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Why did he lie?

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KinkyAfro · 02/08/2017 15:15

I had to ring my not so DP earlier, asked what he was up to and could he talk. He told me he was on a site about 60 miles from where we live but I knew he was at home as a friend of mine asked how come he was at home as she saw him getting out of his van outside the house - this is unusual as he works away a lot. So I asked him again where he was and he said on the site so I said if I were to pull into the avenue now his van wouldn't be there and he said no! I then said that *** had seen him outside the house a few minutes ago and he then said that he's home now but had been on that site earlier today.

I was off work on Monday, was just enjoying some time to myself before he came home and he turned up at 14.30, said he'd finished for the day. It's left me wondering what time he actually finishes work each day, especially when I hear him moaning and groaning about his long days. Don't get me wrong, I don't actually give a shit what time he finishes but why would he lie to me today, I feel really uneasy about it.

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KinkyAfro · 02/08/2017 20:07

I'll ask him again when he gets out of shower, it does sound a bit flimsy.

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Bluntness100 · 02/08/2017 20:10

If it wasn't about being asked to do stuff then he has another reason for lying. It's not as he was home as he had the shits. Everyone would be honest about that. And want sympathy. So he's lying for a reason. He didn't want you to know for a reason, he wanted you to think he was busy for a reason. It's really a case of finding out what that reason is.

Happyeverafter73 · 02/08/2017 20:12

This is a strange thread. Does your dp have firm for lying?

abundantlyclear · 02/08/2017 20:12

I think you need to listen to your instincts here op. You know something isn't right. I wouldn't bring it up again. Let him relax about it and perhaps keep your eyes and ears on the ball - I'd bet good money that he's up to somethingFlowers

Happyeverafter73 · 02/08/2017 20:14

What do you think your friend was suggesting by texting you he was home?

MissAlligned · 02/08/2017 20:14

Bullshit. Total bullshit that took him how long to come up with?!

Best case scenario here is he's up all night pissing around on the internet / watching porn; for some reason his work suddenly has a lot of short days; he's not telling you because he's busy napping / watching more porn and doesn't want 'jobs' to do.

He's an arse by the sounds of it.

KinkyAfro · 02/08/2017 20:19

I don't think my friend was suggesting anything if you rtft she was asking if he was coming for a dog walk as it's unusual he's home at that time or at all during the week. I have absolutely no issue with my friend telling me, she's not the one in the wrong here

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C0untDucku1a · 02/08/2017 20:20

Sounds like another lie

NewRoadToHappinessxx · 02/08/2017 20:23

I agree but I just thought if you were curious and wanted to check how often he's lying to you ...

K11LL · 02/08/2017 20:29

My DH often starts work in the early hours and I know that so long as he gets his hours in for the day and no other jobs come in he can leave earlier...sounds to me (if everything else is otherwise happy days) that he was just trying to have a sneaky little chilled afternoon!! Smile

steve6188 · 04/10/2017 01:35

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