Would I be awful to do this?

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My inlaws have offered to take my four year old away for three night to a caravan. The site is about a 2 hour drive from where we live. Also going would be my sister in law and neice, the neice can be a bit mean to my son at tiles but my inlaws keep this in check.
My husband and I though it would be a great for DS to do this as he adores his grandparents so said yes.
My mum who can be a bit jealous of my inlaws (for not reason as my Ds is close to her as well and we see them just as much and have been on holiday with my parent recently) has said he is too small and we would be awful parents to allow this and we would seriously go down in her estimation if we allowed this. She also sees niece as a bit of a devil child and is convince she would try to hurt Ds and says on my head be it
So basicly would i be wrong to allow Ds to go away with his grandparents

No, he'd probably have a grand time.

Sorry re the typos that was an awful peice of typing

She is BU.

If you think he'd enjoy it there's absolutely nothing wrong with it.

She's just jealous.

Nope not wrong at all- I suspect your mums comments are probably coming from a place of jealousy

Not UR at all if you think he'd enjoy it!

Why do you need the input from your mum? You're the parent; decide for yourself!

Great amount of time. It's jealousy talking. Don't discuss it with her further.

My Ds has spend three nights at his grandparents before while DH and I went away and my mum tried to make me feel guilty over that.
She is off the thought of you should always take your children with you when you go away and they should not go away with out you.

My mum has had him overnight once since he was born as we were at a wedding and she was ringing us at nine demanding that we come home as Ds was missing us, He was fine and made a fuss about us taking him home

DS went away for a week with his Godparents to Spain - they met my parents over there - when he was 2. He had a fabulous time!

I think it's a really positive thing for children to get used to being away from their parents for spells - probably because I was rushed in to hospital when DS was just 14 months old, and being away from me was nothing like as traumatic as it might have been, had he not had the odd night away beforehand.

You know your child.

I used to go away with my grandparents at that age. Loved it! They even took me and my sister abroad once.

How old is the niece?

Your mum needs to grow up and put ds's happiness first. She sounds selfish and hard work

Nope - and I think you know she has another motive for saying this won't work...

No.
It sounds like you've assessed it - he adores his grandparents, niece can be a bit of a bully but it's kept in check. Also, he's 4 not 4 days old, he'll love the adventure of a caravan break.
Your Mum sounds jealous that he's going away with the in-laws tbh.

I know I am the parent I just wanted to ask other parents if in their opinions it is ok to do this.
My mum is hard work and I feel I owe her a lot as I was very ill as a child and teenager and she gave up study and work to care for me

My dd started staying with grandparents when she was four and her brother now goes too. They go mon- fri during the summer holidays and they love it!

Just tell your mum that you've had a quiet word with in-laws about keeping an eye on niece/son together.

If she continues, remind her how hurtful it would be if MIL vetoed DS going somewhere with her.

Doesn't sound unreasonable to me. If you're happy the in-laws will keep niece in check and happy that DS will be ok without you and DH for a few days then why not. Enjoy your time to yourselves.

My niece is 8

Your DM sounds a right dog in the manger.
Ignore her.

My neice has never hurt him, she found it quite hard when Ds came along as she was suddenly having to share her grandparents. She losing patience with DS very easily and can snap by having a tamtrum or storming off, or snaching but has never lashed out physically

Yes what shockers said! How would your mum feel if your MIL told your DH she thought your DS shouldn't be spending time with your mum?!

My mum is hard work. She is never satisfied. I actually avoid her coming round to our house now as she always finds something to pick over. I usually keep my cool to avoid my lovely dad getting it in the neck

I have a 4 year old son who has just started sleeping over with family. He loves this and I'm sure your son will too. Not to mention how good it is for him to build these relationships without mum always present. Plus it's not too far if you have to pick him up. It sounds as if your in laws are really thinking of him and keen to show him a good time. I'm sorry but your mum sounds so doom & gloom. Don't hold him back because of her views that would be really unfair.

I did not see her for a month last year as DH had to come out of work as he had a breakdown and her thoughts was he should man up and provide for the family. She finally apologised and we have rebuilt a bit of trust from there.