AIBU not to apply for jobs because I can't cope with rejection?

[justwanttodriveanddrive]

It's a bit silly I know.

Have been doing temporary work for a while now and applying for permanent jobs is getting harder and harder as they clearly wonder (but don't ask) why I'm in temporary positions.

I just find it so hard to cope with hours of applications, preparing for interview, losing money when i take a day off work for interview then at the end a brusque phone call.

It has a really negative effect on me psychologically and I find myself feeling so low after rejections.

What is the alternative to not applying for jobs?

So you're just going to do nothing for the rest of your life????

Of course YABU. It's hard of course, but you have to keep plugging on.

And why do you think 'they' are clearly wondering why you're not in a permanent role? They may ask, but it's a perfectly normal question. You just say something like 'I'm keen to explore different work opportunities to find a career path that I can really commit to'.

Carry on doing what I'm doing I suppose.

The downsides are numerous

Not as much money
No career development
Not paid for holidays or sick days

It's horrid. But you still have to do it because one time they won't say no and then you can stop temping and have a proper job.

Twitter I did say I was working - that's not "doing nothing."

I think I just can't ever see them saying yes! There's always someone "better suited."

Yes it's silly, apply for jobs, get rejected, get over it!

I got rejected for a job last week which I could have done it in my sleep, ended up getting a better paid job with less hours later in the week. I was thrilled I hadn't wasted any time/effort on an interview for the original job.

Don't be discouraged and keep going, learning to live with rejection is an excellent life skill!

YANBU. I hate all the plugging away just to get zilch. I do an odd/niche part time job and I think employers who are offering jobs in more mainstream industries that do 9-5 just look at my CV. And discount me straight away.

Yes I do understand that. It's just that the application process is so lengthy and I inevitably am shortlisted for interview which means I lose a days pay attending the thing then just as inevitably it seems am rejected.

For what it's worth, when I was sifting through candidates, I wouldn't discount someone who had been temping a long time just because they had been temping a long time. In fact, I would give them credit for plugging away at it. Because I know what that is like from personal experience.

YABU

grow up

Job applications take hours and you get rejected 99% of the time.

That's adult life.

I'm shite at interviews.

I gave up on them a long time ago.

It's why I've been self employed for 15 tears years.

I don't think I need to grow up ... but er, thanks

Op. I'm very sorry but I do think you need to suck this up. We have all had to do it and may have to do it now or in the future.
Telling you to "grow up" may seem a bit blunt but you are not displaying a great deal of maturity if you think there is some magic way around this.
It is really hard refreshing your approach only to risk more rejection but that is the path I would suggest.

I wouldn't just say 'grow up', I was stuck in this state for YEARS despite doing great academically so I understand your fear of rejection. But I can tell you now, one day I decided not to think too much and just went for it, gave it 100% preparing for interviews while not entertaining my self doubt, and they became easier and easier, and now I am in a pretty good job. Go for it, OP. Believe in yourself, and there are many in our situations! Just do it! Best thing I ever did. Good luck!

Hey OP!

I find a lot of people's comments to be incredibly childish and massively hypocritical, they are telling you to grow up so flippantly without realising how childish they are sounding themselves. It's not quite as easy as that!

Keep going, only apply for jobs that you genuinely want rather than wasting a days pay for the interview for something that isn't really worth it. Having a job, all be it temporary is a great position to be in whilst job hunting.

I think you are being a little bit unfair but honestly I put that down to maybe a lack of self confidence. Completely natural to feel that way :) don't give up!!

It's galling and it's demoralising but you have to keep believing that the next one will be the one.

I'm in a job I love but in a very demoralising situation and have just had a second rejection and that job I'd have loved.

24 hours to sulk and tell myself they've just rejected the best person for the job(!) and then back on the websites......and find that better employer

Have been doing temporary work for a while now and applying for permanent jobs is getting harder and harder as they clearly wonder (but don't ask) why I'm in temporary positions.

Don't any of the temporary jobs lead to opportunities for something more permanent?

What area would you like to work in?

I think what people are missing is I am applying; I am trying!

But I feel so awful. I feel useless, crap, shit, on the scrap heap.

They aren't nice feelings to have.

I don't know Very - I'm having an existential crisis I think!

My problem is I just don't want to work any more. I just want to retire aged 38.

I realise I am zero help in motivating you on this thread!

Fuckin hell, 444. Don't beyond the joke with the compassion, now.

((((((((((((((((((((())))))))))))))))). Don't give up op. Something always comes up.

I think what people are missing is I am applying; I am trying!

Are you uptight at interviews?

I know exactly how you feel. The sting of rejection for a job you just know you could do. I have taken matters into my own hands and am now starting my own business. It is such a painful feeling to be repeatedly told no. I totally get where you are coming from. Take heart, whats meant for you wont go by you

Are there any opportunities around for you to do some volunteering- I know you are working really hard and feel really down- just suggesting you mix it up a bit and include unpaid volunteer work into your working pattern.
Animals? Nature? Eldercare?
On top of what you do now, say, at evenings or weekends.
It might lift your spirits and make you feel less worthless.
Or find someone to go on a ramble with. Change the scene, get some fresh air.
It's really hard when you feel in a slump.