To expect a 16 and 19yr old to keep their room tidy
Paleninteresting · 30/07/2017 23:30
Inspired by another thread I have a quick question to ask.
16 and 19 yr old work three days during the summer.
Is it unrealistic to expect them to have a tidy bedroom?
Nice rooms each.
DH TB says all teenagers have untidy rooms.
RenaissanceBunny · 30/07/2017 23:43
Untidy or dirty ? Untidy - my room is still sometimes untidy. Dirty clothes / plates / rubbish definitely need to be tidied ideally daily but at least Fridays and Sundays. At 16 and 19 I'd hope they are helping out with the housework too. I'm now 25 and whenever I'm back at my parents I see myself as being there to help out - dishes / laundry / cooking etc.
UsedToBeAPaxmanFan · 30/07/2017 23:46
My 19 year olds room is disgusting. He works ft and just about keeps on top of his washing although I habe no idea when his sheets were last changed. He has a floordrobe.
I nag him repeatedly but it makes no difference. He is off to uni in September and will have to live in a room half the size of his bedroom. Once he's gone I will fumigate deep clean his room and hope that when he's back for holidays he will keep it semi-respectable. I suspect he will revert to bad habits though
CremeFresh · 30/07/2017 23:49
I've given up. DD is 19 and her room is a tip, she has a massive tidy every so often but then she goes out and it looks like someone has emptied the contents of Boots cosmetic counters in there.
They say going into a teens room is like a trip to IKEA, you go in for a quick look and leave with 6 glasses, 4 mugs and a dinner service
BackforGood · 31/07/2017 00:32
Agree with everyone else.
Miraculously, my 21, 18, and 15 yr olds have all tidied their rooms in the last fortnight, but that really, really is highly unusual - indeed, I'd go so far as to say a completely unique time in their lives so far.
Agree with cremefresh - shut the doors and let it go - it's not worth the stress.
HeddaGarbled · 31/07/2017 00:43
I agree, shut the bedroom doors and ignore.
However, when you are down to your last mug and cereal bowl in the kitchen, they need to bring all the mouldy ones down and put them in the dishwasher/scrub them out.
They do need to learn how to look after themselves, though, so I would recommend starting them off with some household jobs. Maybe make a list of what needs doing and let them choose one or more depending on frequency.
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