AIBU to wonder if this guy is a cocklodger?

[KissAndTell]

I've been on 2 dates with a guy I met on OLD. We got in really well, have loads in common, and both seem to really like each other.

So far so good.

We have arranged to meet over the weekend, but I'm working both days. I'm doing a 12 hour shift on Saturday and 8 on Sunday. He suggested that on Saturday we could meet after I finish work, he can cook me dinner and we can watch a film. That's great, but since he split from his ex (who he lived with) he is living with his parents, so he would have to cook dinner at my house (which he has never been to). He lives 30 mins drive away so I suspect he is expecting to stay over, but he hasn't explicitly said this. He wants to meet after I finish work on Sunday as well.

Although I like him, AIBU to feel this is a bit forward and that because he hasn't got his own place, he will be in my space all the time?

I'm so short an acquaintance I would even want someone to know where I live never mind come over.Just tell him your too tired after a shift and arrange a different date.If he likes you he will do that,you get to know him a bit better and how long he's been at his parents.If he's split from his wife and now dating he's had time to find somewhere.

I'm confused
Dates 1+2 went well you like each other
Date 3 he suggested coming round to your place
You said yes, then got cold feet and told him and he's respected your decision...

And now you're not sure if you like him?
If that's the case - then let him go.

I've been single for a year. I have been on 3 other dates other than this guy. The last one before this was in march.

Nurse I didn't agree to him coming over and then change my mind. I didn't agree to him coming over at all. He suggested it and I freaked out.

And he wasn't married. He lived with his ex, they were together for 5 years. He has never been married and doesn't have kids.

Sorry I've seen your update.

Are you still excited about seeing him?

Two dates in and you don't sound very excited? I personally wouldn't bother if I'm not still a little bit excited by date three.

I also understand your point about potentially, you will always be socialising in your home because he lives with his parents. I guess you need to decide if dating someone who has their own home is important to you? Or do you want more alone time on your child free weekends, and date someone who is happy to meet up less often on a more casual basis?

I was excited but it's been 3 weeks since our second date for one reason or another so I've kind of got over the excitement of the first 2 dates.

Oh I see! Take him up on his offer to go out for dinner you might be pleasantly surprised and feel the excitement creeping back.

You could be cheeky and ask about his living plans? Based upon the title of your thread that's bothering you as well?

If no excitement and you don't like his response then knock it on the head. Or if you think you'll be too knackered after work, just leave it. ;-)

Get rid of him and find someone who works the same hours you do.

I would go out for drinks or something similarly low-commitment and low-cost. You were excited about the first two dates and it sounds like you have overthought his forwardness and becoming worried, which is dampening the situation!

This used to happen to me all the time and I would end up being unsure whether I didn't actually like them, or whether I had worried myself into not liking them.

I would go on a no-pressure date and see how that goes, then make a decision!