I should ltb, right?

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At home with d&v that DH gave me.

He's felt sorry for himself in the most spectacular fashion the last few days but has traipsed back to work today so it doesn't look like he had a lazy week.

Today, I've got it. Home with the baby and I didn't think I could cope this morning (thankfully it's nearly lunchtime nap and I can get a lie down too).

I hope you'll agree that I was NBU to go apoplectic when I got his latest message...

He's working. Maybe he got caught up in something. It's your fault you can't communicate effectively. If you want him there asap you need to say it.

You said no rush. If he's been off work a few days he probably had a lot to catch up on.

I'd have thought "no rush" means "no rush"

You said no rush.... if you wanted him home sooner you should have said

To me, 'no rush' would mean carrying on at work but coming home earlier than the normal working day. Maybe something like 3pm?

Hold on. Is this a reverse?

You told him there was no rush.

She also said "yeah that would be great". She's ill, and he was still fannying about at the office three hours after their text exchange. Of course she's right to be annoyed.

No rush typically means "no rush" if you actually wanted him asap then you should of said...

I think most posters aren't clocking the time stamp and not acknowledging it once they've been told.

'no rush' means come home but you don't need to blue light it. It was obviously discussed that he would come home, you were polite and then he dicked about for 3 hours. If he could leave then, why did he wait for you to ask?

*Ask a second time

This must be a reverse?

Im Glad my Partner isnt as needy as you. Some people work away from home for weeks at a time or even months when it comes to the military... i wonder how they just get on with it

Needy? Like her husband?

He's felt sorry for himself in the most spectacular fashion the last few days but has traipsed back to work today so it doesn't look like he had a lazy week.

Now she's doing the same but on her own with a baby. If your husband is in the military you signed up for that, I have no idea why people bring it up on every thread.

"My husband was gone for 2 decades during the crusades, and nownive got the plague but you don't see me whining"

I clocked the time stamp, but assuming he started working at 9 or thereabouts he could hardly reasonably be expected to leave at 10. I would assume lunch break would be the logical time to get away.

Yes but if the op was messaging him at that time it was probably because after he left, shit got real and she couldn't do the feed the baby and not vomit on it thing.

Has he come home yet? X

And did people sign up for the military in 1939 Gina? No wives of all able bodied conscripted men just got on with it. People were not as entitled in those days.

We're not at war with Hitler. He's in an office making some calls.

Should we all give up sugar because they used to have ration books?

Regarding the military I think if you live on patch other wives help out. At least they did where we lived when I was a kid.

YANBU, presumably he has a job where they will manage without him but regardless, he said he was coming and he didn't.

you said no rush!! Lol Poor guy cant do right for wrong clearly.

She also said he's traipsed (sp) back to work so it doesn't look like he has had a lazy week, Chris I'm sure most bosses would be happy he came back to work for an hour then buggered off again because his wife can't cope, most people have to cope they don't have the luxury of partners taking time of work because they don't feel well

He got home around 2 which gave me time for a nap which has put me in a much better frame of mind! Putting it down to illness-related grumps.

For what it's worth he started at 7ish so had done a good few hours by that point, and his work is sufficiently related to output rather than presence that it is not an issue if he had needed to come home immediately even if he had started at 9.

Ltb was clearly tongue in cheek but having a new baby can be tiring at the best of times and I was somewhat thrown by the lack of his appearance after an hour or two!

I asked my husband what he would have done and after joking that he would jump at the excuse to leave work (he's a well paid slacker!) he would have read your message as "well she said don't rush so it's not serious".

I know having a new baby is a big change but it's not impossible when ill. I was super poorly to the point where I was too dizzy to stand or sit up for too long because it made me sick. I still had to look after my baby for the week because my husband was away at a family funeral and no help was around.

Everyone I know understands that 'no rush' means 'not immediately but pretty soon'. 3 hours is too long.

You told him there was no rush. Men need to be told straight what to do sometimes
It's not just men. I'm not a mindreader either and I'm a woman. If someone said "no rush" to me I'd take it as them saying "take your time, no need to hurry, get here when you've done what you have to do".

OP, it sounds like a communication breakdown. I think something like "I'm struggling, can you get home ASAP please?" would've been less ambiguous. Hope you feel better soon anyway.