To ask your advice/thoughts on carrying on after 2 miscarriages

[anxiouscrazycatlady]

I've had two missed miscarriages this year and feeling utterly deflated. Both times it's been around the 8 week mark and I've had an ERPC both times as well. In my worrier mind I think it's something wrong with me as the exact same thing has happened both times at the same point, so very very wary of trying again. I've ordered It Started With an Egg (although have heard mixed reviews of this) and we plan to have a couple of months off to (try to) relax and work out what we do next.
Right now my thoughts are to go to an adoption information evening to see if that would be something we would be interested. Alternatively we could just keep trying until I have a potential 3rd miscarriage and then get tests done. Or we could pay for private tests now, but I've spoken to a number of doctors about this already and they basically say it's a waste of time and often nothing is found and "it's just one of those things."
Or we could accept that maybe children aren't meant to be for us. I remember reading a thread on here a little while ago about if people were happy without children but I couldn't find it.
Has anyone experienced anything similar or just want to give me your general thoughts on keeping trying/adoption/choosing not to have children??

[NEmum]

Within 9 months I had three pregnancies, 2x MMC & one successful full term. It's devastating but there is hope

I took baby aspirin (not prescribed but in agreement with my midwife), I have no idea if it helped but it didn't harm. I have a very healthy & happy baby now. Good luck x

[Lottie2shoes]

Don't feel deflated. I had 3 miscarriages although not recurrent. I had a baby in between. During the first miscarriages, i felt the same as you and then for the last 1 i thought I'd never have a sibling for my dc1. But thankfully they have 3 siblings )finally!).
I bleed in every pregnancy so even the successful pregnancies were filled with paranoia and anxiety. But they are here. So it can happen for you yet! Hopefully you will have good news in your next one.

[anxiouscrazycatlady]

I was thinking of trying the baby aspirin but after my bleed the consultant said it might not be the best idea as aspirin thins the blood and may cause another bleed?

I've been thinking of trying acupuncture as well, even though needles scare me! I've tried a few other things, including reiki and hypnotherapy. I know stress doesn't help pregnancies (I'm quite a stressed person at the best of times) but I can't imagine it would actually cause miscarriages? I know it's awful to say, but people have given birth in incredibly stressful situations such as in concentration camps and recovering from awful abuse.

Thank you so much for the link ohbigdaddio, I will have a read through that now.

[Whatsername17]

I'm so sorry for all of the losses on this thread. I've had a mmc too. Also had a chemical. My b9dy doesn't cope with pregnancy well. I have a clotting issue and my bp seems to become high despite being slim and otherwise healthy. Baby aspirin was prescribed and made a massive difference. My consultant said that new research indicated that baby aspirin was the new 'wonder drug' for women suffering reoccurent mc. It might be worth researching into? It was a passing comment by my consultant so I can't offer any more information but it might be something you could look into?

[Picoloangel]

Hi OP

I think my tests involved 2 visits and 2 Consultations but the hospital is a v v short walk from Paddington and it maybe that the Consultations etc could be done via Skype. Honestly I cannot speak highly enough of them. People often want Prof Regan but there are other equally good Consultants with shorter lists. I saw Mr Rai. He will tell you that most couples want a reason but the best scenario is actually to find nothing is wrong in a way.
It's 9 yrs since I had my tests so research etc has probably moved on. It wasn't just taking 1/2 an aspirin for me, they also did more detailed scans etc to make sure the blood clotting wasn't stopping blood supply to DD. It is an awesome place and I am grateful every single day for DD. They get that pregnancy is v v anxiety provoking for women who have lost babies and are v v supportive and kind.i could wax lyrical all night!

It didn't help me to think of previous MMC as "abnormal" - they weren't; it was my blood issues - but I look at DD and think if I hadn't had the MMC I might not have had her and she is my complete joy.

Good luck OP and don't give up xx

[GreyCloudsToday]

Make sure to get your thyroid checked as this can be a cause for recurrent mcs. I'm crossing everything for you.

[Nectarines]

Where I work, there are six mums. Of these six, four of us have suffered miscarriage. Just to give an example of how common it is.

Personally, I've had four pregnancies. All four have begun in the same way, with bleeding, cramping, anxiety... the first two ended in mmc with subsequent treatment. Three and four resulted in my lovely children.

Keep trying. The pain will heal.

[Nectarines]

Oh and just to add, I also took baby aspirin in my successful pregnancies.

[EchoesOfLeon]

Another one here who took baby aspirin on the advice of my consultant after two MC. He also prescribed progesterone pessaries until 12 weeks. No tests done as my MC were for two different reasons (one chromosomal abnormality and one blighted ovum).
My consultant said the the aspirin and progesterone weren't guaranteed but in his view were worth trying. My third pregnancy resulted in my DD.

I too considered giving up after MC 2 but decided one more try before having tests and I'm very glad I did. Good luck whatever you decid to do

[Iggi999]

In terms of your original question, 2 mcs really is nothing.

[GoodLuckTime]

In early miscarriage The bleeding is generally triggered but flatlining or falling hcg, the pregnancy hormone. This causes progesterone to fall and bleeding to start.


I have chronic low progesterone triggered by the mini pill Cerazette. With my first DD progesterone supplements to test day we're all, that was needed. After that the pregnancy supported itself.

Now I am on high dose injectable progesterone, but that won't keep an embryo developing and giving off hcg if it's not going to