Would I be awful to do this?

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My inlaws have offered to take my four year old away for three night to a caravan. The site is about a 2 hour drive from where we live. Also going would be my sister in law and neice, the neice can be a bit mean to my son at tiles but my inlaws keep this in check.
My husband and I though it would be a great for DS to do this as he adores his grandparents so said yes.
My mum who can be a bit jealous of my inlaws (for not reason as my Ds is close to her as well and we see them just as much and have been on holiday with my parent recently) has said he is too small and we would be awful parents to allow this and we would seriously go down in her estimation if we allowed this. She also sees niece as a bit of a devil child and is convince she would try to hurt Ds and says on my head be it
So basicly would i be wrong to allow Ds to go away with his grandparents

DH has already said if Ds hates it or does not settle he will be straight in the car to get him.

As I said I put up with a lot for my dad who used to stand up for me against her but has sadly started with dementure

Who's child is this? It is nothing to do with her. Your dc will have a great time. If you start pandering to her, it puts her in control. Your child, your rules and if this reduces your standing in her estimation then so be it. It is not like you are sending your dc to a crack den!

Your Mum sounds extremely critical of your family and your decisions. I think it's lovely that your in laws want to include your son on a little holiday. From what you've said about her criticising your husband I would think you really need find the strength to completely stand up to her. I can appreciate your feelings towards your Dad but you really do not need anyone threatening the happiness of your family and most of all your son.

We went on holiday to France with my mum and dad last yr, it was me, she, dd1, dd2, dm, df and my 3yr old nephew. We had a brilliant time nephew loved it...so much so we are going away again this yr(staying in wales this time, nothing to do with Taking nephew with us).

It's essential family bonding time, let him go and don't feel guilty. Nothing wrong with it as all.

My DS will have just turned 4 when he goes to Florida for two weeks with my sister, he's always stayed over since 18 months at least once a week maybe twice, tell her to butt out

I think it is really important that you allow your child to bond well with other loving adults in your family.

You never know when you might suddenly need someone to step in and cover for some emergency and it is so much better for a child not to have to deal with a new separation during a life event!

How lovely to have grandparents able to do this.

My neice has never hurt him, she found it quite hard when Ds came along as she was suddenly having to share her grandparents. She losing patience with DS very easily and can snap by having a tamtrum or storming off, or snaching but has never lashed out physically

Sounds like perfectly normal sibling-type behaviour. I'm sure the GP can handle it. With a bit of luck, some time together will help your DNiece get used to DS. At worst, he has a stroppy 8yo around for 3 days - where's the harm?

I think your DA would have a fab time. From being about 3 DS1 went away for a few days with my DM/DP and sometimes DSis and then DN when he came along. They had a wonderful time and it was much harder for me than it was for him. I feel sorry for DS2 as he hasn't had that as by the time he was born my parents and 4 grandchildren so he didn't get taken away.

I remember fondly holidays with my DGP particularly the year I was 4 and we went to Jersey whilst my DM was heavily pregnant with my DBro.

Your DM has issues, you can't fix them sadly.
Just let your DS go on holiday, with people who love him.He will have a great time ! If there happens to be a problem, your DH will go and collect him. It's a win, win situation.

I think it sounds like a wonderful idea. It's lovely when grandchildren and grandparents can spend time together like this.

It also helps your child get used to the idea of being away from you; something that everyone should get used to at some point. Better to do it now in a relaxed, controlled, environment, than during some sort of emergency/crisis when emotions are running high.