To think I was a bit rude?

[sureitsgrand]

Am 15 weeks pregnant. Was tired and hormonal. Sil marched in, patted my stomach and laughed 'look at you, who ate all the pies!'
I said, 'I know!' patted hers back, laughed and said 'what's your excuse?!'
I was half joking, and half responding in annoyance at her, but I've felt awful since she left. It's not my usual style of joke, I just reacted to her comment and unwanted touch. Was I rude, or should I just forget it. I don't think she seemed too bothered.

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Brilliant!

Not rude at all.

I don't get all those who would be offended by this. She was obviously referring to your 15 week old baby bump if she'd said it to you whilst NOT being pregnant I could understand the response but not given that you are!

She's not overweight, she's average sized.

Man I used to hate it when people touched my pregnant stomach. Total invasion of personal space. So, for that alone ywnbu to respond.

She wasn't saying you're fat though really, just joking - hopefully you've not upset her because you referred to her weight as she's not pregnant

I agree serialweightwatcher. You essentially called her fat. Yes she was rude but so were you

Haha I like It! Her response didn't seem like she was bothered. Put it in the fuck it bucket. Can't take it back now

You were ruder imo. I know it's hard when you're tired and feeling big but I think you were a bit naughty in what you said.

I don't think I upset her, but that is why I was questioning myself (as in the weight thing). Yes, bite the tongue next time, felt good initially but guilty after.

Sounds like she wasn't offended. Don't dwell on it. Chin up.

I just spat my tea all over my phone! Hilarious op, well done.x

Why are people so cross when the size of their bumps are mentioned? You're pregnant and going to get bigger. I loved it, the bigger ghe better fot me! Just embrace it, you're going to get more comments as you get further along.

Agree with PP - she was commenting on your stomach getting bigger because you're pregnant; I don't understand why some women get touchy about it being acknowledged. I think you were a bit rude to respond in the way you did.

I think it's a bit over sensitive to hate having ones stomach patted when pregnant. It's only a few months and it makes people happy!

I can think of no good reason why a pregnant woman should have to tolerate something she doesn't like just because it makes other people happy.
Or any woman actually, pregnant or not.

Genius!

Why does everything have to be analysed to death; the SIL came into the room, patted OP's stomach and made a throwaway, daft comment. She is someone the OP knows well and with whom she seems to have a good relationship.

I don't know about the 'making people happy' thing - I can't say it made me happy to touch women's bumps - but this instance seems like such a minor thing and didn't warrant the OP's rude response.

MrsJBaptiste it's usually the way people say it. When I was pregnant every time my FIL saw me he would say 'my god, you're huge!' and it used to really grate on me - there's nothing in that comment to make you feel good. If he's said 'what a lovely big bump' or something similar, that would have been totally different.
I don't know why people feel the need to say any other than you look lovely to pregnant women.

I think you were quite rude to her as you called her fat, it's up to you really whether you think that is ok or not. There will and has been a variety of responses on her, but she's your relative and it did seem a bit mean. If it was me I would consider apologising.

I don't understand the anger over being told you're huge when pregnant. I'm small but had very big babies so my bump was MASSIVE. People would comment all the time saying how big I was. They weren't wrong. I was. It was all baby. I don't as down to a size 10 weeks after they were born.

It's not like they're saying " aren't you huge " when you're not pregnant. That obviously would be rude. Some people are overly touchy.

It's different to say someone is huge due to pregnancy than to say, who ate all the pies! Thats is implying they are fat cos theyve eaten too much.

sureitsgrand (from my part of the world I suspect from your nn) you are absolutely brilliant! If she can't take it she shouldn't dish it out

She said it as a jokey reference to your pregancy. You're the one who then made it into a personal dig. If I were you I'd apologize.

well done, you! Pregnant or not, it's rude to say 'who ate all the pies' so hopefully your sharp response will stop her from saying it to anyone else.

Dish what out?! She made a fond, jokey comment as the OP's pregnancy is now showing. Sheesh.