for missing the appointment and explain what happened. Lesson learnt for the future

Floggingmolly · 04/08/2017 19:55

They absolutely will want to know. They'll want your notes to be transferred.

lettuceWrap · 04/08/2017 19:56

Jakkadaal, the missed appointment may have been unavoidable, but it was the OPs choice not to call the surgery to apologise for missing it (either at the time, or later once she got home), that led to a letter being issued.
How was the GP surgery supposed to know the op had been unavoidable delayed if she didn't tell them? They are not mind readers.