About this woman

[Dancingfairy]

A few months back when I was heavily pregnant, I was on the bus, sat down in the priority seats, I wasn't in the first set of seats and there was a few people infront of me. A man with crutches got on and a few of the people at the front didn't move and someone behind me gave up their seat for him, anyway this woman on the bus went to her friend "see I told you she wouldn't!" And gave me a dirty look, anyway she seems to live local to me as I've seen her a lot on the bus route since and she's now always being nasty when she sees me.
It started off as tutting loudly and shaking her head at me when I walked past but today I was on the bus with my son and baby, she got on and sat a few seats infront. I hadn't even noticed her, however when she got off she walked past me and loudly said "disgusting" is there anything I can do about this? I ignore her but it's starting to get to me now.

OP,. Are you very young, or do you look very young? When my children were small I occasionally came across people like this, and they seemed to think it was okay to be obnoxious to me because they thought I was a schoolgirl mother. I wasn't, not that it would have been acceptable if I was. I just wouldn't deed because of the 'disgusting' comment.

Wondered, not wouldn't deed

Speak loudly and clearly to your children about manners and how sad it is that bullies can be ladies in their sixties as well as school children.

so not sure why she targetted me

Bet you were the youngest person in the priority seats.

It's probably because you're one of those millenniums!

I sat near a couple of older women who were SLATING a young mum sat further up (but quietly so she couldn't hear) about how she "had to have" a fancy phone and when her children were small she didn't have mobile phones etc etc and other millenium bashing
(we could not see the quality of her phone from where we were sat BTW)

Sorry to read you are experiencing this behaviour, she's bang out of order.
I commute by bus and have done for years and you do hear some things being said and I've gauged over the years from lets say a certain generation of women that pregnancy isn't an illness and buses are cluttered with prams and in their day they walked etc...and this is why so many young ones today are over weight blah blah...
I wonder if this is of her thinking and you being pregnant doesn't mean you cant stand up, so whilst her comments seem personal to you she may just be spouting her venom against the 'inferior' generation.
I would ignore unless it escalates, she obviously has issues, you probably aren't the only one she has taken against.

Hope this doesn't send this thread down another road but I feel strongly that women should at least try to be supportive of each other. So you have have your hands full with small child and baby and she is still tutting at you trying to navigate a bus journey. This is just horrible, nasty and unkind. Even if you assume that someone else might have had a worse day than this can't be the case as she is being consistently horrible. I am really sorry she was horrible to you. Bitter and twisted of wherever god please don't let me get like that.

I remember a couple of women being really nasty about me using the wheelchair and buggy space for my double buggy, with a baby and a toddler, when there was not a wheelchair requiring use of the space. I had politely asked someone else to move to a nearby seat, so I could get in and one of the women started a row with me. I stood up for myself.

A few months ago the other woman boasted to a friend of mine that she had caused me grief on the bus by blocking the space. My children are now nearly 12 and nearly 11. My friend told her she was a sad old bitch for doing it in the first place and even sadder for boasting about it all these years later.

Funny, my nearly 12 year old is quite loud and takes great delight in saying 'Oh, that was the lady who was nasty to you when we were babies, isn't it?'.

How you respond is up to you, but I quite like the 'Do I know you?', as though you do not have a clue what her problem is, after all, you don't really!

I would say whack her on the head with a large wet umbrella but it would be assault and there would be witnesses. So continue to ignore her.

Can we please proceed carefully with assuming this is an age related thing. Older people who are arseholes were doubtless also arseholes when bright young things in their twenties and thirties. It really has bugger all to do with age

I'd have to ask her wtf her problem is...but that's just how I am, if you're not that sort of person just ignore her...it's a horrible situation for you, could a friend get the bus with you one day and sit nearby just to observe, maybe a fresh pair of eyes might be able to cast some light on this weird situation

I see this thread is attracting a good bit of casual ageism.

Don't they always ilovesooty (sighs)

Credit to the OP though - she didn't try and attribute it to the woman's age

I don't want this to turn into ageist bashing, my sympathies are totally with the OP and clearly the anxiety this person ( probably unknowingly has caused) whatever the persons age she probably has a reason for being this way maybe couldn't have kids or was treated or horribly or had 14 kids and hated every minute of it. Who knows?! We are all allowed an off day but this is plain nasty. I'm sorry for you OP.

I imagine Donald Trump was a right twat in his 20s and 30s attempting to
Lighten the mood.

Agreed hmc

It's not the fault of the OP.

Smile and wave at her.

I always use this tactic, and I swear it works wonders. It REALLY pisses people off and they will make a point of leaving you alone because they don't want to be pissed off again.

poweredbybread - pretty sure that he was

Yes ! Smile and wave! Brilliant ! That should do it !

Tell her you're pregnant and so entitled to a priority seat and can she kindly stfu