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I should ltb, right?

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cakeandteajustforme · 28/07/2017 13:12

At home with d&v that DH gave me.

He's felt sorry for himself in the most spectacular fashion the last few days but has traipsed back to work today so it doesn't look like he had a lazy week.

Today, I've got it. Home with the baby and I didn't think I could cope this morning (thankfully it's nearly lunchtime nap and I can get a lie down too).

I hope you'll agree that I was NBU to go apoplectic when I got his latest message...

I should ltb, right?
OP posts:
LittleCharmer · 28/07/2017 13:14

You said no rush?

BoredOnMatLeave · 28/07/2017 13:16

Yeah you said no rush? If that was me I would interpret that as I do not need to rush.

kiwipie · 28/07/2017 13:18

What? Just be honest with the man if you need him home now. He can't read minds.

Why play games?

Bobbiepin · 28/07/2017 13:19

Be honest with him. You can't rely on him being able to read your mind, especially over text.

DancesWithOtters · 28/07/2017 13:20

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Squirmy65ghyg · 28/07/2017 13:21

You said no rush Shock

isupposeitsverynice · 28/07/2017 13:22

Have you all looked at the time stamps? I'd have been peeved as well, OP, I'd have expected him to take an hour to wrap up, tops, and then head home, not still be sitting there three hours later.

Glumglowworm · 28/07/2017 13:22

You said no rush, he offered to leave straight away, why are you pissed off?

Well I know why, obviously, you're ill and grumpy that he gave it to you and you were probably better at anticipating what would make his life easier when he was sick.

But he's still not a mind reader, if you want him home quickly then tell him that

Neverknowing · 28/07/2017 13:24

What Confused

MaxPepsi · 28/07/2017 13:24

3 hours to make a few calls?
No rush message or not I would have expected home within the 1.5 hour mark to allow for travelling!

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cakeandteajustforme · 28/07/2017 13:26

No rush to my mind means make a few calls, make arrangements to take afternoon meetings on the phone, go to the loo and get home! Not still be pottering about three hours later with no intention of making a move...

But yes I can see that is where the miscommunication lies.

I thought that given he knows exactly what it felt like he'd have been more intuitive about how painful it is to look after someone else as well as yourself when not feeling great.

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HarrietKettleWasHere · 28/07/2017 13:26

I don't get it. You said 'no rush' then just went stroppy with the 'er yes'!

I do t think he gave you d&v on purpose, is that what you mean by you should LTB?

HarrietKettleWasHere · 28/07/2017 13:27

He could hardly leave at 10 if he got in about 9 could he, I'd assume the best time for him to leave would be after working the morning.

NaymeChaynge · 28/07/2017 13:29

I don't get this at all. If it were me I would say "do what you have to do but I'm struggling please be as quick as you can". He hasn't done anything wrong.

pigyoinkoinks · 28/07/2017 13:31

At least he has the luxury to just come home rather than me tied down in work Confused

gabythemechanic · 28/07/2017 13:31

I agree with most others You told him there was no rush. Men need to be told straight what to do sometimes. He'll still be tired if he's been ill the last few days so won't be thinking right. Give him black and white instructions and he'll probably do what you need better. Hope you feel better soon Flowers

Badcat666 · 28/07/2017 13:32

Sorry but Yabu. he just got into work and you said no rush. He had work to do. You know, that thing ppl do to bring money in.

You can't just turn up at work and then leave again. Most people would have to do at least half a day and clear any urgent stuff before they can come home.

PansyParkinson · 28/07/2017 13:34

"No rush" to me would mean "ok, no rush with the phone calls but will see you shortly". Not three hours!

CrowRoad · 28/07/2017 13:39

They must have been some very long phone calls!

Birdsgottaf1y · 28/07/2017 13:46

I think, depending on his work, once there he was committed to at least lunch time, tbh.

D&V can last ages if it's passed between you, he needs to save his sick leave, for when it's really needed.

Crashbangwhatausername · 28/07/2017 13:46

Yanbu, although my dh would do this and I now have to say 'don't rush' along with some sort of time frame so he understands.

Peakyblinder · 28/07/2017 13:48

If he's been off sick all week he is lucky he has a the luxury of leaving again ! So leaving after just an hour would be a bit cheeky no ?

and yeah. YOU said no rush !

lanouvelleheloise · 28/07/2017 13:49

My DH does this all the time. "I'll be back in a short while". Four hours later, nothing. It does drive me nuts. But there are worse things he could do.

Serialweightwatcher · 28/07/2017 13:50

If you had missed the 'no rush' bit off ... but you didn't - sorry OP ... it's good that he can get off to come home when he's been off himself though, so don't hold it against him and relax when he gets back

kali110 · 28/07/2017 13:54

Yabu, you said no rush.
He's gone into to do some work.
If you need him home then tell him.

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