To think no one should be spending £200 on a night out?

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DH on a stag do today/tonight and i think he's massively taking the piss.
After hotel, train tickets etc, he had 120 to spend on going out today/tonight and has just asked me to transfer him £80 (joint money) so he'll be able to buy more alcohol.
Aibu to thank that's a ridiculous amount of money to be spending?
I'm also going out tonight for a few drinks, and will be spending £40 absolute max. It's not like they're going to an expensive city or anything.
But it is joint money, so I don't think I can be too annoyed. We both have pay days before any bills are due out so I know he can afford to spend that much. But we're also failing at saving for a mortgage. But we have both been really good with money recently and this is a one off occasion.
Thoughts?

Why does everyone instantly jump to lap dances!?

£200 for over/almost 12 hours drinking, plus a kebab and any taxis is fairly reasonable, not to mention club entrance fees plus any table packages etc.

The stag may also not be paying for himself.

When I went out it was about £10 in shared taxis, £10 on food and £10 for clubs. I then possibly spent £50 - £60 on drink, if not more. I easily spent half what he wants to spend, in less than half the time, on a non-important event.

YABVU to say no-one should be spending it. People can spend whatever they like, its nothing to do with you.

Your dude spending your money, however, is a different matter.

I don't think that's unreasonable, he asked and it's a one off event.

Where is the this as in London £200 doesn't buy you much. If a single drink is £10, cocktails up to £15 and bottles from £40 upwards. Champagne minimum £80. Club entry etc £35 tob £100.really depends and you haven't yet got extras like food or taxi.

Ah just read it's not London. To be fair I could easily blow £300+ if you include dinner. And I get a nice experience...so £200 for stag seems very reasonable

I went somewhere out of London and ended up having pub crawl. By the time we had food, drinks and transport we spent more than £60 each and there was just the two of us. Wasn't even a night arrived at 11am, was on the train back at 8 😱

What is this shite??

Is he into cocaine?

£200 about right I'd say
Group drinking is expensive! As it's daft bar prices and keeping up with rounds with people who drink like fish!
What's he doing for dinner? Taxis? If staying overnight needs money for the next day ( hangover breakfast/lunch etc)

Not relevant I know but on holiday this year ( in a posh place) I (unknowingly st the time until got the bill) paid €25 for one gin and tonic!!

If he was into cocaine it would be a lot more than £200 for an overnight stag do !!

My DH can spend 120 on a normal night out from 6pm till 1am just one alcohol (rounds and shots normally) and a kebab on the way home! We live in a fairly small Scottish town. I dont think what hes spending is excessive for a "special" event at all

wow
I'm a Londoner and I'd be horrified by spending this amount, including a cab home to my very outer burb zone.

If you're loaded - great. But if you're not, and you are saving for a mortgage, I think it's crazy and unnecessary.

is he doing that thing where he will pay extra to get into a high rollers' room or something? I would still be unable to see that as an okay use of joint £ but that's why I'd not marry!

Sounds reasonable to me, I've been on stags where 1 person has spent £800 on lap dances in one night. It's a piece of piss to spend a grand on a stag.

Me too Slimthistime over £200? I'd be horrified too!

You said money is not really tight and it's one-off so I would let him enjoy himself if I were you. He may also be asking for extra money just in case? But then 200 quid is not totally unreasonable in my view. They may opening bottles of alcohol and buying rounds too. I also expect if you are out and enjoying yourself, he would not say No to you, right?

If it's a one off for a special occasion and you can afford it, it's not too big a deal.
Does seem a little excessive though

Loving that anyone thinks a night out at a stag could be done for £40 on drinks - a pint of lager is a fiver! Once you start buying rounds of 'proper' drinks it soon adds up. I had a quiet mums night out the other night a round of coctails for 4 was £38, that was 1 drink each!

apint of lager is a fiver!
Sort of depends where youlive doesn't it?
My dh has certainly never spent £200.
He never spend more than £50 on the one he went to last time ( and he went to the takeaway on the way home).

Is he getting half a haircut?

I personally think stag/hen dos are ridiculous anyway, such a waste of money. It's your joint account, not just his money, unless he was struggling to get a taxi I'd just ignore him! He's drunk and if his friends are pressuring him because they know he has money he may feel obliged

It's a stag do so not exactly a normal night out. Most likely rounds will be bought, lots of shots and more drinks for the stag. Then need a kebab and taxi back. £200 could easily be spent.

I know you've calmed down OP, and may not even read this, but I do think that this is what stag dos (or any big celebrations) cost in many circles and no one wants to be the one slipping out of rounds etc.