So today my son was being difficult about going out, as he always is, and my dp got in a mood with him, shouted "fuck it, I'm done!" And stormed off and slammed the door. He then proceeded to lie on the bed crying. Now, I'm a stay at home mum right now, and I deal with this behaviour a lot from my son. He's 4, he was delayed on his speech and it had geld him back a bit, he's pretty much caught up now, but seems to be going through a bit of a phase of frustration and tantrums . I have a shit time getting him to do anything at the mo, he doesn't listen to me. He's so stubborn as well. So I find taking him out difficult, Getting him dressed difficult, teeth, bath, etc. Everything. He also constantly goes "mum mum mum mum mum mum mum " all day long (I know it'll pass). When I get frustrated my dp just waves it off as "4 year old being a 4 year old." But he doesn't have to deal with it all the time. I keep telling him I get this all the time but he doesn't really seem to understand. When hrs home he can barely stand 5 minutes of it before getting in a strop. So when it kicked off today I gently reminded him that I deal with this every day, and he starts whining that I'm trying to pick an argument etc.
He's always complaining he doesn't have enough down time. When he's home he literally just sits on his arse all day doing nothing. He does no cleaning, cooking. He barely helps me out with son. I do it all. And he has the audacity to complain if I didn't wash the right t shirt or whatever. He works shifts and long hours (which he gets up at 5am for, and who has to get up too to make his lunch and iron his uniform? Me. I suggested he do it the night before but turns around with the excuse that he'll need help getting ready, wants a cup of tea, son will only get up because we are. Son only gets up because he's so loud), so I don't mind having to do most things then, but when he's home it just pisses me off. To top it all off he's always complaining about work. With no real reason. Also when hes home he'll "nip out quick " and will be gone hours. Even if it means it'll be passed dinner time when he gets back.
He just constantly complains, and I've had enough :( if I try and bring up what's bothering me he gets his knickers in a twist and cries going, "oh I'm a shit dad/partner" some days he'll just nit pick every single thing I do.
Sorry for the long post. I'm just tired, have s pounding headache, stressed, and just wanting a rant. And tbh there's a lot more to it, I just can't think straight right now