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greylove · 27/07/2017 10:23

Went to a LloydsPharmacy asked for a consultation pharmacist came into the room sat down how can I help you I asked for the morning after pill she said I am to busy I have to fill out paperwork go somewhere else what Bothered me most is until she found out she was polite what it was for she looked at me like I was vile
It made me feel so judged

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Gileswithachainsaw · 27/07/2017 10:25


That's outrageous. Complain!!

They have no idea why you needed it.


JuicyStrawberry · 27/07/2017 10:25

That's horrendous customer service. You should complain!
How old are you op? If you're young she's probably the type to look down on you because of your age.


PaulAnkaTheDog · 27/07/2017 10:25

That is shocking! I agree with Giles, complain!


Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/07/2017 10:27

Good God how fucking rude.
I hope you're putting a complaint Into head office.
If they don't like giving out the MAP. They shouldn't be supplying it.
Their job is neither to condemn or condone.


catlover1987 · 27/07/2017 10:28

That's awful. I worked in a lloyds when I was a student and the pharmacist was an absolute cow, so it doesn't surprise me, but still horrible nonetheless. Did you manage to find somewhere else OP?


Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/07/2017 10:30

I'd go to the press as well and make a right cunt out of them.
People need to learn they can't speak to people and treat them anyway they like.


SheSaidHeSaid · 27/07/2017 10:32

Complain! Sounds like their own views are preventing them from doing their job.



KimmySchmidt1 · 27/07/2017 10:32

was she, by any chance, a religious person???

pharmacists get paid in part from your tax, they have no right to refuse treatment on grounds of paperwork.

Next time take a photo and say you are going to write a letter about her to that group of Labour MPs who made Boots' lives a misery.


Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/07/2017 10:37

If she is is Religious and against contraception. Perhaps she's in the wrong job.
You have to keep your opinions out of it. Its called being professional.


agnes2016 · 27/07/2017 10:37

😧 that is truly shocking.


Spikeyball · 27/07/2017 10:38

Complain, that is unacceptable. If it really was the case of a long wait, she should have given you an approximate waiting time and suggested another pharmacy if you didn't want to wait that long.


witchofzog · 27/07/2017 10:38

Wtf? Complain definitely


Waddlelikeapenguin · 27/07/2017 10:40

Hope you got MAP easily from someone polite/kind.


ragdoll700 · 27/07/2017 11:03

Thats horrible I would definitely complain in your shoes.


Bluntness100 · 27/07/2017 11:11

This isn't ok. I would complain to head office also.

I had this with a gp years ago, I asked for the pill and he gave me a lecture about sex before marriage and how God wouldn't like it. He said he would prescribe if I insisted but he'd really rather not. I didn't feel judged though, it was the opposite, I judged him, and not in a good way. And yes I had him prescribe it, before giving him this look Hmm and leaving.

In the same vein, the issue was hers and not yours.


lanouvelleheloise · 27/07/2017 11:15

Definitely complain!

I have a story that takes the biscuit on this. I have had very few sexual partners in my life, having been in two long term relationships. When I first got with DH we had a pack of condoms that was faulty. The first time it happened, I thought it was one of those rare one-offs - I had literally never had it happen before. The second time, I realised it must be a fault with the batch. I had to get the morning after pill on both occasions, and I went to a clinic in the hospital for this purpose. When I went the second time, a male nurse was filling in the paperwork and when I said it was the second time I'd had it in a relatively short period he actually said "Oh you Newcastle* girls" with an eyeroll that plainly said "Slapper!" I was SO humiliated and offended. I complained but never heard a thing back from the hospital.

*It wasn't Newcastle -have changed the name of the city!


greylove · 27/07/2017 21:08

I am 32 married wearing my wedding ring I have one DD 1 and had a miscarriage 4 months ago so when our condom failed I wanted to protect myself from another pregnancy as I am not ready
The female pharmacist was wearing a cross
I am religious but I am into been sensible kind and I do believe in women and men using contraceptives I am going to make a complaint as I feel that anyone asking for help should not be treated badly I went to another chemist Murrays and was treated very well Smile

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Awwlookatmybabyspider · 27/07/2017 21:26

Thanks for the update.
Glad you got it sorted.
pleased you're going to complain. There are too many impeccably mannered people on the dole. Who'd be Glad of the job.
Sorry for your loss Flowers


Waddlelikeapenguin · 27/07/2017 21:36

So glad you were treated well elsewhere & good for you for complaining Flowers you may save someone from similar horrible treatment who wouldnt have the strength to go elsewhere Flowers


Gileswithachainsaw · 27/07/2017 21:41

Glad you got what you needed. And good on you for making a complaint!!! Star

She got lucky that time, you felt able to go somewhere else and you have a supportive dh. The next poor vulnerable woman may not.

So very sorry for your loss Flowers


StillDrivingMeBonkers · 27/07/2017 21:49

Can you report people for 'looking at you all funny' ?


FadedRed · 27/07/2017 21:57

Also consider sending a copy of your complaint to the Medicines Management Team at your local Clinical Commissioning Group.


adifferentnameforthis · 27/07/2017 22:52

I've had 2 boots Pharmacist refuse to give me MOP because of their religious beliefs. I cannot believe this is possible in the UK but it is


seven201 · 27/07/2017 22:59

Definitely complain. That's unbelievable!


Gileswithachainsaw · 27/07/2017 23:07

I've had 2 boots Pharmacist refuse to give me MOP because of their religious beliefs. I cannot believe this is possible in the UK but it is


I can semi understand why a person as an individual doesn't want to prescribe it. However surely they have a duty to do so as the decision has been made by the person who matters most. Or at the very least they should instantly get you a member of staff who can.

Outright refusal is disgusting.

Quite frankly though I think something needs to be signed when they take the job because of the very obvious reasons someone will need this vital medication no questions asked. Because the alternative doesn't bare thinking about

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