Last time dp had contact with dss he came to us in shorts, t shirt and a thin hoody, with new trainers he couldn't walk properly in.
It was cold and rainy that day and we were walking around outside! In the end we had to change our plans and leave where we were early because dss was cold and miserable (understandably) and we didn't have anything else for him to wear. We don't really have much in the way of clothes for dss at ours as he doesn't stay overnight very often and when he does he always brings clothes with him. Dss' mother is very particular about what he wears and prefers him to be in brand name stuff.
We can't afford to buy the brand name stuff she likes but wibu to buy dss some cheap stuff from charity shops/Primani/TKmaxx to avoid him being cold and wet again in the future when he is with us? Dp says there is no point as if the stuff ends up going home with him (to be washed etc) she (dss' mother) will just throw it out. Tbf I do believe this given previous actions but I hope she won't! I do think it's worth the gamble to make sure dss is comfortable when he comes to us. Wibu to get him some stuff anyway or would that be treading on her toes or considered insulting if the stuff isn't 'good' enough?