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to think my DH is a running bore?

82 replies

FitbitAddict · 27/07/2017 19:24

Desired conversation:
DH: I went for a run today
Me: Ok

Actual conversation:
DH: I went for a really quick 5km round the park at lunchtime
Me: Mmm
DH: Just over 23 minutes, that's not bad, is it?
Me: silence
DH: Here's the lap times
Me: continued silence
DH reels off lap times
DH: Yes, I'm really pleased with that
Me Mmm
DH: It felt really good today

I run too, but I don't even mention it unless specifically asked! DH has to tell me every minute detail of his runs, and that can be as often as 5 times a week Hmm

OP posts:
MumIsRunningAMarathon · 27/07/2017 19:48

23 minutes isn't quick?

Nobody at our parkrun does it in less than 18 minutes.... and they are young athletes

What's quick then?

justthesolution · 27/07/2017 19:50

Oh it is quick! All relative but I'd be over the moon with that time and I'm the same age almost

IcingSausage · 27/07/2017 19:51

He's just sharing something he's proud of with you.

I think I do this Blush

I ran 10km this morning and did it in my quickest time so far. (I won't say what it was, User would tell me it's a bit shit), and I made DH watch as I did a little celebration dance when I got back.

Bless him, I probably bore the pants off him but he nods along when I recount my running endeavours. He's a bit lovely.

AuntieStella · 27/07/2017 19:53

A veteran man running a true 5k in that time would have age grading around 64%, so if he was in his twenties that would be sub-20.

That's good.

You need to practice a congratulatory face.

And so does he because he should be attentive to and appreciative of your interests and achievement too.

user1492877024 · 27/07/2017 19:54

My 5k time in my 20's was 16m 20s. However, i'm now in my late 40's and do not run any more. If I did , my time would be measured in hours and not minutes. I have already conceded that at the age of 53, 23m is in deed impressive.

Sexykitten2005 · 27/07/2017 19:56

Wrong user. I was talking to the 23min 5kisnt great user. Not you. Sorry but it gets confusing when people don't name change after joining.

And no you didn't hit a nerve. I couldn't care less what people think of my running. It gave me courage and strength when leaving an abusive relationship and I am proud now of the body that for years I was told was fat and ugly.

Intransige · 27/07/2017 19:56

He's not just sharing something he's proud of. He's ignoring OP.

Holidayhooray · 27/07/2017 19:57

Not a happy marriage.
You totally ignoring him.
Him saying that when you talk it's "just noise".

Shitty way to live

LapCatLicker · 27/07/2017 19:59

Oh God. My DH does this. But not just with his sport, he also does this about the car. I die a little inside every time he starts talking car. (and it's a 10 year old vauxhall, what would he be like if we had a nice car?!?!)

whiteroseredrose · 27/07/2017 20:00

Not running but swimming. I used to go every week when I lived with my DM and DF. Every time DM would ask how many lengths I'd done.

No idea! I'd swum until I was bored and then got out!! Who gives a damn how many lengths I or anyone else does. Hmm

Breezybreeze · 27/07/2017 20:02

This made me chuckle. I work with Allotment Bore, Cycling Bore and Running Bore.

Running Bore is the least sanctimonious and the one I can tolerate better than the others.

DrHarleenFrancesQuinzel · 27/07/2017 20:02

Me and DH have our own interests. I find his boring, he finds mine boring. We probably both bore the pants off each other with it. I just make the hmmm and yes noises when he talks. He knows Im not interested, but I let him whitter on about it. It goes in one ear and out the other as Im sure what I have to say does with him too.

Im a runner and I do think that some runners do go a bit far with how much they go on about it. I used to work with someone who never shut up about it.

And 23 minutes is a good time especially for someone in their 50's. Understandably if his name was Mo Farah then Id understand it not being fast, but for an amateur its a bloody good time.

Lambzig · 27/07/2017 20:03

I am that running bore to DH. I am considerably slower than that, but bore on when I have improved my time. It is important to me. Poor DH just smiles, nods, and says well done or similar. But, I listen to him going on about the allotment, the size of his veg and what he has planted. Isn't that what you do for your partner?

Serialweightwatcher · 27/07/2017 20:04

He wants to share it with you and he's proud - try to be interested for 5 mins and be polite - poor man

AuntieStella · 27/07/2017 20:11

"He wants to share it with you and he's proud - try to be interested for 5 mins and be polite - poor man"

Not poor man.

Yes, Fitbitaddict should fake an interest. But not until he's reciprocating. "he replied that when I talk it's "just noise""

Just Not On

Fitbit - if your username reflects your life, then perhaps you're quite fit anyhow. Best revenge might be to run faster than him

Pannnn · 27/07/2017 20:12

You should say "23 mins for 5km? What happened, did you get lost? Or injured?"

HumphreyCobblers · 27/07/2017 20:15

I was feeling sympathetic to your DH until I read the 'it's just noise' comment.

He can bore off.

Pannnn · 27/07/2017 20:17

Missed the 'its just noise' comment.

That is deeply disrespectful and offensive - you don't say that to anyone least of all your loved one.
He is an utter arse.

OCSockOrphanage · 27/07/2017 20:35

Running is dull. It's just about compensating for the dullness.

OCSockOrphanage · 27/07/2017 20:39

Most exercise is dull. It's all about how you use your fitness that counts. If your only measure is how far how fast then it's not of interest to non runners IMVHO.

OCSockOrphanage · 27/07/2017 20:42

I. Do. Not. Give. A. Moment to care. There are more important things.

OCSockOrphanage · 27/07/2017 20:45

It is good for the body though; everyone should take exercise.

timeisnotaline · 27/07/2017 20:49

Given the 'just noise' I'd say 'what was that?' And 20 mins later - did the you not go for a run today dh? You haven't mentioned it?

trqintracks · 27/07/2017 20:52

I am a running bore.
But I am interested in other people's running times/laps/distances. Blush

fluffmonkey1980 · 27/07/2017 20:54

Sometimes people find motivation in telling others what they have achieved, although I suppose it can become quite tedious, and I'd say I am guilty of that at times.... but a little. Well done that's amazing takes what, 2/3 seconds :)